John Gottman, a world-renowned relationship expert, shares invaluable insights on how to nurture and sustain healthy partnerships. He highlights common relationship mistakes and identifies the 'Four Horsemen' that threaten longevity. By emphasizing the physiological aspects of conflict, he explains stress management techniques to improve communication. Listeners will learn actionable tips, like the importance of intentional rituals and structured conversations, to enhance intimacy and strengthen emotional connections.
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Understanding Men
Women, understand that men often seek closeness through sex.
In 'Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love', John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman provide a step-by-step guide to help couples navigate the challenges of long-term commitment. Drawing from their extensive research at the Love Lab, the authors outline eight essential conversations that couples should have to build a strong and lasting relationship. Each date is designed to address a different critical topic, including trust, conflict, intimacy, finances, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. The book includes exercises, open-ended discussion questions, and suggestions for where to have these dates, aiming to foster deeper understanding, empathy, and connection between partners.
Feel-Good Productivity
How to Do More of What Matters to You
Ali Abdal
In 'Feel-Good Productivity,' Dr. Ali Abdaal challenges the conventional notion that productivity is about hard work and discipline. Instead, he argues that the secret to productivity is feeling good. Drawing on decades of psychological research, Abdaal introduces the three hidden 'energisers' that underpin enjoyable productivity, the three 'blockers' to overcome procrastination, and the three 'sustainers' to prevent burnout. The book includes inspiring stories from founders, Olympians, and Nobel-winning scientists and provides simple, actionable changes to make work more enjoyable and sustainable. Abdaal's approach focuses on cultivating a deeper energy for work, balancing well-being with productivity, and enjoying the journey.
The Love Prescription, Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy
Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy
John Gottman
Julie Schwartz Gottman
The Love Prescription distills the Gottmans’ life’s work into a bite-size, seven-day action plan with easy, immediately actionable steps. The book is based on 50 years of research on over three thousand couples, aiming to identify the building blocks of love and provide a scientific formula for a good relationship. It offers practical advice without requiring grand gestures or big conversations, making it accessible for anyone to start from any point.
How Not to Die
Michael Greger
Gene Stone
In *How Not to Die*, Dr. Michael Greger examines the top 15 causes of premature death in America, including heart disease, various cancers, diabetes, Parkinson's, and high blood pressure. He explains how nutritional and lifestyle interventions can often be more effective than pharmaceutical and surgical approaches in preventing and reversing these diseases. The book includes Dr. Greger's Daily Dozen, a checklist of foods to consume daily for maximum health benefits, and is backed by extensive scientific research and evidence.
We tend to think that love and relationships occur naturally - you can't work on them or improve them because love is something outside of our control. But the truth is more scientific than that. It turns out that we can actually have a big impact on how our relationships work, and whether or not they fail. By being more considerate of our partners, and really investing in quality time together, we can build bonds that last a lifetime. In this bonus episode of Deep Dive, Drs John and Julie Gottman, world renowned relationship experts, talk you through some of the things you can do to make your relationship truly happy and fulfilling, and the red flags to look out for which could indicate future trouble. All of their advice is super actionable and I've found it very useful in my own relationship - enjoy!
📚Check out my New York Times Bestselling book Feel-Good Productivity! Amazon Website
BONUS EPISODE (00:00) Intro (01:25) Common relationship mistakes (08:30) Why relationships fail (15:39) How to cool down from conflict (20:30) Tips for strengthening your relationship
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