In a new solo HOMETRUTH segment, Louise hops on a solo episode to ask 'why does no one talk about how hard a healthy relationship is after years of toxic ones? 'Louise talks about the truths you need to accept, why healthy relationships feel uncomfortable after toxic ones, what to do about it, and more, including:⇢ healthy love after toxic love⇢ suspicion & being hyper vigilant to every future partner⇢ self sabotage & why you might just want to f**k it all up ⇢ why healthy sometimes feels boring or gives you the “ick”⇢ the nervous system activation of “butterflies” & attachment trauma ⇢ what we need to learn about baby butterflies; and⇢ why even the sex might feel different in a healthy relationship. Recommended listening on toxic relationships:⇢#16 - how to deal with out of bounds relationships / why we keep it quiet⇢#67 - ‘hard work partner or toxic abuse?’⇢#24 - how to leave a toxic relationship, safely⇢#64 - why are you attracted to people’s confusing behaviour?⇢#33 - why you’re attracted to inconsistent men / women (+ how to break it #44)⇢#13 -Louise's experiences in a toxic relationship⇢#12 - how codependency can also suggest toxic trauma bonds⇢#47 - d**khead or narcissist? The 101 guide to narcissism and –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumballConnect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___Connect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselifeSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this OPENHOUSE Submission, Dr. Tari Mack, clinical psychologist, breaks down a question submitted to the OPENHOUSE Hotline around whether someone’s husband is just ‘hard work’ and that’s why her friends don’t like him or whether his behaviour is actually emotional abuse and leaning into narcissistic behavior and traits. The person explains that there have been a number of issues around being rude to her, belittling and demeaning her, flirting with other people, borrowing and repaying money, and more. Louise Rumball & Dr. Tari Mack look at:⇢ The difference between one off behavioural incidents and repeating patterns⇢The warning signs of an emotionally abusive relationship and how to avoid falling for one ⇢ Why violence in a relationship does not have to be just physical⇢ The connection between money, showing off and some forms of narcissism ⇢ How your relationship & marriage can impact your children long before you realize it⇢ Why narcissistic behavior, emotional abuse and manipulation often get overlookedRecommended listening:Episode 47 - NARCISSISM - Did I spend years of my life with a narcissist or was he just a really sh*t person? The ultimate 101 guide to identifying a narcissist  –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumballConnect with OPENHOUSE: @openhouselifeConnect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimackSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Does casual sex strike fear, regret, guilt, sadness and rejection in you when for others it seems to be fun, free and easy? In today’s episode, Louise is enjoyed by Dr. Massimo Fontana to ask WHY!The pair discuss why casual sex can be so damn traumatic for some of us, and not others, while also sharing Louise's personal experiences so you can feel just a little bit less alone.Louise & Dr. Massimo get into: ⇢The tie to anxious attachment⇢How sex can be mini traumas⇢The grief cycle of casual sex ⇢Why it’s particularly bad for those who are anxiously attached or with an abandonment wound⇢The concept of ‘giving yourself away’ and why we feel empty the next day⇢How to handle grief, regret, shame connected to sex; and⇢The chemicals behind being 'love drunk' And more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Girl Talk, Louise and Monica meet in Tulum and record the episode *together* to discuss the things that people aren't talking about online -  sex, pleasure, libidos, sex lives and, more importantly, the reality of sex that no one talks about. In a world of everyone else looking perfect, it’s easy to get sucked into the belief that everyone is having the best sex of their life, constantly. The truth? That’s just not true. The pair discuss: ⇢The truths about sex that no one is talking about⇢Louise’s recent experience with dengue fever & how it impacted her sex life⇢Pressure to sleep together, pressure-to-orgasm and how to relieve this pressure (and the impact it has on your body)⇢How your environment can impact your nervous system and your libido⇢Sexual blueprints & the different ‘types’ of sex we can enjoy⇢How FIFA, gaming & stress can get in the way of your sex driveAnd more.Other GIRL TALK episodes: episodes 36 and 43 of the OPENHOUSE Podcast––––––––––––––– ⠀Connect with Louise on IG: @iamlouiserumballConnect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__Connect with OPENHOUSE on IG: @openhouselifeConnect with Monica on IG: @monicayateshealth⠀Sign up to access ‘The House’ and to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Louise & Dr Tari jump on a quick OPENHOUSE HOTLINE episode to answer a submission about a guy who's behaviour has been confusing, unclear and misleading since a listener first started dating, interacting and sleeping with him. The episode takes an interesting turn when Dr Tari starts to talk more about the listener, than the guy in question. Dr Tari talks focuses the episode talking about the concepts of intentional dating, communication, pacing, boundaries and more and helps shift our perspective on a situation that so many of us have experienced before.Louise shares her personal experience with a similar situation, as well as the concepts of:⇢Why silence drives a cycle of 'pick me, choose me'⇢Why stupid games lead to stupid relationships⇢Why the cool girl needs to die ⇢How communication can alleviate the likelihood of pain, rejection and ghosting ⇢Why you don't 'have to test the sex before investing in them'And more. There are also multiple features from an OPENHOUSE guest - a very noisy cat.Other recommended listening episodes: ⇢Episode 11 & 29 - unconscious attraction & how childhood drives adulthood⇢Episode 30 - pacing ⇢Episode 22 - getting over ghostingWelcome home!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The OPENHOUSE therapists discuss a user submission on someone who has been the ‘Other Woman’ for too long. She asks the team:⇢ *HOW* did this situation happen?⇢ How did she get so brainwashed?⇢ What sort of man (or woman) entertains a long term affair?⇢ Why and how does this person have so much power over her?; and⇢ Where does she go from here?Louise and the therapists discuss:⇢ How affairs start⇢ The type of man or woman who are most susceptible to being ‘The Other’⇢ The statement ‘I can’t leave’ and what this really means⇢ The concept of power play and adrenaline⇢ The difference between attention & intention⇢ The darker, shadow sides of when we accept shameful love⇢ How to leave or end an affair and⇢ How to avoid one happening in the first placeAnd more.Louise also shares her own personal experience with ‘being the other’ and discusses The Thimble Analogy - the game changing therapy analogy that radically changes the way that you understand how, and why, you accept less than loving love - and how to change this.–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Connect with Louise on Instagram: @iamlouiserumballConnect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl__Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcastConnect with Dr Tari Mack: @drtarimackConnect with Massimo Fontana on Instagram: hereJoin ‘The House’ - the private OPENHOUSE community - hereAccess our therapy guides, sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list or submit a question to the OPENHOUSE HOTLINE: www.thisisopenhouse.com–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr Tari Mack, clinical psychologist, joins Louise to discuss why anxious attachment and dating don't mix well. They cover the challenges of dating with an anxious attachment style, the importance of timing when discussing it, and the need for effective communication and consistency in relationships.

In this episode, Louise is joined by psychologist Dr. Alex Melkumian and writer, speaker and Louise's  great friend, Ellie Austin-Williams of This Girl Talks Money to discuss all things money and how it has us in such a chokehold. The group discuss: ⇢ How our money habits start to form before we are even born (+ the intergenerational cycles of money)⇢ A discussion around which caregiver drives our money habits the most;⇢ The connection between money, sex & food - and which is Louise’s favorite; ⇢ The threshold at which money stops making us more happy; ⇢ The concept of retail therapy - is this just normalized addiction;⇢ The big money taboo;⇢ Why we’re happy to share a bed with someone but not discuss money; and⇢ How to start having the conversations that will And more! –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumballConnect with Louise on TikTok: @thetherapygirl___Connect with OPENHOUSE on Instagram: @theopenhousepodcastConnect with Alex on LinkedIn: hereConnect with Ellie on This Girl Talks Money: hereListen to Money Unfiltered on Spotify: here⠀Sign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A bonus update and solo episode from Louise as she discusses her recent life challenge in Mexico and what she learnt from it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Louise and Shadow Work Guide, Jordan Jeppe, as they discuss how the simple act of giving space to your relationships and sex life can revolutionise themWith the pair coming to you from Mexico, Jordan shares her experience with 13 months of conscious and intentional celibacy, and Louise shares her 2 year experience of being a ‘naughty celibate’ as well as discussing:⇢Healing from heartbreak, jealousy, and toxic traits and patterns⇢Why celibacy is nothing like you think it is⇢The concept of the 'sexual pause'⇢Why we all need space to reflect on our past and present⇢How our shadow drives our past relationships⇢Are you masturbating intentionally? and⇢How to review your connection with self pleasureAnd MORE! –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Connect with Louise on social: @iamlouiserumballConnect with OPENHOUSE: @theopenhousepodcastConnect with Jordan on TikTok: @jordanjeppeSign up to join the OPENHOUSE mailing list to receive first access to all workshops, courses and live events: www.thisisopenhouse.com⠀–––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– ⠀Music SourcesVibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarudMusic promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices