The Science of Relationships: This Is Killing Your Relationship
Dec 12, 2023
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Renowned relationship experts, Drs. John and Julie Gottman discuss the scientific aspects of improving relationships and avoiding future trouble. They cover common relationship mistakes, differences between men and women, the importance of emotional closeness, the fight or flight response, state of the union meetings, having meaningful conversations, and the power of turning toward bids.
Investing in quality time and being considerate of our partners can build lasting bonds in relationships.
Understanding each other's needs, practicing empathy, and turning toward bids for connection can strengthen relationships.
Deep dives
The Importance of Pre-Ordering the Book and Exclusive Event
The speaker highlights the upcoming release of their book, Feel Good Productivity, and the availability of pre-orders. They offer a free live exclusive event for people who pre-order the book as a thank you to the community. The event will focus on annual planning, goal setting, and reflection.
Insights on Building Stronger Relationships
The podcast introduces experts Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, who discuss common mistakes made in relationships and provide evidence-based steps to strengthen them. They emphasize the importance of understanding each other's needs, avoiding criticism and contempt, practicing empathy, and turning toward bids for connection.
Tools for Relationship Improvement
The podcast introduces practical tools such as processing regrettable incidents, taking breaks during conflicts, and creating rituals of connection. It also discusses the importance of communication, appreciation, active listening, and honoring each other's dreams. The Love Prescription is mentioned, which offers a formula for improving relationships through daily practices over a week.
We tend to think that love and relationships occur naturally - you can't work on them or improve them because love is something outside of our control. But the truth is more scientific than that. It turns out that we can actually have a big impact on how our relationships work, and whether or not they fail. By being more considerate of our partners, and really investing in quality time together, we can build bonds that last a lifetime. In this bonus episode of Deep Dive, Drs John and Julie Gottman, world renowned relationship experts, talk you through some of the things you can do to make your relationship truly happy and fulfilling, and the red flags to look out for which could indicate future trouble. All of their advice is super actionable and I've found it very useful in my own relationship - enjoy!
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BONUS EPISODE (00:00) Intro (01:25) Common relationship mistakes (08:30) Why relationships fail (15:39) How to cool down from conflict (20:30) Tips for strengthening your relationship
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