Send us a textChrista Brown was sexually assaulted dozens of times by her youth pastor when she was 15. She was made to repent and apologize to his wife. The pastor just got moved around from church to church for decades. When Christa’s daughter reached the same age Christa was when she was assaulted, she went public—and started the movement to push the SBC towards accountability for the sexual abuse crisis in their midst. She’s written a memoir called BaptistLand, and today we talk about Christa’s fight—and how SBC megachurch pastors today are still demonizing “little girls” rather than holding men accountable. THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST: Pick up our Great Sex Rescue Tookit—to help start important conversations to those close to youTO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!IMPORTANT LINKS:Christa Brown’s book BaptistLandChrista on TwitterChrista on SubstackRead the Guideposts reportThe original Houston Chronicle articleNews article about the amicus brief filed by SBC entities AGAINST a sexual assault victimJosh Howerton sermon clipSee the documentary For Our DaughtersFollow the Sons of Patriarchy podcast about Doug Wilson on SpotifyJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Navigating the awkwardness of sexual education with kids is tough, but essential. The hosts share insights on developing effective programs that encourage open dialogues about sex and puberty. They highlight the need for comprehensive information to foster healthy family conversations. The discussion includes teaching boys and girls together, aiming to bridge communication gaps. Personal anecdotes illustrate the challenges of the 'sex talk.' Ultimately, they advocate for honest education to empower children as they grow.

Kristen Kobes Du Mez, an author and filmmaker known for her insights on gender and power in evangelical Christianity, discusses her documentary 'For Our Daughters.' She and Pastor Trey Ferguson, a theologian challenging traditional views on sex, explore how underlying beliefs in the church enable abuse. They address the objectification of women, emphasize the need for accountability, and critique the harmful narratives surrounding sexuality. Their conversation highlights the importance of healing and fostering safer religious communities.

Dr. Camden Morgante, a licensed psychologist and author of "Recovering from Purity Culture," delves into the myths of purity culture and its damaging effects. She discusses the emotional turmoil it causes, especially in relation to intimate relationships, and critiques how it manipulates women's sexuality. Camden emphasizes personal empowerment, the importance of healing trauma, and the necessity for open dialogue about sexuality. The conversation encourages self-reflection and reparenting as key steps toward recovery, offering tools and insights for moving beyond these harmful beliefs.

Send us a textEver heard the stat from “a recent study” that found that, when a husband comes to Christ first, in 93% of cases the wife and kids follow, but when the wife comes to Christ first, it’s only 17%? Today Beth Allison Barr and Miranda Zapor Cruz, both academics looking into gender relations in church, join me to try to track down the source. Spoiler alert: People seem to have made this up about 30 years ago—and they keep quoting it! We look at what happens when churches assume this stat is true.OUR SPONSOREver, AJ: Uniquely crafted vegan leather Bible cases. These Bible Cases are GORGEOUS and FUNCTIONAL! Use it as a traditional case, or you can also buy purses and wristlets. Makes a great gift too!TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith InitiativeAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!THINGS MENTIONED:Miranda Zapor Cruz’: The Myth of the 93% Julie Roys’ podcast with Amanda CunninghamTim Clinton ClipDanny Akin citing the “stat” Josh Howerton clip (around 20:15)J.D. Greear clip The Baptist Press articleThe Orthodox Barbie clip The Christ Church of the Valley handbook with the “stat” Matt Chandler saying he preaches to men:  (around 36-37 minutes)ABOUT MIRANDA ZAPOR CRUZ:Find Miranda Zapor Cruz on Facebook Order her book Faithful Politics ABOUT BETH ALLISON BARR:Find Beth Allison Barr on Threads Pre-order Becoming the Pastor’s Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

David and Amanda Erickson, authors on parenting rooted in scripture and science, share insights from their book 'The Flourishing Family'. They discuss the importance of compassionate parenting, emphasizing emotional intelligence over fear-based discipline. The couple critiques traditional views on obedience, advocating for deeper trust over mere compliance. They challenge spanking as a disciplinary method, highlighting the benefits of nurturing connections. Ultimately, their conversation fosters a vision of parenting that reflects grace and nurtures a positive understanding of God.

Send us a textThe evangelical world has an orgasm gap of 47 points between husbands and wives. Only 48% of women orgasm almost always or always, and 33% orgasm never or rarely. The good news is that if you're in that 33%--you can still get to the 48%!Today Rebecca and I look back at all the other episodes we've talked about orgasms, and have a great time discussing how we can learn to help couples prioritize her pleasure!THE ORGASM COURSEIt's on sale until Monday, September 23 at midnight! When you purchase the regular course, you'll get the men's version added for free!TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!Things Mentioned in the PodcastThe Great Sex RescueEpisode 74: You're Not Broken if Orgasm Is ElusiveEpisode 92: All about OrgasmsEpisode 129: Where Emerson Eggerichs Ignores Marital Rape (and doesn't understand women's arousal)Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef BoyardeeEpisode 168: The Myth of the Magic PenisJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textWe know it’s not all men who are predators. But it’s far too many. And a recent horrible court case in France is reminding women all over the world that far too many men are willing and eager to do the unthinkable. The only way to tell who is safe is to look at their words and their actions. And the words of far too many evangelical leaders and authors and pastors are straight up rape culture. After what happened to Gisele Pelicot, I’m not willing to put up with it anymore. No more Every Man’s Battle rape culture mindset in the church! TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!LINKSOur Sponsor:Rebecoming: Come Out of Hiding to Live as Your God-Given Essential Self. This amazing book is one of the best I’ve read to explain basic counseling concepts, and gives you practical exercises to work through as you try to get unstuck. Highly recommend!Things MentionedThe 7 Point Evangelical Confession of 2024Josh Howerton’s sermon clipA synopsis of the horrible ordeal of Gisele PelicotThe Great Sex RescueThe Great Sex Rescue ToolkitThe Every Man’s Battle one sheet downloadCoinswallow's post on InstagramCheck out Sheila's books:The Great Sex RescueShe Deserves BetterThe Good Girl's Guide to Great Sexand The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Dr. Merry Lin, a therapist specializing in helping people move past feeling stuck, joins the conversation to dive into themes from her book 'Rebecoming.' They tackle complex topics like trauma and attachment theory, making psychological concepts accessible. The discussion highlights the importance of self-awareness in managing emotions, especially in faith contexts. They also explore unhealthy relationships, focusing on co-dependency and the journey of personal growth through community support. Listeners are encouraged to engage in self-reflection for transformation.

Karen Stiller, an insightful author focused on holiness and personal growth, shares her journey through faith and grief. She discusses redefining holiness in everyday life, emphasizing its manifestation in actions and relationships. The conversation delves into navigating self-image struggles, fostering genuine community in worship, and finding holiness amid chaos. Stiller also reveals how her experiences with loss have shaped her understanding of faith, encouraging listeners to embrace both joy and pain as essential parts of their growth.