The Kink Consultant Ep 43 - What It’s Really Like Working as a Professional Dom: Behind the Scenes with Mistress Verna Part 1
Jul 30, 2025
Mistress Verna, a former professional dominatrix, shares her wild tales from the chaotic world of a New York City dungeon. She discusses the unexpected realities of client dynamics, including mind games and secret negotiations. Verna humorously recounts the hazing rituals and insider politics that shaped their working environment. From navigating safety protocols during police raids to maintaining privacy amidst gossip, she reveals that being a pro dom is about mastering boundaries and understanding power dynamics, not just fulfilling fantasies.
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Formative Dungeon Friendships
- Amanda and Mistress Verna became close colleagues and roommates after long tenures at a NYC dungeon. They describe the unpredictable staff mix, from short-term social workers to career pros, and how turnover was rapid.
Decide Limits Before The Meet
- New entrants often underestimate the psychological complexity of sessions and the need to set limits fast. Mistress Verna says decide boundaries early because clients will ask unexpected things you must refuse decisively.
Limit Repeated Onboarding
- Teach newcomers the essentials once and expect them to retain it; avoid repeating the same onboarding multiple times. Protect veteran staff and the business by not oversharing operational or legal details with outsiders.