The Kink Consultant

Larah Sky, a chastity-focused kink content creator and mentor, dives deep into the intriguing world of chastity challenges like Sexless September and Locktober. She reveals the strategies behind various chastity plans and why men are eager to participate. Larah shares tales of content platform challenges, including the chaos on OnlyFans and viral TikToks that boosted her success. With humor and expertise, Larah offers tips for newcomers and discusses balancing empathy with strictness as a dominant, making for a truly engaging conversation.

Miz Darling, a professional dominatrix and co-author of the upcoming book Complicated Pleasures, dives into the intriguing world of fetishes and kinks. She explains the difference between the two using a unique 'well vs. pond' metaphor and identifies common fetishes like spanking and foot worship. The conversation delves into how cultural changes influence fetish trends and discusses the importance of communication in relationships. Miz also reflects on her personal journey embracing sexuality and why her past marriage ended, offering insights into making fetish work within long-term love.

Get your kinky breakthrough in just 20 minutes. Book your call with The Kink Consultant here: https://www.amandadames.com/Episode 48 - If you’ve been on more first dates than you can count and you’re still single, chances are you’re making dating mistakes you didn’t even know about.In this episode, I sit down with Lana Ricco, host of the Dating Makeover show and podcast, to dig into the biggest dating mistakes that are quietly keeping people single. From chasing the wrong type of partner, to ignoring red and green flags around money, marriage, and family, Lana breaks down how to approach dating with clarity, strategy, and confidence.We talk about why men and women often marry for very different reasons, how to spot the difference between dominance and toxic “alpha” energy, and why your mindset going into a date matters just as much as your outfit. Lana also shares her own story of getting engaged within days of meeting her husband, and the key questions she asked up front that made the difference.If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns, avoid the traps that keep you stuck, and finally give your dating life a makeover, this conversation will show you where to begin.Episode Highlights: (00:00) The Concept of Dating Makeover(02:50) Insights on Men and Marriage(12:45) Understanding Dominance in Relationships(17:16) Understanding Submissiveness and Dominance(19:55) Cultural Differences in Relationships(23:19) Finding the Right Partner(30:52) Core Questions for Relationship Success(31:40) Knowing When You’re Ready to DateConnect with Lana Riccohttps://www.instagram.com/lana.ricco/https://www.youtube.com/@LanaRiccohttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dating-makeover-with-lana-ricco/id1819348183Connect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

This episode was recorded weeks before Koby passed. We’re sharing it with love and gratitude, in memory of him. It’s a chance to hear his voice, his story, and his spirit one more time.Episode 47 - In this episode, I get to talk to Koby Falks, adult performer, OnlyFans star, and live sex show headliner, to talk about what it’s like building a career that spans continents, from Australia to the UK and beyond.We get into the realities of performing live on stage, navigating the gay vs. straight OnlyFans markets, and why building a recognizable brand is the key to standing out. Koby also shares his experience on balancing relationships with a public sex work career, how kinks evolve over time, and why sexuality is always more fluid than labels suggest.If you’ve ever wanted the inside story of global content creation and what it really takes to build a career that lasts in this scene, this episode is for you.Episode Highlights: 00:51 Live Sex Shows in Australia05:00 Marketing and Networking in the Gay Community11:30 Maintaining a Business Relationship Post-Breakup22:01 Global Adventures in Filming24:49 Personal Kinks and Preferences30:21 The Dynamics of Sexuality34:18 Balancing Work and Personal Life

Join Pepper Kat, a creative powerhouse from the newsroom turned erotic content creator, as she discusses her journey into the world of sex work. She explores the intriguing rise of breeding kink and shares behind-the-scenes stories from her phone sex and camming experiences. Pepper delves into the strange requests she's received and emphasizes the diverse clientele behind sex work. With her unique background, she reveals how journalism skills enhance her storytelling-driven erotica, blurring the lines between business and pleasure.

Join Flora and Amanda as they dive into skincare tips specifically for impact play enthusiasts. Discover how to manage bruising, prevent hyperpigmentation, and maintain healthy skin. They share pre-and post-play routines that keep your skin soft and ready for action. Explore the emotional aftermath of big kink events and practical self-care tips to combat party drop. Plus, learn about the importance of hydration and accessible skincare products to ensure every cheek gets the TLC it deserves.

Mistress Verna, a retired professional dominatrix, shares her intriguing insights from years spent in a dungeon. She reflects on the complexities of client relationships, revealing emotional aftermath and unexpected confessions that often arose during sessions. Verna discusses how her work expanded her understanding of sexuality and boundaries, while also emphasizing the importance of consent and personal agency. Listeners gain a glimpse into the skills acquired through this unique profession and the deep connections made with clients over time.

Mistress Verna, a former professional dominatrix, shares her wild tales from the chaotic world of a New York City dungeon. She discusses the unexpected realities of client dynamics, including mind games and secret negotiations. Verna humorously recounts the hazing rituals and insider politics that shaped their working environment. From navigating safety protocols during police raids to maintaining privacy amidst gossip, she reveals that being a pro dom is about mastering boundaries and understanding power dynamics, not just fulfilling fantasies.

Episode 42 -Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with people we trust? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by Tess and Kels, co-founders of Squirm and co-hosts of the Porn Nerds podcast, to explore how we can make sex ed not just informative but also sexy, playful, and actually useful.We dive into their journey from coworkers to creative collaborators, their mission to destigmatize conversations about porn and desire, and how they built Squirm as a space where adult sex ed meets humor, eroticism, and real communication. From their audio course Oral Hygiene to their Get Squirmy card deck and live events, Tess and Kels are helping people go beyond shame and speak about sex with clarity, confidence, and creativity.Whether you’ve struggled to talk about what turns you on, want to bring more curiosity into your kink conversations, or simply wish porn had a better PR team, this episode will expand your vocabulary, your imagination, and your confidence in navigating communication around sex, BDSM, and desire.Get 20% off of the Get Squirmy Conversation Deck when you use the code: KINKCONSULTANThttps://www.getsquirmy.com/product-page/get-squirmyEpisode Highlights: 03:45 Introducing Squirm: Sex Ed for Adults06:32 The Concept of Sexy Sex Ed17:23 The Role of Porn in Sex Education21:52 Contextualizing Media and Reality25:20 Porn as a Tool for Sexual Exploration27:06 Navigating Sexual Communication36:45 Exploring the Get Squirmy EventsConnect with Tess and Kels https://linktr.ee/squirmConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

Join Aubrey Aust, a Master's student at NYU specializing in relational safety, as she dives into the world of power dynamics, attachment styles, and BDSM. Aubrey explains how kink can illuminate vulnerability and consent in ways mainstream relationships often overlook. She discusses the importance of curiosity in examining ingrained patterns, the role of somatic psychology in understanding our bodies' signals, and how negotiating power dynamics fosters safety. This conversation offers profound insights into building healthier connections and understanding our relational wiring.