The Kink Consultant

Samia Mounts, creator of ClosetEd who explores pansexuality, polyamory, and anonymous confessions. She recounts discovering she is wired for multiple loves. They discuss jealousy, boundaries versus control, transitioning a marriage into friendship, and negotiating new relationships with emotional maturity.

In this engaging discussion, Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, founders of the transformative Somatica Method, dive into the dynamics of intimacy. They explore how intimacy can be a learned skill rather than a daunting emotion. The duo highlights the importance of reducing shame and normalizing fantasies to foster deeper connections. They also share insights on the innovative Virgin Island project, which aims to educate young adults about intimacy through real experiences. If you’ve ever felt stuck in your relationships, this conversation is a must-listen!

Rena Martine, a former sex crimes prosecutor and now a women's intimacy coach, engages in a candid conversation about taboo topics. She unpacks DDLG dynamics and the emotional needs behind 'daddy' roles. Delving into the paradox of powerful women seeking submission, Rena highlights how survivors may use kink for healing and the importance of destigmatizing desires. She also distinguishes between innocence play and age play, challenging societal norms while encouraging listeners to reclaim their pleasure without shame.

You heard it here first: sex gets better as you age. Don’t believe me? Listen to this episode.I sit down with Susan Bratton, intimacy expert and sex educator, for a refreshing conversation about pleasure, confidence, and why desire does not have an expiration date. We talk about how so many people are taught to expect sex to fade over time, and why that belief is doing way more damage than aging ever could. Susan shares what actually helps couples stay curious, connected, and turned on long term, especially when shame and routine start creeping in. We also get into kink, power dynamics, and sexual longevity. Susan explains how confidence, embodiment, and caring for your body play a huge role in pleasure as you get older, and why performance-focused sex often gets in the way of real intimacy.This episode is permission-filled, honest, and surprisingly hopeful. If you want proof that your best sex might still be ahead of you, this conversation will absolutely change your mind.Episode Highlights: 00:00 Maintaining Sexual Health and Stamina25:53 Embracing Confidence and Sexuality27:43 Maintaining Sexual Health with Age29:43 The Role of Nitric Oxide30:48 The Benefits of Pumping32:20 Advanced Treatments for Sexual Health34:26 Red Light Therapy and LubricantsConnect with Susan Brattonhttps://betterlover.comhttps://getflowfree.comhttps://getglowbelow.comhttps://pumpingguide.comJoin the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreatGet your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlistConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

In this engaging discussion, Kristen Aut, an obsession coach and founder of New Badass You, explores the complexities of obsession and attachment. She reveals why trying to 'just get over it' is ineffective, emphasizing the role of the nervous system. Kristen shares personal stories of attachment and redefines obsession as a reflection of one's higher self. The conversation delves into communication, accountability in relationships, and the importance of intuition when navigating modern dating. Listeners gain valuable insights into managing desires with compassion.

Unleash your creativity with five quick and exciting BDSM scene ideas! Discover the thrill of voice-only commands for anticipation and connect through sensory deprivation using common household items. Explore playful punishment games that keep discipline fun, and dive into service rituals that reflect devotion and trust. Don’t miss the five-minute scene challenge for a memorable encounter! This podcast teaches you how to elevate your experiences without elaborate setups, focusing on energy and instinct instead.

Dr. Tara, a tenured professor of relational sexual communication and host of the Luvbites podcast, dives deep into the art of discussing sex and intimacy. She emphasizes the crucial role of emotional safety in communication and shares insights on overcoming shame in relationships. Dr. Tara reveals practical tips on navigating conversations about money and sex while discussing her own divorce experiences that shaped her empathy. With a focus on building clear, honest communication, she presents foundational tools from her book to enhance intimacy and connection.

One thing about kinky dating: it should not be this hard to find your people. Thankfully, BeeDee App exists and yes, I brought Pieter back on the podcast because a lot has happened since the first time he was here.In this episode, Pieter and I get into compatibility percentages, brat detection failures, monogamy filters, and why BeeDee is miles better than scrolling through FetLife hoping someone in your city is actually compatible. We also talk about BeeDee’s new features like incognito mode and travel mode, and the wild stats behind how many messages, matches, and relationships are happening because of this app. If you’ve ever wished kinky dating felt easier, more intentional, and way less chaotic, this episode is your permission slip to finally download the app, take the test, and meet people who actually match you inside and outside the bedroom.Episode Highlights: 00:00 Personal Experiences with BeeDee App13:24 The Origin Story of BeeDee App20:29 New Features and Updates on BeeDee App29:47 Upcoming Features on BeeDee AppDownload the BeeDee App https://web.beedee.app/Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/Sign-Up For the TCK Couples Retreat: https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlistConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠

"The number one thing about being a Dom is you need to have the best interest of the other person in mind.You cannot take advantage of the other person because of their submissive role."In this episode, we're continuing the conversation about finding Doms, and what actually makes a good one. Spoiler: it's not about being the strictest or the loudest, it's about showing up consistently, knowing when to admit you're wrong, and understanding that feelings can (and will) change how you play. We dive into what he's actually looking for in a submissive, how he deals with performance anxiety without spiraling, and why sometimes the best thing a Dom can do is pause the whole D/S dynamic.If you've been wondering what separates a good Dom from someone who just talks a big game, or you're trying to level up your own leadership without losing your mind, you'll definitely enjoy this episode.Episode Highlights: 00:00 Understanding the Dom-Sub Dynamic06:28 Educating Your Dom11:09 Consistency in Dom-Sub Relationships20:59 Support and Consistency in D/s Dynamics27:29 Spotting Submissive Tendencies38:42 Exploring New Dynamics TogetherSign-up for the Couples Retreat! For couples and curious duos ready to explore kink, deepen trust, and turn communication into connection. ⁠https://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist⁠Let’s take kink to the high seas! Join me at the Kinky Cruise at ⁠https://www.kinkycruise.com⁠ and use code TKC50 FOR $50 off per person.Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: ⁠https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/⁠Connect with Me: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠⁠

One of the questions I get constantly is, “Where can I find a Dom?”So in this episode, I sit down with my Dom to talk honestly about where real Doms come from, how he found the kink community, and what he actually looks for when choosing a submissive.In this episode, he shares how he found the kink community, what shaped the way he leads, and how our dynamic started long before either of us named it. We talk about emotional steadiness, consistency, red flags, green flags, and the difference between a man performing dominance and someone who can genuinely hold you. If you’ve ever wondered where to meet a Dom, how to choose one, or what a grounded power exchange feels like from the inside, this conversation gives you a clear, real-world look behind the scenes.Episode Highlights: 00:00 Discovering FetLife and Online Communities05:33 Learning and Growing as a Dom24:11 How We Actualy Me25:48 Advice for Subs and Doms in the Dating World33:59 The Importance of Communication and Flexibility36:16 Handling Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability40:06 Respecting Boundaries and InsecuritiesHow to Tell Your Partner Your Kink Join this 1-hr workshop and learn how to talk to your partner about your kink without shame, panic, or awkward silence https://www.amandadames.com/offers/GvipoKWe/checkoutLet’s take kink to the high seas! Join me at the Kinky Cruise at https://www.kinkycruise.com and use code TKC50 FOR $50 off per person.Check Out My Friday Vibe Series: https://thekinkconsultant.substack.com/Connect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