The Kink Consultant Sex Crimes Prosecutor Turned Women’s Intimacy Coach - A Conversation with Rena Martine
Jan 15, 2026
Rena Martine, a former sex crimes prosecutor and now a women's intimacy coach, engages in a candid conversation about taboo topics. She unpacks DDLG dynamics and the emotional needs behind 'daddy' roles. Delving into the paradox of powerful women seeking submission, Rena highlights how survivors may use kink for healing and the importance of destigmatizing desires. She also distinguishes between innocence play and age play, challenging societal norms while encouraging listeners to reclaim their pleasure without shame.
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Kink Sparked By Hidden Desire For Care
- Rena Martine discovered kink through films like Secretary and Belle de Jour which revealed hidden desires beneath a polished life.
- She realized her craving was not degradation but being cared for and relinquishing control after constant caretaking in her career.
Burnout From Sex Crimes Prosecution
- A jury verdict in a sex crimes case and pervasive bias pushed Rena to step away from prosecuting sex crimes.
- She later trained as a coach during the pandemic to help people heal in ways the legal system could not.
Trauma Can Drive Shame And Also Healing
- Shame around fantasies like being 'small' often comes from survivors themselves, not outsiders.
- Rena explains brains sometimes restage trauma with agency to process and reclaim control.
