Achieving goals doesn't guarantee lasting happiness, known as the happiness hangover.
Social comparisons impact happiness; prioritize connections, altruism, and gratitude for greater well-being.
Deep dives
The Paradox of Accomplishment and Happiness
Accomplishing significant goals or fulfilling desires often does not lead to lasting happiness. The podcast host reflects on feeling happier while pursuing goals compared to after achieving them, a phenomenon known as the happiness hangover. The speaker shares experiences of crashing emotionally after big accomplishments and questions why certain achievements do not always result in sustained happiness.
Insights from Monkey Economics
Lori Santos discusses her research involving monkeys and their economic decisions, revealing shared biases with humans such as focusing on gains and losses. Monkeys exhibited rational behavior like humans but also displayed irrational biases when comparing outcomes with others. This research highlights how social comparisons can impact happiness and well-being.
Strategies for Enhanced Happiness
Practical strategies for boosting happiness include prioritizing social connections, engaging in altruistic actions, and cultivating gratitude. Research indicates that individuals who focus on social interactions, altruism, and gratitude experience greater well-being. These behaviors not only enhance personal happiness but also contribute to overall life satisfaction.
Navigating Fresh Starts and Mental Well-being
Amid discussions on New Year's resolutions and the fresh start effect, the importance of setting meaningful goals and cultivating self-compassion is emphasized. The speaker suggests embracing small steps towards well-being that align with personal values, rather than succumbing to societal pressures or toxic positivity. Adopting a mindset of progress over perfection can lead to sustainable improvements in mental health.
The phrase “comparison is the thief of joy” might be the kind of cliche that makes you roll your eyes – and yet, it’s an idea that is, scientifically, pretty accurate. In today’s episode, psychologist Laurie Santos – a Yale professor and host of “The Happiness Lab” podcast – discusses some of the surprising evidence behind what does and doesn’t make us humans happy. Laurie also shares strategies on how to improve our well-being, discusses the irony behind “self-care”, and explains why happiness is often a journey not just within, but beyond, ourselves. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts
