Send us a textThe evangelical church spends a lot of time giving modesty messages to girls. But we hardly ever talk about vanity--even though the Bible condemns it. Could it be that in all our talk about modesty, we're inadvertently promoting vanity? And perhaps we can't call out vanity, because our messages to boys essentially enable vanity. Join Rebecca and Sheila as we hash this one out!With thanks to our sponsor:If church was your place of deepest hurt, can you find peace and healing with Christ? Check out Ryan George's book  Hurt and Healed by the Church To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcast: Our book She Deserves BetterThe Instagram channel HerCherch with all the cartoonsOur Orgasm Course and Libido CourseOur podcast looking at the long-term effects of the modesty messageWhy is Dannah Gresh calling 8-year-old bellies intoxicating?Our one-sheet on Lies Young Women BelieveThe reel from Our Savior's ChurchThe side-by-side plagiarized apology from Josh HowertonJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Guest Scott Coley, author of Ministers of Propaganda, discusses how evangelical leaders use propaganda and logical fallacies to maintain power. Topics include challenging conservative white evangelical interpretations of scripture, justifying societal structures through the Bible, and exploring political orientations and doctrinal disagreements within evangelical communities.

Ryan George shares his harrowing journey of uncovering his father's sexual abuse cover-up in a fundamentalist church. He discusses deconstructing harmful teachings and finding true healing and faith. The podcast dives into topics like cult-like church practices, power dynamics, redefining Christianity, overcoming fear, and advocating for church safety and women's equality.

Author Cait West shares her journey breaking free from Christian patriarchy and emotional abuse. The hosts explore deconstruction, patriarchy, and the importance of listening to personal stories. Discusses struggles with toxic teachings, patriarchal control, and creating safe spaces for growth.

Sarah McCammon, author of The Exvangelicals, discusses the journey of ex-vangelicals and the harm of toxic teachings. The podcast explores deconstruction, purity culture, and justice in evangelical communities, emphasizing the need for empathy and understanding.

Send us a textWhy is a frequenty-used book in teen girls' Bible studies focusing on Satan and not Jesus?A deep dive into the book Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Dannah Gresh. Let's see what is being taught to teen girls--and why it's so problematic. We can do better, church!Get our Downloadable One Sheet of the problems with the book Lies Young Women Believe: Thanks to our sponsor, the book The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman And listen to our interview with Sam about the book! To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in this Podcast:Our podcasts about the book Lies Women Believe: Part 1 and its treatment of abuse and Part 2 and its portrayal of GodOur downloadable onesheet about Lies Women BelieveOur book She Deserves Better Our podcast going over the problems with how Dannah Gresh teaches about modestyWhy do women support modesty messages? Dannah Gresh's submission quizAbout Johnna HarrisFollow her on Instagram and X, and find her podcast Bodies Behind the BusJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a text Every Father’s Day, there’s a rallying cry in many conservative evangelical spaces that men are losing out and fathers are under attack. Where’s the truth in this? And what are the problems with talking about marriage like this? Plus we rewrite Harrison Butker’s commencement speech! Thanks to our sponsor, the book The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman And listen to our interview with Sam about the book! To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in this Podcast:Focus on the Family Broadcast, Finding the Hero in Your Husband (Part 1) Harrison Butker Speech  and Transcript Our Bare Marriage podcast on the idea that women talk too much (put forward by Focus on the Family under James Dobson)My post from last Father’s Day about framing your husband as the heroJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textWhat if purity culture didn’t just steal sexual health from women, but stole it from men too? What does it mean for a man to have healthy sexuality? Today licensed counselor Sam Jolman joins us for The Sex Talk You Never Got.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things Mentioned in the Podcast:The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://amzn.to/4aRrShpFind Sam on InstagramThe Boost Your Libido Course: https://baremarriage.com/boost-libido-course/All about New River Fellowship Church:New River FellowshipFacebookInstagramPastor Joey Willis, Lead Pastor at New River Fellowship in Hudson Oaks, Texas.Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textEvangelical conservatives too often portray masculinity as if men are supposed to be the “Alpha male”—aloof, emotionless, vying for control, and bullying. Today we look at how, even in nature, this concept of the Alpha Male has been overblown. And we present a better picture.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Things mentioned in the podcast:Let Men Be Men podcasts, and Let Men Be DadsJosh Howerton about Evangelical HoneymoonsThe Desiring God article where Greg Morse bemoans all the safe menThe TED Talk from Frans de Waal about Alpha MalesRick Pidcock analyses the Stronger Men’s Conference with Mark Driscoll’s “Jezebel” outburst This week’s article on turning the other cheek All about New River Fellowship ChurchNew River Fellowship FacebookInstagramPastor Joey Willis, Lead Pastor at New River Fellowship in Hudson Oaks, Texas.Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us a textChurch is messy. Friendships are hard to find. Life in a fishbowl is awkward. But what if…it’s worth it? Such a great convo with Stephanie, Jessica, and Jenna about their new book Pastors’ Wives Tell All!Whether you're a pastors' wife, or a female pastor yourself, living life in a fishbowl can be hard. We talk about parenting, marriage, and finding friends when you're in church ministry.Things mentioned in the Podcast:Pastors’ Wives Tell All: Pre-order HereGet Your Preorder BonusesFind out everything that’s happening at their websiteFollow Pastors’ Wives Tell All on InstagramJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.