1 in 6 people are narcissists, Dr. Ramani discusses spotting narcissists, types of narcissism, and if narcissists are better in bed. Exploring social media's impact, gender differences in narcissism, and where it stems from. Are narcissists more successful, and how to know if you are one.

This week’s episode is all about a subject familiar to many of us: self-sabotage. Whether it’s the inability to stick to our health goals, leave a toxic relationship, or get that promotion, we often seem to be our own worst enemies. Self-sabotage is a spectrum of feelings, beliefs, and behaviours, but they all set us up to fail.  Dr Ramani Durvasula is a clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology at California State University, and a world-renowned expert on narcissistic personality disorder. She’s written two books on the subject, Should I Stay or Should I Go and Don’t You Know Who I Am. She hosts the podcast Navigating Narcissism, and posts regularly on her YouTube channel, which has over 1 million subscribers. In this conversation, we talk about relationships not with others, but with ourselves. Dr Ramani talks us through the common ways in which many of us self-sabotage, including procrastination, social comparison, taking on too much and not living in alignment with our values. She explains their links to anxiety and perfectionism and shares the practical solutions that she uses with clients to overcome them. If you’ve ever considered having therapy, Dr Ramani provides some useful insights about how it can work. We discuss a wide range of topics, including why so many of us stick around in toxic, unsupportive relationships, the importance of cultivating friendships and communities outside the home and not expecting our romantic partner to be all things to us. And you’ll hear Dr Ramani explain a new way of thinking about our inner critic. Dr Ramani has decades of real world experience helping her clients, she is a brilliant communicator and this is a conversation full of fresh insights and practical insights that you are going to be able to implement immediately.Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com.Thanks to our sponsors:https://www.athleticgreens.com/livemorehttps://www.vivobarefoot.com/livemoreShow notes https://drchatterjee.com/332DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.Today, I am talking to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations.   Dr. Ramani shares her studies about narcissism and our narcissistic tendencies. She and I talk about how our personalities define how we act with people and around people, why narcissists are resistant to change and to how deal with one, the truth about gaslighting and why it is so unhealthy to the person at the receiving end, and why we shouldn't misplace our hopes in others and instead place it on ourselves.      What We Discuss:00:00:00 Intro00:03:11 When did narcissism become a study of focus?00:07:06 Narcissism is a very quiet condition00:12:45 Awareness and discomfort00:19:37 How do people end up with a narcissistic personality?00:26:25 Narcissists can be very attractive00:33:26 The concept of multiple truths00:36:40 Love bombing00:41:08 The real meaning of gaslighting00:47:05 Dealing with a gaslighter00:53:35 “I can change this person.”01:00:07 Ultimate healing from a narcissistic relationship01:04:31 Setting healthy boundaries01:06:49 Adopting narcissistic patterns to be able to fight back01:09:20 Misplaced hopeEpisode ResourcesDr. Ramani Durvasula | WebsiteDr. Ramani Durvasula | YouTubeDr. Ramani Durvasula | TwitterDr. Ramani Durvasula | InstagramDr. Ramani Durvasula | FacebookNavigating Narcissism with Dr. RamaniWant to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do I know if I’m in a relationship with a narcissist?Are certain personalities more drawn to narcissists?Can I heal if I was raised by a narcissist?How do I handle narcissists at work?Why do I keep attracting narcissists into my life?How can I keep a narcissist in my life… and not go crazy? And, most of all: What EXACTLY do I do to cope with narcissists? You have been flooding my inbox with questions since Dr. Ramani Durvasula, the world’s leading expert on narcissism, spoke about it on the podcast. You asked to bring her back and I’m listening: Dr. Ramani is here with answers to all of your questions. This episode is for you if you… Have no idea what narcissism isWere raised by a narcissistAre married to a narcissistThink you might be dating a narcissistWork with/for a narcissist Want to know the telltale red flags so you’re better preparedAre afraid you’re a narcissist Today you get: Two important tools to help you start your own healing and create boundariesKey takeaways to help you move forwardOne solid truth that will ground you in your confidence  You’ll also learn: What you can do today to begin your own healingHow to stay in a relationship with a narcissist and maintain your sanityThe signs to watch for to know if you’re with a narcissistWhat gaslighting looks like in real lifeThe situations that make you more susceptibleHow to coach your friend who’s dating a narcissistIf you’re more prone to attracting narcissistsWhy you ditch the “good ones” for the “bad ones”About “trauma bonds” The signs of “love bombing”About the “Golden Goose” phenomenon in the workplaceWhat yellow rocking and gray rocking are Listen in on today’s conversation. You will not only be glad you did – you’ll also leave armed with the knowledge, tools, and resources you need to diffuse the impact of a narcissist, get your power back, and know that whatever it is that this person says or does – it’s not your fault. Xo, Mel  PS: Once you’re done with this one, if you haven’t had a chance to listen to Dr. Ramani’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast, absolutely spend some time listening to it:  “5 Signs You’re Dealing With a Narcissist & How To Protect Yourself”

