Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

SOLO SHOW!!Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine.I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition.And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!! I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us! "There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be." “We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.” “Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.” “Really, it’s about doing less.” What you’ll hear in this episode:- The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids- Sustainable ambition theory - Survival Mode, Momentum, Thrival Mode- Learning to live outside of survival mode- Meditation as a tool in parenting and life- Why it’s easier to teach a child to meditate than an adult- Co-creation as mindfulness- Mindfulness for older kids- Parenting as emotional growth on steroids- The value of quiet- Listening to your child without trying to fix them as mindfulness- Giving yourself permission to let go of how things look- The responsibility of personal growth and the intergenerational impacts What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Being yourself, simply put. Being yourself and having the courage to figure out who that is and what that feels like and just keep going after the things that light you up, because that’s joy and it’s going to be uncomfortable to do that. Resources:Heather’s TEDx talkTeach Your Kid To Meditate Where to find Heather:WebsiteMom is in Control PodcastInstagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SOLO SHOW – woohooLet’s talk about intuition today…. Well, I am going to J Connecting dots with Eps 154 Dan Siegel interview The ability to sift through the experience you’re having and everything that is calling inside of you – and create space to show up as our best selves We all have an inner knowing, inner voice – where we can tap into deep wisdom Making sense of our spiritual experience Finding intuition while navigating my parenting How conditioning supports/gets in the way How do we tease apart intuition from fear/conditioning/doubt “What if the first hit is true?” “What if our stories and experiences are offered to us to develop our intuition?” Growing our “hub of awareness” requires practice PRACTICE MATTERS Becoming an outside observer takes practice We move towards what is familiar Sacred Contracts Caroline Myss Trust What happens when we choose in to the practice of developing space for our intuition? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Join us!"The most important gift we can give our kids is showing up with our mental presence, not just physically being present but to have the state of awareness and open to who they actually are.""Presence is a state of perceptive awareness.""Information is transformation.""You have the ability to cultivate the presence of mind through these very simple and accessible practices that are going to bring health to your body, slow the aging process, reduce stress, all these positive things and the same exact process, developing your hub of your wheel of awareness, presence, can actually deeply enrich the way your child is soaking in his or her relationship with you and developing this experience of being seen, of being soothed, of being safe, of being secure that research shows is exactly what your child needs to optimize how they go out into life, and that's something you're empowered to create."What you’ll hear in this episode:-The wheel of awareness - what it is and how it helps -How awareness impacts your body and health -How being present impacts the speed of the aging process-Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present-Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it-Cultivating awareness-Role modelling resilience-How awareness feeds connection vs control-Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children-Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting-Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents-Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness-Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help-Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress-The 3 O's what they meanResources:Mind, A Journey To The Heart of Being HumanBrainstorm, The Power and purpose of the teenage brain The Whole Brain Child No Drama DisciplineThe Yes BrainAware: The Science and Practice of Presence The Telomere Effect by Elizabeth Blackburn Where to find Dr. Siegel:FacebookTwitterYoutubeInstagramLinkedInWebsiteMindsight InstituteUCLA Mindful Research Centre Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Naomi Gottlieb-Miller. She is a mom, yoga teacher, self-care advocate, Air Force spouse and Star Trek nerd. She is passionate about working with busy moms and empowering them to take better care of themselves so they can re-write the story of what healthy motherhood feels like. She loves to make yoga fun and accessible for everyone she works with. Naomi is passionate about helping people find space for their daily yoga practice. We are discussing yoga, self care and parenting.Join us!"Yoga is not just what you do on your mat but it's how you live your life." What you’ll hear in this episode: Parallels between yoga and parenting Self exploration in yoga and parenting How what we read influences our perception of how we parent Making decisions about what matters to us vs what we "should" do Yoga on social media and competition The five second rule and how it relates to self-care Habit change personality types Yoga as a practice and how it relates to ego The difference between simple and easy Feeling into action and engaging - in yoga and parenting Being with the discomfort in parenting and yoga Therapeutic irritation and holding space and identifying appropriate times for release Creating conscious conversations with our kids Baby steps for starting yoga Starting small as a way to inspire more future What is a mantra and why is it helpful?  Resources:Naomi’s introductory Yoga videos on her Youtube channel NaomiGottliebMillerWhere to find:Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube: NaomiGottliebMillerTransform Chaos To Calm Program Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Katie Hurley. She is a child and adolescent psychotherapist specializing in anxiety disorders and stress and learning differences and author. She is the author of The Happy Kid Handbook and No More Mean Girls. She runs empowerment groups for girls. We are discussing girls and their relationships. Join us! "We have to load them with coping skills because life is hard.""Teach them coping skills. Teach them how to be kindness warriors. Teach them how to engage in a positive way on social media so that other girls start to follow suit....""We owe it to our girls to stop labelling them and let them grow into themselves.""The more we fail and the more we fail out loud and accept it and acknowledge it and talk about it with other people, the more we grow as humans.""We have to stop this cult of perfectionism among our girls and the best way to do that is to really open up to them and tell them what we go through." What you’ll hear in this episode:-The changing landscape in the world of girls and bullying-Why these relationship challenges are starting earlier than ever-Toxic competition and how