Bare Marriage

The podcast dives into the notion that shame should be redirected, particularly within the evangelical church's views on sexuality. It critiques the pressure on women to conform to pornified standards and discusses the dangers of non-consensual intimacy. Real-life examples highlight the importance of genuine consent and personal agency. The conversation emphasizes the need for respectful intimacy, challenges unrealistic sexual expectations, and advocates for a profound shift in sexual education that values individual experiences over societal stereotypes.

Send us a textDo you find yourself in constant power struggles with your kids? Do you feel like your kids too often set the terms of their cooperation? Or are you worried that you are too hard and demanding on them? Well today I talk with Wendy Snyder, a positive parenting coach, as we get into the nitty gritty of how to find that balance between being authoritarian and overly permissive. Cut the drama, cut the power struggles, and learn how to thrive as a family!SIGN UP for our FREE Parenting Webinar with Wendy! The Compassionate Discipline Workshop, Tuesday November 19 at 1 pm EST!THINGS MENTIONEDWendy's Website, Fresh Start FamilyFind Wendy on Instagram Listen to our last podcast with Wendy, Parenting without YellingTO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Rick Pidcock, a journalist and stay-at-home dad, dives into the backlash against the involved father in the beloved children's show Bluey. He and hosts Rebecca and Connor critique outdated perceptions of masculinity that stigmatize nurturing dads. The conversation challenges traditional views of fatherhood, advocating for emotional engagement and collaboration in parenting. They also explore how Bluey portrays fatherhood positively, pushing for a redefinition of roles that prioritize connection and warmth over authority.

Send us a textChrista Brown was sexually assaulted dozens of times by her youth pastor when she was 15. She was made to repent and apologize to his wife. The pastor just got moved around from church to church for decades. When Christa’s daughter reached the same age Christa was when she was assaulted, she went public—and started the movement to push the SBC towards accountability for the sexual abuse crisis in their midst. She’s written a memoir called BaptistLand, and today we talk about Christa’s fight—and how SBC megachurch pastors today are still demonizing “little girls” rather than holding men accountable. THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST: Pick up our Great Sex Rescue Tookit—to help start important conversations to those close to youTO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!IMPORTANT LINKS:Christa Brown’s book BaptistLandChrista on TwitterChrista on SubstackRead the Guideposts reportThe original Houston Chronicle articleNews article about the amicus brief filed by SBC entities AGAINST a sexual assault victimJosh Howerton sermon clipSee the documentary For Our DaughtersFollow the Sons of Patriarchy podcast about Doug Wilson on SpotifySupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Navigating the awkwardness of sexual education with kids is tough, but essential. The hosts share insights on developing effective programs that encourage open dialogues about sex and puberty. They highlight the need for comprehensive information to foster healthy family conversations. The discussion includes teaching boys and girls together, aiming to bridge communication gaps. Personal anecdotes illustrate the challenges of the 'sex talk.' Ultimately, they advocate for honest education to empower children as they grow.

Kristen Kobes Du Mez, an author and filmmaker known for her insights on gender and power in evangelical Christianity, discusses her documentary 'For Our Daughters.' She and Pastor Trey Ferguson, a theologian challenging traditional views on sex, explore how underlying beliefs in the church enable abuse. They address the objectification of women, emphasize the need for accountability, and critique the harmful narratives surrounding sexuality. Their conversation highlights the importance of healing and fostering safer religious communities.

Dr. Camden Morgante, a licensed psychologist and author of "Recovering from Purity Culture," delves into the myths of purity culture and its damaging effects. She discusses the emotional turmoil it causes, especially in relation to intimate relationships, and critiques how it manipulates women's sexuality. Camden emphasizes personal empowerment, the importance of healing trauma, and the necessity for open dialogue about sexuality. The conversation encourages self-reflection and reparenting as key steps toward recovery, offering tools and insights for moving beyond these harmful beliefs.

Send us a textEver heard the stat from “a recent study” that found that, when a husband comes to Christ first, in 93% of cases the wife and kids follow, but when the wife comes to Christ first, it’s only 17%? Today Beth Allison Barr and Miranda Zapor Cruz, both academics looking into gender relations in church, join me to try to track down the source. Spoiler alert: People seem to have made this up about 30 years ago—and they keep quoting it! We look at what happens when churches assume this stat is true.OUR SPONSOREver, AJ: Uniquely crafted vegan leather Bible cases. These Bible Cases are GORGEOUS and FUNCTIONAL! Use it as a traditional case, or you can also buy purses and wristlets. Makes a great gift too!TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith InitiativeAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!THINGS MENTIONED:Miranda Zapor Cruz’: The Myth of the 93% Julie Roys’ podcast with Amanda CunninghamTim Clinton ClipDanny Akin citing the “stat” Josh Howerton clip (around 20:15)J.D. Greear clip The Baptist Press articleThe Orthodox Barbie clip The Christ Church of the Valley handbook with the “stat” Matt Chandler saying he preaches to men:  (around 36-37 minutes)ABOUT MIRANDA ZAPOR CRUZ:Find Miranda Zapor Cruz on Facebook Order her book Faithful Politics ABOUT BETH ALLISON BARR:Find Beth Allison Barr on ThrSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

David and Amanda Erickson, authors on parenting rooted in scripture and science, share insights from their book 'The Flourishing Family'. They discuss the importance of compassionate parenting, emphasizing emotional intelligence over fear-based discipline. The couple critiques traditional views on obedience, advocating for deeper trust over mere compliance. They challenge spanking as a disciplinary method, highlighting the benefits of nurturing connections. Ultimately, their conversation fosters a vision of parenting that reflects grace and nurtures a positive understanding of God.

Send us a textThe evangelical world has an orgasm gap of 47 points between husbands and wives. Only 48% of women orgasm almost always or always, and 33% orgasm never or rarely. The good news is that if you're in that 33%--you can still get to the 48%!Today Rebecca and I look back at all the other episodes we've talked about orgasms, and have a great time discussing how we can learn to help couples prioritize her pleasure!THE ORGASM COURSEIt's on sale until Monday, September 23 at midnight! When you purchase the regular course, you'll get the men's version added for free!TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!Things Mentioned in the PodcastThe Great Sex RescueEpisode 74: You're Not Broken if Orgasm Is ElusiveEpisode 92: All about OrgasmsEpisode 129: Where Emerson Eggerichs Ignores Marital Rape (and doesn't understand women's arousal)Episode 222: How Sex Is Like Chef BoyardeeEpisode 168: The Myth of the Magic PenisSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.