
How To!
You’ve got questions. Together, we get answers.We all need advice, but sometimes it’s hard to know where to turn. Each week, Courtney Martin and Carvell Wallace bring a listener on to the show to solve their toughest problems with the help of world-class experts. It’s free therapy, and you’re invited.
Latest episodes

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Dec 19, 2023 • 38min
Our Favorite Advice of 2023
In this podcast, the hosts reflect on their favorite advice from the year, including topics such as loving our faces, reading again, acing interviews, dealing with difficult parents, saying goodbye to pets, cooking chaotically, moving to new countries, navigating adult autism, and breathing techniques like Navy SEALs.

Dec 12, 2023 • 37min
How To Transition From Soldier to Civilian
Dan, a retired soldier, shares his experience transitioning to civilian life after 20 years of service, managing PTSD, ADHD, and new sobriety. The podcast explores a program using science fiction and conceptual art to help veterans plan for the future. Topics include enlisting in the military, the challenges of transitioning, creating visions for the future, and embracing the unknown.

Dec 9, 2023 • 39min
How To Face the A.I. Revolution (Encore)
This podcast explores the impact of AI chatbots, including their potential benefits and negative impacts. It discusses advancements in chatbot technology, the implications of human interaction with chatbots, and the potential risks involved. The podcast also explores the concept of AI sentience and the question of AI rights.

Dec 5, 2023 • 43min
How To Carve Out Creative Time
Allison is on the hunt for her next hobby. One that’s satisfying. One that she can stick with. One that will fit into her family’s very busy schedule. Except…maybe she’s thinking about that last part all wrong. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space. Eve argues that drawing—and defending—boundaries for individual, creative pursuits is necessary for living a fulfilled life. She’ll share how to balance domestic labor in order to carve out creative space and pick something that makes your soul sing. If you liked this episode, check out: How To Stop “Having It All” (Before You End Up With Nothing)Do you have a problem that needs solving? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show. Subscribe for free on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen.How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is our senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson and Kevin Bendis. Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podcast feeds. Sign up now at slate.com/howtoplus. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 28, 2023 • 48min
How To Grieve an Estranged Parent
This podcast explores the process of grieving an estranged parent, including the challenges of having an estranged parent, healing from childhood trauma, confronting the relationship with an estranged parent, finding support and community, dealing with toxic family members, and navigating childhood trauma and building community.

Nov 21, 2023 • 35min
How To Talk Politics Without Wrecking Relationships (Encore)
A discussion on navigating political discussions with family members, emphasizing the importance of recognizing shared values and treating each other as people. Strategies for repairing relationships and maintaining respectful conversations are offered, including de-escalation and acknowledging differing viewpoints.

Nov 14, 2023 • 48min
How To Get Through Menopause
This episode of the podcast explores the challenges and experiences of menopause, including the lack of information and conversations about it. They discuss symptoms such as hot flashes and the importance of recognizing and destigmatizing menopause. The speaker also shares personal stories and encourages listeners to send in their problems for solutions.

Nov 7, 2023 • 45min
How To Build a Marriage That Lasts
Anjali and Rahul reflect on their relationship and worry about boredom and meeting traditional milestones. The Casbons offer wisdom from their book Side by Side, emphasizing openness and inner work. The podcast explores varied relationship challenges, the significance of mirroring and inner strength, seeking therapy, and the importance of silence and humor.

Oct 31, 2023 • 39min
How To Hit “Reset” on Your Career
Learn how to hit reset on your career with economist Steven Levitt as he shares surprising tips, including a coin flip strategy. They discuss pursuing a career in economics, trying low-cost options before making big decisions, and the importance of taking risks for fulfillment.

Oct 24, 2023 • 38min
How To Let Go of Kid Clutter
Learn how to let go of kid clutter with insights from a professional organizer. Discover strategies for decluttering and organizing, preserving childhood memories, and curating digital images. Explore the emotional attachment to clutter and the rewards of professional organizing services. Find out how to create a sense of community for kids through displaying photographs of loved ones and friends. End with gratitude and encouragement for listener feedback.