Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

Not everyone "clings" to people to prevent people leaving. Some people surrender to the abandonment wound and engage, repeatedly, with people who ‘always leave’. Others will avoid intimacy totally, so as not to get hurt, and others will punish people when they let us down or try to leave us. Today, in part 2 of the OPENHOUSE Abandonment Wound Series, Louise & Stephanie explore: The concept of surrendering to the abandonment wound. The connection between the abandonment wound and the father wound. The hope associated with surrendering to both the father wound and the abandonment wound. How the abandonment wound can manifest as a self-fulfilling prophecy. The link between low self-worth and the abandonment wound. Counterattack: Why we engage in self-sabotage and punish others when they withdraw. Avoidance of intimacy: Exploring why some people steer clear of closeness to avoid the fear of abandonment. ⭐ HEAL YOUR ABANDONMENT WOUND: GET THE GUIDE ⭐ Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stephanie Therapy, a therapist specializing in abandonment wounds, joins Louise to discuss how the abandonment wound forms and drives us to overcompensate, cling, and pull others closer. They explore the neurobiological roots of abandonment, patterns of overcompensating, and the concept of pulling and keeping people close. Understanding your abandonment wound is crucial for healing and creating healthier relationships.

Are drugs the ‘problem’ in your life or are your mind, body and soul actually treating them as the (self-sabotaging) *solution*?  From a ‘normal’ childhood and life at an all-girls private school, life took a 180-degree turn when, 15 years later, Charlotte Jackson found herself in the midst of a relationship breakdown, a four-year crystal meth addiction, and an abusive relationship. Today, Charlotte Jackson shares her journey of how she overcame drugs and alcohol, completely on her own, without rehab, on the other side of the world. She also delves into how understanding the pain, disconnection, and loneliness beneath the addiction helped her uncover the truth. Through self-connection, self-awareness, and a touch of spiritual awakening, Charlotte conquered her four-year crystal meth addiction and is now assisting others in discovering the truth of their own reality. Today, Louise & Charlotte discuss: How Charlotte’s strong anti-drug stance slowly changed  Whether her childhood and teenage years held any clues that this journey might have lain ahead Her position in the family as the ‘responsible’ eldest child Working out the real wounds, patterns and cycles behind any addiction Whether loneliness is the real driver of trauma and addiction How a spiritual awakening and belief in a higher power helped this journey;  How healing has changed her relationship with her family, and herself; and How to help others who are in this situation too.  Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever find yourself asking yourself quietly (or loudly) ‘is this it?. ‘Is this everything I was put on this Earth to experience?’. Or ‘when I just get X, Y or Z I’ll be happier?’ Alternatively, do you find yourself thinking you have most of the things you should have to be happy, but something is missing? Maybe you keep partying, on repeat, or relying on drugs or alcohol to get through the week? Do you want more but don’t know where to go next? If the answer is yes, you’re not alone.  Sobriety didn't revolutionize Dr. Elisa's life as she hoped it might. In fact, it was the moment when Vince Vaughn fired her from her position as his best-in-the-business, high-flying manager at United Talent Agency that the rest of her life truly began.  Next, the Universe guided her on a journey to becoming a Doctor in Depth Psychology with a focus on Neuroscience and Trauma, and then onto founding the first-ever Recovery Management Agency. Today, Louise & Dr. Elisa discuss: The feeling of 'I'll be happy when I just get there.' The concepts of trauma, chronic trauma, and their connection to our physical body. How the limbic system can't communicate with you in words; it can only communicate in feelings and energy. The concept of 'wearing a mask' in day-to-day life and losing ourselves in this identity. How we have a 'crisis of meaning’ and what to do next What it means to have a spiritual practice (and how to start). How rejection is always redirection, plus How to help someone who is navigating addiction Louise also shares her own personal stories around her own recent rejection, redirection and soul whispers- as well as her own journey with asking frequently ‘is this it'? Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you learned about the crazy connection between food and our nervous system yet? Understanding your nervous system (and polyvagal theory) could overhaul your relationship with eating and food. Is food the ultimate drug and most widely available method of self soothing? Does it help us understand why we reach for food, when we may need to reach for something else? Today we ask: are you hungry for love, or hungry for food, or is your nervous system crying out for help?  Louise is joined by integrative health practitioner, Sarah Murphy, as they have a totally new way of looking at comfort eating, binge eating and your relationship with food.  The pair discuss: How childhood shapes our relationship with food Hunger for love, hunger for bonding & the oxytocin deficiency theory Why feeling loved, seen, heard and cherished can reduce emotional eating or binge eating Why we eat when we’re not hungry (pleasure, calming and self soothing) Understanding the impact of stress on our appetite and how it affects our relationship with food The connection between nervous system regulation, dysregulation, the vagus nerve and our emotional eating patterns.  + The Ladder Analogy - how food can take you through different states of the nervous system when we need to learn to ‘scaffold’ on our own. Sarah also delivers us a suite of top tips and tricks on how to break this emotional eating cycle covering lifestyle changes, cold plunging, bodywork, gut health, supplement recommendations, and more.  Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are some situations when meeting an ex is necessary, and some where it is NOT. Today, in Part 2 of the ‘Ex Factor - when should I meet up with an ex’ series, Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack get into that question. They discuss: Collecting and exchanging stuff When meeting an ex is an absolute necessity and when it's a big NO The Checklist - discussing intentions, expectations, time frames and healing How to handle mutual friends, parties and co-parenting The importance of setting boundaries and considering the impact on others when meeting with an ex Plus, to send or not to send? They also discuss the age old ‘writing a letter to an ex’ - should you send it, should you not? Dr. Tari and Louise have slightly different opinions on this one. Join us to work out where you stand on the ‘send it, or don’t send it’ spectrum.  Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Therapist Dr. Tari Mack joins Louise Rumball to discuss the complexities of meeting up with an ex. They explore motivations for wanting to meet, reflect on the healing journey, and emphasize the importance of expectations, intentions, and communication. They also delve into anger expression, closure, and finding connection within oneself. A sneak peek is given into the next episode on meeting up with an ex.

Ever been made to feel embarrassed if you haven't 'settled down' or found the 'perfect love story'? Are you chasing butterflies when you still want safety, adoration and companionship too? Today, Louise is joined by the fabulous Emma Wilson (also known as the Turning 30 coach) as they get into a girl talk episode discussing how kicking off a relationship in your 30s (and beyond) could be the secret sauce to building a lifelong connection. Think communication, trust, openness, vulnerability, mutual compatibility, sparks flying, and perfect alignment – all the good stuff you might have totally missed when you hadn't yet 'done the work'. In today’s GIRL TALK episode the pair discuss:  The benefits of falling in love later in life Attraction to different types of partners as we change and develop The concept of the ‘dating audit’  Shiny object theory - how to move away from unavailable partners Falling in love with friends / people already in your life Deciding to fall in love / the concepts of safety and stability The pressure of anxiety of having to know you’ve ‘found your forever person’ And more. Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired, lethargic, exhausted and depressed, or is your nervous system really saying *no*? Did you know your nervous system can shut down when it comes into contact with ‘too much, too fast, or too soon’ or ‘too little, for not long enough’? This week, join Louise as she asks Sarah Murphy, biology of trauma and nervous system expert - what is *really* going on when the body says no? Louise and Sarah discuss: What is freeze mode  How it’s connected to fight or flight but isn’t the same An overview of polyvagal theory (and where freeze mode fits into this) Signs / symptoms of freeze mode Causes of freeze mode (including trauma response, learned habits, childhood attachment, learned helpless, emotional invalidation, silence, stress and overwhelm) If it's possible to cycle between freeze and flight or flight The biological drain of freeze mode Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know an alpha male (and have been hurt by one too!), but have you ever wondered why this dynamic occurs, how it develops, and how it shows up in life, love, & relationships? Today, Louise chats with Zack Alexander, a practitioner who skillfully blends psychology, somatics, and spirituality, about the concepts of the healthy male, the alpha male, and the 'scared little boy,' and most of all - how to navigate these situations. Louise & Zack discuss: Male sexual promiscuity The concepts of avoidance and running from feeling The ancestral drivers of suppression of help-seeking behavior Why (in hetero relationships) women want their men to be more emotional, until it happens The fine line between ‘being emotional’ and ‘trauma dumping’ The pair also discuss ways to support the alpha males in our lives by fostering an environment that encourages emotional expression, vulnerability, and genuine connection. We ask - do men need to heal with men? In relationships? Or in community? And Zack tells us all. Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it. ------ 🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍 https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/ https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_ https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/ 💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline 💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories HEAL WITH LOUISE ✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion ✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop ✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up ✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices