Dive into the transformative lessons learned over the past year! Discover how our nervous systems influence relationships and why feeling good can sometimes mislead us. Explore the significance of addressing our inner child's needs and the importance of shadow work. Unpack the complexities of love bombing, red flags, and the inadequacy wound. Plus, gain insights on navigating anxious attachment styles. Ultimately, it's about embracing growth and fostering healthier connections for an incredible year ahead!
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Quick takeaways
Prioritizing self-awareness over traditional resolutions fosters profound personal growth and encourages healthier relationship dynamics.
Understanding emotional triggers and clarifying the nature of feelings can help avoid unhealthy relationship patterns and emotional manipulation.
Engaging in shadow work allows individuals to confront unresolved issues, promoting personal healing and enhancing connections with others.
Deep dives
Embracing Self-Awareness Over Resolutions
Focusing on self-awareness rather than traditional New Year's resolutions can lead to profound personal growth. By cultivating a deeper understanding of one's actions and the actions of others, individuals can prevent slipping into negative behavior patterns. This heightened self-awareness allows people to engage with authenticity and recognize when they are interacting with those who may not have their best interests at heart. Changes in personal relationships and overall wellbeing can occur when one prioritizes a genuine connection with oneself and others.
Revolutionizing Relationships
Transforming relationships begins with the relationship one has with oneself. When individuals work on self-improvement and healing, it has a ripple effect on all other relationships, whether with partners, friends, or family. This year, the focus will shift to understanding and enhancing these connections through insights from psychology and neuroscience. A key takeaway is that healthy relationships rely on personal growth and self-acceptance, paving the way for meaningful interactions with others.
The Perils of Misinterpreted Emotional Triggers
Misinterpreting feelings and experiences can lead to unhealthy relationship dynamics, particularly regarding emotional responses. Just because something initially feels good, such as a relationship or connection, it doesn't guarantee long-term benefits. Gaining awareness of personal emotional triggers can help individuals recognize unhealthy patterns, including love bombing or emotional manipulation. Understanding these triggers allows people to avoid falling into familiar but damaging relationship cycles.
The Importance of Shadow Work
Engaging in shadow work can provide valuable insights into one's emotional landscape and interpersonal dynamics. The discomfort experienced when observing negative traits in others often reflects unresolved issues within oneself. By examining these uncomfortable feelings, individuals can promote personal healing and growth. This process reveals that learning to embrace one's shadows can enable better self-understanding and improved relationships with others.
NavigatingHealing Through Critical Self-Awareness
The journey of self-discovery necessitates a balanced approach, considering both one's feelings and the behaviors of others. Acknowledging that feelings can sometimes be intensely disproportionate to the stimuli at play encourages a more nuanced understanding of relationships. This critical self-awareness allows individuals to take responsibility for their contributions to conflicts, facilitating healing and growth. Embracing this perspective not only promotes personal development but also fosters healthier dynamics in all relationships.
#138 - Happy new year to the loves of my LIVES (YOU GUYS!!!!). This fun, solo episode is EVERYTHING I wish I had learned sooner and everything that I learned the hard way in 2023 or through the OPENHOUSE therapists & their mic-drop moments. Today, I’m sharing them with you and whenever you’re streaming this episode, it’s full of things that would have saved me so much time, stress, chaos, grief and heartache if I had learned them a little bit sooner!
I jump into:
Why our nervous system drives EVERYTHING (including repeated partner choice)
Why just because it feels good doesn't mean that it's going to be good
Why your inner child isn't able to see right from wrong (& why your adult has to learn to take the reigns)
The power of shadow work and asking - what triggers me the most?
The magnet theory - how we pull towards or push against the exact types of experiences we have gone through previously
Why Love bombing doesn’t feel like love bombing if it’s the type of love we are desperate for
Why Red flags don't feel like red flags if they feel like home
Cheating, infidelity & the connection to the inadequacy wound that is never spoken about and
How we can find can find a world in our wound (and we need to step outside of it)
You cannot make an avoidantly attached partner love you more by loving them more
Join me on this fun, fresh episode so you can learn everything to have an INCREDIBLE 2024.