Dale Aucoin, a professional organizer from New York City and founder of Clean & Queer, joins the conversation to tackle the challenges of housework. They discuss prioritizing tasks to keep chaos at bay and share practical strategies to transform cleaning into a rewarding habit. The impact of mental health on organizational skills is examined, along with tips for managing household chores in cozy spaces. Dale emphasizes self-compassion and the importance of creating routines that fit individual lifestyles, making those dreaded chores feel less overwhelming.
Reframing cleaning as a necessary aspect of personal well-being rather than a moral obligation can ease the burden of housework.
Utilizing efficient cleaning tools and breaking tasks into manageable segments can significantly reduce procrastination and promote a proactive cleaning routine.
Deep dives
Understanding the Challenges of Cleaning
Finding time for cleaning amidst a busy lifestyle can create stress and clutter in a home. Many individuals feel burdened by the pressure to maintain a clean and organized space, often leading to feelings of inadequacy when tasks pile up. For some, past experiences with their family's cleaning habits can shape their current perceptions, creating associations between cleanliness and obligation rather than well-being. Acknowledging the difficulty of domestic tasks is crucial in shifting the approach to cleaning from a burdensome chore to a manageable endeavor.
Utilizing Technology and Tools for Efficiency
Having the right tools can significantly enhance the cleaning process, making it a less daunting task. For instance, transitioning to a cordless vacuum cleaner allows for quick clean-ups that can be easily integrated into daily routines. By reducing the barriers to starting cleaning tasks, such as minimizing the time it takes to set up equipment, the likelihood of procrastination decreases. Ultimately, when cleaning becomes quick and accessible, it promotes a more proactive approach to maintaining a tidy home.
Setting Realistic Goals and Managing Expectations
Establishing realistic cleaning goals can help individuals avoid feelings of overwhelm and frustration. It’s essential to recognize that perfection is not the objective; rather, creating a space that feels good and is presentable is what matters. Breaking down larger tasks into manageable segments can alleviate the burden associated with tidying up. Furthermore, celebrating small victories rather than tracking an exhaustive to-do list can foster a more positive outlook toward cleaning.
Rethinking the Relationship with Cleaning
Reframing cleaning from a moral obligation to a necessary component of personal well-being can transform one's approach to housework. Embracing the idea that it’s acceptable to dislike cleaning and that it's not a reflection of one’s character is vital. Engaging in open conversations about cleaning responsibilities, especially within intimate relationships, can lead to more equitable divisions of labor. Ultimately, understanding that everyone deserves a comfortable living environment helps in normalizing the conversation around cleaning and domestic responsibilities.
Cooper feels like they’re constantly falling behind on their to-do list. Life is busy and household chores are the last thing they want to do. Cooper tracks everything in a detailed spreadsheet—but that spreadsheet isn’t going to take care of the dirty dishes in the sink. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dale Aucoin of Clean & Queer, a professional organizing business based in New York City. Dale explains how to prioritize tasks, make chores easier, and find a routine that works for you.
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