Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

You’ve heard me say it before and you’ll hear me say it again, what you focus on grows. If you want more positive behavior, notice it. Call attention to it. We all love to be acknowledged for our efforts to do the decent thing. As a bonus, recognizing someone else doing something good helps you feel better, too. This episode sponsored by: Better Help Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been telling someone how you feel about something, and they told you to just calm down? Or that you’re over-reacting? Or that you shouldn’t feel that way? It didn’t feel good, right? Today I’m sharing the opposite of that approach–aka, validating–aka, how to help the people you talk to feel seen, heard, and understood. Once you get the hang of this, it’s so fun, because you know what to do to truly help someone feel better. This episode sponsored by: Better Help Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m interviewing Colleen Doyle Bryant, author of Rooted in Decency: Finding Inner Peace in a World Gone Sideways because, I mean… a) we need it and b) if that doesn’t fit the theme of being a better person, honestly, I don’t know what does!I asked Colleen, what decency even is, why it feels like it’s on the decline, and what kinds of things each of us can do as individuals to help bring back a culture of respect. She told me about how we all need a “Check Accuracy” light on our mental dashboard, and the power of a tiny little pause to help us connect instead of get disgusted (she also told me why it can feel like someone who sees things differently than you can make you want to squinch up your nose and turn your head away, as if you had just smelled something gross). I learned a lot and you will too when you give us a listen!Colleen Doyle Bryant’s websiteFollow Colleen on InstagramThis episode sponsored by: Better Help Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s no denying: There are a lot of bummers in the world. You could really spend all day, all week, maybe even your whole life just dwelling on them. While it’s true that bummers exist, it’s not the whole story. There are also plenty of beautiful, uplifting, heartwarming things in the world. Lately I got a reminder that it’s on us to actively seek out the positive, and so now I’m passing that reminder on to you. Prepare to feel better!This episode sponsored by: Better Help Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a busy time of year so I’m bringing you a few more quick hits–simple, easy, quick things you can do to make the world a better place and to boost your own feelings of being a decent human. When it comes to making a difference in yourself and the world, there are two ways basic ways to approach it: increase the positive, or decrease the negative. Today’s episode is about the second half of that equation. This episode sponsored by: Better Help Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s big idea is that there is a balance that you’ve got to strike in order to improve your relationship to life admin. And that is to make peace with the fact that while the human brain loves to close open loops–and cross things off the to-do list–it’s also true that there will always, always be more to do on the adulting front. So you can't let your peace of mind depend on how many things are left on your to-do list. Here's some insight on to how to make peace between doing, and never being done.Contribute your tips and successes to the Life Admin Tipsheet!How to Be a Better Person Tees, Mugs, Totes & More 35 percent off through Sun 11/13!!! This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BETTERPERSON and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s big idea is actually three ideas for making life admin less overwhelming. These are mindset shifts that will help you think about adulting differently--a key step in making it all feel a little less relentless.Contribute your tips and successes to the Life Admin Tipsheet!How to Be a Better Person Tees, Mugs, Totes & More 35 percent off through Sun 11/13!!! This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BETTERPERSON and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Frankly, life admin just makes me want to lie down. Which is why I’m excited to be interviewing my friend, Jessica Tudos, a mindful organizer based in Toronto whom I always love talking to about how to get a grip on the many facets of life while still respecting things like creativity and being moved by inspiration and having a lot of things going on because you’re genuinely interested in a lot of things–something Jessica calls being multi-passionate. In today's episode, Jessica dishes up how she keeps all the details of life contained, and how you can do it, too, in a way that suits your personality and your life. I learned a ton!Contribute your tips and successes to the Life Admin Tipsheet!How to Be a Better Person Tees, Mugs, Totes & More 35 percent off through Sun 11/13!!! This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BETTERPERSON and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scheduling is one of my VERY LEAST favorite life admin tasks. Am I the only one with an allergy to planning for something that's not related to having fun? Today’s big idea is my very best tip to make sure that you have the majority of the appointments that you, your pet, and your family needs with next to no effort on your part.Contribute your tips and successes to the Life Admin Tipsheet!This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BETTERPERSON and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the podcast I’m talking about how to take better care of all the details of life–making appointments, paying bills, prepping your taxes, keeping your paperwork up to date, your car maintained, your communication handled, etc., etc., etc. In other words, I’m talking about adulting. And when I went to research this topic I realized it had a very technical sounding name: life admin. Which simultaneously made me feel a mixture of grief and relief--a simultaneous feeling of, no wonder I’ve been feeling the way that I have, and, dang, I guess this is really a thing that must be reckoned with. Let's do it, together.Contribute your tips and successes to the Life Admin Tipsheet!This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BETTERPERSON and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices