
Bare Marriage
Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage--the blog!
Latest episodes

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Mar 27, 2025 • 59min
Episode 276: Is Reading Romance Novels for Women the Same as Watching Porn?
The hosts delve into the controversial comparison between romance novels and porn, questioning societal biases against women’s reading choices. They discuss the implications of both genres on sexuality, addressing issues of objectification and the importance of consent. The conversation touches on the distinct ways media presents female pleasure, advocating for realistic portrayals of women's desires. Humor and personal anecdotes pepper the discussion, highlighting the need for open conversations about relationships, intimacy, and the complexities of female sexual understanding.

Mar 20, 2025 • 1h 8min
Episode 275: Becoming the Pastor's Wife feat. Beth Allison Barr
Beth Allison Barr, a professor at Baylor University and author of "Becoming the Pastor's Wife," explores the often-overlooked historical contributions of women in ministry. She critiques the limits imposed by traditional church roles and champions a shift towards egalitarian views. Discussing the evolution of women's leadership, she highlights figures like Milberga from early Christianity. The conversation also touches on the complexities of current church dynamics and advocates for acknowledging women’s voices and experiences in faith communities.

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Mar 13, 2025 • 53min
Episode 274: The Marriage You Actually Want
A groundbreaking new book aims to reshape evangelical marriage through evidence-based insights. The discussion critiques stagnant marriage literature and challenges traditional gender roles, promoting equality and shared responsibilities. Emphasis is placed on effective communication, tackling tough conversations, and modern realities like internet pornography. The hosts advocate for updated, research-backed advice that resonates with contemporary couples and celebrate grassroots efforts to spread their innovative message.

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Mar 6, 2025 • 57min
Episode 273: Are Traditionally Christian Marriages Linked to More Immaturity? The Data Speaks!
Delve into the link between traditional beliefs in marriage and emotional immaturity. Discover how societal norms affect interpersonal behaviors and satisfaction in relationships. Explore the impact of generational trauma on parenting and its ripple effects on family dynamics. Learn about attachment styles and how they influence emotional challenges within rigid marital roles. Gain insights into fostering intimacy through open communication and vulnerability, while critiquing conservative interpretations of submissive roles for women.

Feb 27, 2025 • 42min
Episode 272: Is "Acts of Service" Love Language Really a Cry for Help? All New Bonus Stats!
Is the 'acts of service' love language hiding a deeper issue about unequal household roles? The discussion uncovers how physical touch might reflect underlying challenges in intimacy. New statistics reveal surprising insights into how these love languages affect emotional connections. The hosts advocate for balancing responsibilities in partnerships, stressing the importance of communication in maintaining health in relationships. Dive into the complexities of love languages and how they shape modern marriage dynamics!

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Feb 20, 2025 • 58min
Episode 271: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells Us About Marriage (and Mental Load!)
Joanna Swatsky, a stats expert who analyzed data for 'The Marriage You Want,' joins to unpack the crucial topic of marital satisfaction. They discuss how sexual frequency can impact relationship happiness, revealing that less intimacy often leads to decreased satisfaction. The conversation also addresses the critical role of dividing household chores fairly and how traditional gender roles create imbalance. They explore the concept of mental load, emphasizing the need for open communication and teamwork to strengthen marriages.

Feb 13, 2025 • 1h 15min
Episode 270: What Does Prioritizing Marriage Look Like? Plus Do You Have to Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom?
Joanna Sawatsky, a data analyst focused on relationship stats, and Rebecca Lindenbach, daughter of Sheila Rae Gregoire, dive into the complexities of balancing marriage and motherhood. They stress that prioritizing time together can enhance connection, challenging the notion that only grand gestures matter. The duo discusses the significance of shared bedtimes for intimacy and the need for couples to work as a team amid parenting pressures. Their insights aim to alleviate guilt and redefine roles, suggesting a more harmonious approach to family dynamics.

Feb 6, 2025 • 54min
Episode 269: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs—and Why Compromise Doesn’t Work
Compromise in marriage may not always lead to fairness, especially when partners contribute unequally. The discussion dives into the importance of shared responsibilities and emotional support to cultivate intimacy. The 'Marriage Hierarchy of Needs' model emphasizes fulfilling basic needs before personal growth can occur. Miscommunication, often rooted in traditional gender roles, can create resentment, making mutual respect essential. Ultimately, the focus is on fostering equitable partnerships for a thriving marriage.

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Jan 30, 2025 • 58min
Episode 268: Why Data Shows That Teamwork, Not Hierarchy, Is the Key to a Great Marriage!
Cynthia Long Westfall, a Professor of New Testament at McMaster Divinity School, dives into the dynamics of marriage rooted in teamwork. She shares compelling data linking teamwork to marital satisfaction, intimacy, and conflict resolution. Westfall challenges traditional hierarchical views, arguing they often lead to negative outcomes. She emphasizes the need for shared decision-making and mutual respect, redefining marital roles to foster equality over dominance. Their engaging discussion underscores how partnership can transform relationships positively.

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Jan 23, 2025 • 1h 7min
Episode 267: Why Evangelical Marriage Advice Often Backfires
Discover the pitfalls of traditional evangelical marriage advice, which often leads to dissatisfaction. The discussion challenges harmful gender roles and stereotypes that hinder healthy relationships. Personal stories reveal the negative impact of unrealistic expectations. Delve into the importance of setting boundaries and mutual respect, especially in unhealthy dynamics. The hosts advocate for evidence-based insights and a reevaluation of outdated teachings, promoting genuine intimacy and emotional fulfillment in marriage.