Narcissism is on the rise and you need to learn how to spot it in other people and have tools to protect yourself. We all know those people who constantly turn a conversation toward themselves, who only call you when they want something, and who have a way of making everything someone else’s fault. Well, guess what? Turns out narcissism goes far beyond that. I’m telling you right now, even if you THINK you know what a narcissist is, you need to listen. I thought I knew, yet I’m still reeling from all my breakthrough moments. Do you have a narcissist in your life? Maybe you grew up with one. Maybe you work with one. Maybe you married one. Maybe you don’t know what the hell a narcissist is! Pull up a seat at the table with me because class is IN session. Narcissism is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days, so how do you know if you’re *really* dealing with a narcissist? You have been blowing up my email and DMs about this topic, so Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to answer your questions. She’s the world’s leading expert on narcissism and someone I’ve followed and admired for years. I love how she breaks down the topic of narcissism in a way that’s understandable, simple, and packed with tools you can apply the second you learn them. Listen in as she shines a light on the REAL definition of a narcissist and the 5 warning signs you need to know if you’re dealing with one. This topic is so juicy – and so surprising – that you’re going to be shocked by what you learn. One part in particular will change how you approach narcissists in your life from this day forward. That’s exactly what happened to me. I have somebody in my life, a very prominent somebody, who absolutely displays narcissistic tendencies, and I have spent years in therapy dealing with it. So I actually got out of my chair and hugged Dr. Ramani after everything she taught me and you in this amazing episode! If you get something out of this episode, or if you have a friend that has struggled with a narcissist in their life, please share this with them. And if you think a person is a narcissist, don't even bother sharing, because if there's one thing you're going to learn: you don't want to EVER call one out… That's just one of the many rules you're going to learn to follow in order to protect yourself from narcissistic behavior. This episode is jam-packed with teachable moments that will leave you seeing the narcissists in your life with 20-20 insight. You’ll learn how to not only deal with them but also end this episode with the tools to heal. And that, my friend, could be the takeaway that changes your life forever. Xo Mel For full show notes, visit www.melrobbins.com

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, expert on narcissism, debunks myths and discusses warning signs of narcissism in relationships. Learn how to heal and move on after being hurt by a narcissistic person.

Exploring narcissism, identifying toxic relationships, and setting healthy boundaries with Dr Ramani Durvasula. Discussion on the impact of narcissistic behaviors on health, society, and relationships. Insights on gaslighting tactics, manipulation, and healing from narcissistic relationships. Emphasis on self-awareness, setting boundaries, and recognizing red flags in toxic dynamics.

Renowned psychologist and narcissism expert Dr. Ramani Durvasula discusses dealing with difficult people and toxic relationships. Learn how to identify toxic behavior, set boundaries, and focus on self-healing. Explore coping strategies for handling interactions with narcissistic individuals, including family dynamics and healing from past abuse. Dr. Ramani's insights provide tools for maintaining personal growth and navigating challenging relationships with grace.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a prominent clinical psychologist and expert on narcissism, dives into the intricate dynamics of narcissistic behavior. She provides insights on identifying different types of narcissists and recognizing toxic relationships. Key topics include the impact of narcissistic parenting and the roles children adopt, dealing with manipulation tactics like gaslighting and love bombing, and essential tools for healing. Dr. Ramani encourages listeners to set boundaries and engage in self-reflection to navigate their relationships with narcissistic individuals.

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist known for her expertise in narcissism and its impact on relationships, shares invaluable insights into recognizing narcissistic traits. She highlights how narcissists often charm their way into relationships, only to reveal their true selves within months. Dr. Ramani introduces the '3 Rs'—Ruminate, Regret, and Recall—to help listeners identify problematic patterns in their relationships. She emphasizes the importance of early recognition to empower individuals to break free from the emotional traps set by narcissists.