The holiday season can be both exhilarating and chaotic, both inside and outside of the bedroom.  For many of us, we don’t talk about sex until it happens and when it’s the holiday season things can escalate. especially during the holiday season when alcohol or even drugs are part of the equation. The lack of open conversation about sex can lead to uncomfortable, stressful, or even distressing experiences, adding unnecessary strain to an already busy time of year.

This week, Louise and clinical sexologist Dr. Massimo Fontana, clinical psychologist and sexologist, jump into the importance of the RDBSMA conversation and the pair talk about how this conversation could lead to the best holiday sex yet.

Louise & Dr. Massimo dive into the 6 things you need to think about before having sex:

• The ‘R' part of the conversation: getting the person you’re into to spill the beans on their *RELATIONSHIP* status
• Next, 'D' - identify and talk about what YOU *DESIRE* and ask the other person about their desires too 
• Then the 'B' - discussing *BOUNDARIES* setting those much-needed limits for a smooth, safe ride 
• The ‘S’ SEXUAL STATUS- the importance of sexual health discussions before having sex
• The ‘M’ part of the conversation takes us through the importance of the *MEANING* of the encounter before heading into
• 'A’ - the importance of aftercare, what it is, what it means for you and how to implement this after the act, while agreeing it beforehand.

Please note, this episode may be sensitive to anyone who has gone through sexual assault or sexual trauma.

Love,

Louise & Dr. Massimo

Recommended listening: 

➤ Episode 66 - why casual s*x is traumatizing as f**k ft. Dr Massimo Fontana

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