Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

Taylor Swift & Travis Kelce analysis

Nov 6, 2023

46:35

#125 - Ever wondered why your partner might be acting jealous or protective? Or why some men fight and why some of us might actually like it when they do this to protect us? If yes, this episode is for you.

This week, Louise is joined by Zack Alexander, men’s coach, as the pair discuss Travis Kelsey and Taylor Swift and how we can use it as a vehicle for the exploration of healthy vs. toxic masculinity. They jump straight into:

Why males fighting males is a man who is not in control of himself
Differentiating between possession, control, aggression, and versus protection
The importance of elements of healthy protection: ensuring safety and well-being without putting the partner at risk, creating a sense of security
The importance of emotional safety and the impact it has on relationships, especially for women
Understanding the concept of emotional reactions as being ‘safe’ or ‘unsafe’
The importance of a ‘well-integrated and psychologically healthy man’ that can hold space for emotional needs and communication
Exploring the concept of "bad boys" and the underlying wounds that drive a need for overcompensation
Discussion about the roots of unhealthy behavior, including suppression, poor emotional regulation, and defense mechanisms

The pair also discuss why some females like a ‘bad boy’ and what is really going on below this and how it is related to a desire to seek external safety.

They also discuss shame, the anxious attachment and the inner child.

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