Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

138 - Goodbye Resolutions, Hello Realizations (2024/2025)

Jan 1, 2024

Dive into the transformative lessons learned over the past year! Discover how our nervous systems influence relationships and why feeling good can sometimes mislead us. Explore the significance of addressing our inner child's needs and the importance of shadow work. Unpack the complexities of love bombing, red flags, and the inadequacy wound. Plus, gain insights on navigating anxious attachment styles. Ultimately, it's about embracing growth and fostering healthier connections for an incredible year ahead!

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Quick takeaways

Prioritizing self-awareness over traditional resolutions fosters profound personal growth and encourages healthier relationship dynamics.

Understanding emotional triggers and clarifying the nature of feelings can help avoid unhealthy relationship patterns and emotional manipulation.

Engaging in shadow work allows individuals to confront unresolved issues, promoting personal healing and enhancing connections with others.

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Embracing Self-Awareness Over Resolutions

Focusing on self-awareness rather than traditional New Year's resolutions can lead to profound personal growth. By cultivating a deeper understanding of one's actions and the actions of others, individuals can prevent slipping into negative behavior patterns. This heightened self-awareness allows people to engage with authenticity and recognize when they are interacting with those who may not have their best interests at heart. Changes in personal relationships and overall wellbeing can occur when one prioritizes a genuine connection with oneself and others.

Intro

15min

Reflections on Resentment and Relationships

14min

The Burden of Inadequacy

8min

Shared Responsibilities in Relationships and the Power of Therapy

2min

Navigating Anxious Attachment and Relationship Dynamics

19min

Reflections on Growth and Community

3min

Happy new year to the loves of my LIVES (YOU GUYS!!!!). This fun, solo episode is EVERYTHING I wish I had learned sooner and everything that I learned the hard way in 2023 or through the OPENHOUSE therapists & their mic-drop moments. Today, I’m sharing them with you and whenever you’re streaming this episode, it’s full of things that would have saved me so much time, stress, chaos, grief and heartache if I had learned them a little bit sooner!

I jump into:

Why our nervous system drives EVERYTHING (including repeated partner choice)
Why just because it feels good doesn't mean that it's going to be good
Why your inner child isn't able to see right from wrong (& why your adult has to learn to take the reigns)
The power of shadow work and asking - what triggers me the most?
The magnet theory - how we pull towards or push against the exact types of experiences we have gone through previously
Why Love bombing doesn’t feel like love bombing if it’s the type of love we are desperate for
Why Red flags don't feel like red flags if they feel like home
Cheating, infidelity & the connection to the inadequacy wound that is never spoken about and
How we can find can find a world in our wound (and we need to step outside of it)
You cannot make an avoidantly attached partner love you more by loving them more

Join me on this fun, fresh episode so you can learn everything to have an INCREDIBLE 2024.

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