it impacts relationships between girls-How conditioning for high achievement can impact girls-Shifts in educational expectations and how that affects children-How attitudes towards sports have changed and what that has meant for girls-Social emotional learning and the expectation it should happen at home vs. at school-Belonging and significance in relationships between girls-How building empathy can be helpful-The Iceberg Metaphor and how it relates to conflict between girls- Protective instincts and how they impact coaching empathy and understanding-Clique behaviors and how they can impact girls-Modelling those behaviors as parents and exercising compassion in moments of frustration-Social media culture and how it removes safe spaces at home from interpersonal conflict between kids-Checking off the boxes and how it can create overwhelm-How not letting kids make choices can create stress and cause problems later in life-The importance of coping skills and raising kindness warriors-The impact of how we talk about school shooters and how that impacts their in-school relationships-How social engineering by parents can impact our girls-Understanding where parental interference in interests and social relationships can affect them-Peer pressure among parents to "check the boxes" for our kids in terms of their extracurricular activities-How labels affect and limit our girls What does Joyful Courage mean to you?To me, it just means being joyful about taking great leaps. It's okay wherever you land. Know that you're okay wherever you land and you can always make adjustments and give it another shot. Resources:The Happy Kid HandbookNo More Mean Girls Where to find Katie:PracticalKatie.comFacebookTwitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Danielle Slaughter. Danielle is an Academic turned mommy. She has Bachelors of Arts from the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor and a Masters of Arts in English from Georgia State University. With a doctoral background in English, focusing on Rhetoric and Composition, Danielle likes to call herself and mothers like her “Mamademics”. Mamademics is a merging of her two “careers”–motherhood and academia. She lives in Atlanta with her husband and two sons were she runs both of her businesses Mamademics and Raising an Advocate.Danielle has an award-winning blog as well as composition work. She is a 2015 recipient of the Type-A Parent’s We Still Blog Award. A 2016 recipient of the Conference on College Composition and Communications Scholar for the Dream Award. A BlogHer Voices of the Year Winner for 2016 and 2017. As well as a two-time nominee for an Iris Award for Most Engaging Content (2017 and 2018).I found Danielle this past spring when I was searching for the voices of POC in the parenting world. If you listened to episode 142 you know that I made a pledge to search out a variety of voices and personalities to come and be on the show. Danielle does really important work, and I recently completed a course she offers called “Raising an Advocate” – Danielle has written a lot about the role white women play in raising social justice advocates, as well as the power white women also have to get in the way of social justice….Where to find Danielle:Facebook | Mamademics Website Check out Mamedemics Website to get to the Raising an Advocate course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SOLO SHOW!!I am on speaking directly from the tranches…. Feeling the stretch and pull of raising adolescent kids. Kind and firm, yes, and IT’S HARD!! Moving into summer and thinking about routines and agreements.Enjoy!Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and StructuresEps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior:::Become a Joyful Courage PATRON!You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Lindsay McCarthy, author of The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families. Lindsay is a homeschooling mama with two children, a writer and the founder of GratefulParent.com. We are discussing how you can integrate The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families into your day. Join us!What you’ll hear in this episode:-How The Miracle Morning For Parents And Families came to be-What the Miracle Morning includes-How to involve your kids in your Miracle Morning-The power of waking on your own terms-How waking up early adds capacity for parents to expand their emotional resources-The value of unstructured play and creating as a practice for kids-Creativity, Health, Affirmations, Reading, Meditation and Service, and how they can help kids start their day off right-Habit stacking as a way to build a Miracle Morning-How a Miracle Morning can help you look at bedtime routine-Building flexibility into your Miracle Morning-Starting small with habit changes-How to encourage older kids to participate-Combining components of the Miracle Morning to save time-Trying a Miracle Evening as an alternative              What does Joyful Courage mean to you?To me, courage it means being afraid but doing it anyways. Like, writing a book, for example. And then the joyful part of that is just allowing it to really fill you up and spread light to the world. Stepping into your own light and your own power and doing the things you're afraid to do anyway.Resources:The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families The Miracle Morning for College Students The Miracle MorningWhere to find Lindsay:GratefulParent.com Facebook Group - Miracle Morning For Parents And Families Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Solo Show – woop woop! It is all me today people, and I am so excited to be sharing some powerful thoughts and experiences with you today. Wading through our experience to support out children The writing process Going deeper into what parents can uncover/discover for themselves We have an external experience of raising kids – everything that happens outside of us We also are having an internal experience – the ways that our physical body feels, sensations, also the emotional experience that we are having, what gets brought up by the external stimuli External and internal are both happening at the same time Based on what our experiences have been in life, our relationships in life, we have a lens that we see the world out of Sometimes the internal response “works” for us We have a well wired survival system – amygdala – but our survival system isn’t always what is needed in our daily life The pendulum swing of raising/living with teens – everything is great until it is not, parents are the anchor that witness/hold space and it’s hard to remember that the behavior is a pendulum swing. Connect /loving vs dysregulation/discouragement We (parents) go into “fix it” mode Alternative – recognizing what is happening physically in my body, seeing what is happening for me, what is the lens I am looking out of? Fear – tension in the body – belly/jaw When kids feel discouraged, they tend to want to share the feeling with others Looking below the surface - the iceberg metaphor Episode 129 Episode 103 Episode 110 Today is a reminder that there is so much going on under the surface…. Curiosity as a guide AND it’s ok and important to recognize where you are at physically/emotionally and taking a pause to get yourself together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices