The Kink Consultant

Join Candace and Derek as they dive into the wild world of swinging, discussing how it transformed their marriage. They tackle subjects like religious shame, self-discovery, and the evolution of their sexual identities. Communication shines as they share strategies for managing jealousy and setting boundaries. Experience the rollercoaster of their first swinger party, including the sensory overload and lessons on consent. This candid exploration reveals how swinging is an enriching addition, not a solution, to a strong relationship.

What actually happens when a long-term monogamous couple decides to explore the world of sex parties and kink for the very first time? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with married couple Derek and Candace, who share exactly what went down during their very first hotwife party weekend in Vegas. We talk about navigating consent, comfort, and connection in group play spaces, what makes or breaks a sex party vibe, and how Derek and Candace transitioned from a deeply monogamous marriage to a more open, exploratory dynamic. They also open up about what sparked their curiosity, what it’s like to play with others while staying emotionally connected as a couple, and how kink helped them redefine trust, intimacy, and their relationship to pleasure. We also dig into how emotional safety, exhibitionism, and even shared eye contact can be turn-ons in public play.If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to attend a sex party, open up your relationship, or explore kink for the first time with a partner, this episode offers a raw and relatable perspective. Tune in to hear how one spontaneous night helped spark a new era in their marriage and why connection, honesty, and curiosity matter more than any label.Episode Highlights: 00:39 Meeting at the Hot Wife Party05:45 Exploring the Playrooms13:45 How Derek and Candace Met20:09 Intentional Setup: Creating the Perfect Environment24:37 Reflecting on the Date: Rules and Realizations28:36 Exploring Kinks and Desires31:47 Candace's Porn AddictionConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

What happens when a sex educator builds a half-million-strong following by telling the unfiltered truth about kink, consent, and community?In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with the unapologetically brilliant Moxie Rose who is a TikTok creator and in-house educator at Shop Quinky. We get into what it means to lead with authenticity, hold ethical boundaries as an educator, and show up in kink spaces without shame.Moxie shares her journey from private in-person educator to public kink figure, including how “The Moxie” move went viral, what it’s really like teaching sex ed online, and the importance of rejecting pressure to "go harder" just to prove you're kinky enough. We also dive into her thoughts on power dynamics, teaching consent, fighting coercion in kink spaces, and building inclusive, trust-first communities. From munches to shop floors to massive online platforms, she’s seen it all—and she’s here to tell it like it is.Whether you're new to kink, building your community, or figuring out where you stand on power and play, this episode is packed with real talk and honest insight. Tune in for a raw, hilarious, and grounded conversation that will leave you smarter, safer, and ready to lead with intention.Episode Highlights: 04:01 The Moxie: A Unique Intimacy Technique06:34 The Importance of Ethical and Inclusive Education15:18 Building and Finding Good Communities18:47 Joining Mr. Pierre Fashion19:58 The Kink Community and Education20:38 Challenges with Selling Adult Products22:23 The Role of Education in Kink34:27 Importance of Boundaries and ConsentConnect with Moxiehttps://www.instagram.com/moxierosedances/https://shopquinky.com/Connect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

Luna Matatas, a Toronto-based sex and pleasure educator, shares expert tips on embracing dirty talk with confidence. She explores the common barriers to erotic communication and practical techniques to overcome them. Luna emphasizes the importance of connection through sensory details, tone, and playfulness in dirty talk. She also discusses balancing preferences in sexual relationships and the significance of body positivity in the pursuit of pleasure. Tune in for valuable insights into enhancing intimacy and fun in the bedroom!

Join Ben and Jas as they dive into the real ups and downs of sharing their relationship online. They discuss the importance of open communication and how emotional safety revolutionizes intimacy. Explore their 30 Days of Sex challenge that defined their bond, and how they handle feedback constructively. From navigating kinks to balancing their professional and personal lives, this candid conversation sheds light on the complexities of modern relationships. Get ready for laughs, vulnerability, and actionable insights that will inspire you to deepen your connections!

Nik the Forge Bear, an audio erotica creator and educator, dives into the transformative power of storytelling in intimacy and kink. He shares insights from his psychology background and highlights the importance of consent and emotional care in relationships. Discussing challenges in digital sex education, Nik critiques performative dominance while emphasizing the need for trust and communication with play partners. He offers advice for beginners on safe words, aftercare, and the gradual exploration of kink, making this a must-listen for anyone curious about deeper connections.

What if the parts of you you’ve been told to suppress are actually your most authentic self? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dove from @littlespaces.co to explore what it really means to be a little—from discovering the dynamic through romance novels to navigating shame, connection, and kink identity. Whether you’re new to the world of caregiver/little dynamics or curious about exploring it on your own, Dove’s story offers a rare blend of vulnerability and wisdom.We get into the difference between little space and age play, what it’s like to access little space solo, and how emotional safety, consent, and presence play a huge role in kink-informed relationships. Dove shares the beauty of the caregiver/little dynamic, how she reconnected with her now-daddy dom partner, and what it means to explore vulnerability as a source of joy, not shame. We also talk about representation, personal growth, and how labels like “little” and “middle” are just tools—not boxes—to help us connect more deeply with ourselves and others.If you’ve ever felt the pull to explore this part of yourself, or you’re just curious about the emotional side of kink, this episode is your permission slip to lean in. Tune in for a powerful, tender, and deeply validating conversation about kink, identity, and reclaiming your inner softness.Episode Highlights: 01:19 Dove's Journey into Littlespace04:49 Understanding Littlespace and Age Play12:19 Exploring Littlespace Alone and with a Partner21:29 Finding Community and Support28:08 Navigating Consent and Misconceptions30:29 Vetting Potential Partners34:01 Advice for New Littles38:52 Exploring Middle SpaceCheckout The Little Spaceshttps://littlespaces.co/https://www.instagram.com/littlespaces.co/https://payhip.com/littlespacesConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

Emma Xin Velicky, the founder of Saturday Box, shares her journey from a conservative upbringing to creating immersive roleplay kits for couples. She explores how storytelling and game design merge to craft playful experiences that ease newcomers into kink. Emma reframes dominance, emphasizing presence and emotional safety rather than control. The episode highlights strategies for enhancing intimacy, customizing scenes, and normalizing kink through education. If you're looking to spice up your relationship with fun, safe adventures, this conversation is a must-listen!

Saniyyah Lateef, a curator for Make Love Not Porn and a passionate sex educator, discusses the transformative power of realistic intimacy in adult content. She explains how MLNP challenges stereotypes found in mainstream porn by showcasing authentic, consensual experiences. Saniyyah emphasizes the importance of comprehensive sex education and teaching consent from a young age. Listeners will also learn about the roles curators play in maintaining ethical standards and how MLNP fosters a safe space for diverse sexual expressions.

What do thirst traps, TikTok bans, and Daddy Dom dynamics have in common? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dilly from @TheLifeofDillyy to talk about his journey from pec-popping TikToker to full-time content creator with a kinky twist. We get into the sensual (and hilarious) evolution of his online presence—and how stepping into his dominant energy opened the door to deeper connection, both on and offline.We explore what it means to be a “pleasure dom,” the unexpected emotional impact of kink-informed relationships, and why communication—yes, even post-nut communication—is everything. Dilly shares how his past relationship introduced him to the daddy dom/little dynamic, how kink showed up in his love languages, and why even “entry-level” kink still requires serious consent and clarity. We also get into content creation, algorithm struggles, and the fine line between sexy and silly when you’re trying to grow an audience on platforms that love to censor.If you’re curious about what a soft-launch into kink can look like—or how to blend sensuality, humor, and dom energy into your personal brand—this episode is full of playful insight and real talk. Tune in for an open convo about dominance, desire, and learning what turns you (and your audience) on.Episode Highlights: 01:36 From TikTok Fame to OnlyFans06:18 Creating Viral Content13:58 Exploring Kink and Relationships15:12 Becoming a Daddy Dom22:27 Exploring Kinks and Roleplay22:56 Keeping the Spark Alive25:06 Communication in Kink33:52 Love Languages and ConnectionConnect with Dillyhttps://www.instagram.com/thelifeofdillyy/https://onlyfans.com/lifeofdillyhttps://x.com/thelifeofdillyConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.