Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens Eps 118: Tosha Schore talks about how we can parent our boys for a more PEACEFUL world
My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems.
A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly.
Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!"
You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.
Content:
- Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity
- Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned
- Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time
- The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide
- How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article
- Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO
- Opportunity shows up in raising our boys
- We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual
- It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate
- Documentary of The Mask You Live InNot giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys
- Navigating the jockeying for power among boys
- Redefining what it means to be masculine
- What is being modeled in the homes for our boys?
- Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset
- Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions
- Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings
- Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger
- Popular culture isn’t helpful
- Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings
- AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them
- When our boys make mistakes we need to help them
- Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG
- Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children’s sexual development
- Start talking to your boys
- Don’t let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves
- Amy’s short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids
- Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others
- Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what’s right”
- Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit
- Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!!
- Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief
- Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem
Where to find Tosha:
10 day reconnect parenting boys peacefully
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