
How To!
You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.We all need advice, but sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn. Each week, Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace bring a listener on to the show to solve their toughest problems with the help of world-class experts. It’s free therapy, and you’re invited.
Latest episodes

Feb 20, 2024 • 38min
How To Evolve a Friendship
Friendship expert Rhaina C helps Michelle navigate evolving a deep friendship from grad school to current life phase, discussing challenges of distance, redefining relationships, importance of outside friendships for healthy marriage, and reviving connections through shared experiences.

Feb 13, 2024 • 45min
How To Find Friends in Unexpected Places
This podcast explores intergenerational friendships as a cure for loneliness. An expert guest provides tips on fostering connections across generations. Personal experiences and reflections on age segregation and generational stereotypes are shared. The importance of pursuing hobbies and activities to build meaningful relationships is discussed.

Feb 6, 2024 • 41min
How To Be a Mindful Drinker
This podcast discusses the concept of mindful drinking as an alternative to the abundance vs. abstinence debate. It features an author who shares her personal experience and provides a plan for achieving mindful drinking. The podcast also explores the challenges of cutting down on alcohol consumption and offers resources for those seeking help.

Feb 3, 2024 • 34min
How To Plan Your Next Adventure
Planning for your next adventure can be daunting, but in this episode, the CEO of Geographic Expeditions shares tips on picking the right destination, when to splurge, and how to ensure an amazing experience. They also discuss the importance of spontaneity and purpose in travel, finding trustworthy advice for trip planning, and highlight underrated destinations and their future travel plans.

Jan 30, 2024 • 48min
How To Be Free Of Body Shame
The podcast explores body shame and the societal messaging around body size, shape, and appearance. It challenges the notion of needing to love our bodies and emphasizes self-acceptance. The speakers discuss the challenges faced by fat individuals in a non-inclusive world and navigating body shame in medical care.

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Jan 23, 2024 • 31min
How To Stop Snoring and Breathe Easier (Encore)
James Nestor, author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, joins the podcast to discuss the harmful effects of mouth-breathing on our health. He shares nasal breathing exercises to help improve snoring, anxiety, and overall wellness. The episode explores the impacts of snoring on relationships and health, as well as techniques to transform breathing and reduce snoring.

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Jan 16, 2024 • 39min
How To Make Small Talk Feel Big
Carvell Wallace is joined by Susan McPherson, the author of The Lost Art of Connecting, to help navigate uncomfortable small talk. They discuss turning small talk into big talk, questions to have in your back pocket, and how to extract yourself from conversations. They emphasize the importance of building meaningful connections and provide tips for starting conversations and overcoming insecurities.

Jan 9, 2024 • 40min
How To Keep Caring Amid Endless Crises
In this episode, they discuss how to be empathetic amid chaos, the challenges of activism, using platforms for support, coping with constant exposure to suffering, finding inspiration in a book, exploring identity politics, and taking meaningful action.

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Jan 2, 2024 • 42min
How To Age Like an Elite Athlete
Learn how to prolong your athletic career and avoid injuries as you age. The podcast discusses the impact of aging on athletes, personal experiences with injuries, strategies for maintaining physical ability, training for proprioception, and the importance of sleep and recovery.

Dec 26, 2023 • 34min
How To Cook One Perfect Meal (Encore)
Sam Sifton, head of the New York Times’s Cooking section, teaches a love-lorn Millennial how to cook one perfect meal. They discuss the connection between cooking skills and love life, the versatility of Shopify for sales, and cooking chicken with olive oil. Plus, sponsored ads from Discover, Apple Card, and Slate Plus.