Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist and expert on narcissism, sheds light on misconceptions about narcissists and their impact on relationships. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags and setting boundaries to protect oneself from toxic dynamics. The discussion also differentiates between narcissistic personality disorder and traits, highlighting the emotional struggles of victims. Dr. Ramani shares practical strategies for self-love and resilience, encouraging listeners to navigate relationships with greater awareness.
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Narcissists' Self-Perception
Narcissists don't actually love themselves; they're driven by self-loathing and project their insecurities onto others.
They live in a state of constant anxiety, anger, and victimhood, making it a miserable existence.
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Vulnerability to Narcissism
Athletes and entrepreneurs are at risk of falling for narcissists because they're doers used to fixing things with effort.
This mindset makes it difficult to surrender and accept that some relationships can't be fixed.
question_answer ANECDOTE
Diminishing Success
Lewis Howes shares how past partners reacted negatively to his successes, making it about their own lack of achievement.
He realized healthy relationships involve mutual support and celebration, not insecurity.
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How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility
Ramani Durvasula
This book by Dr. Ramani Durvasula provides an exhaustive examination of narcissism and its impact on relationships, workplaces, families, friendships, and society at large. It explains how narcissism develops, its traits, and how to handle narcissistic individuals. The book is written in a conversational and compassionate tone, making it approachable and informative. Dr. Durvasula offers practical advice on setting boundaries, maintaining empathy, and surviving in a culture increasingly influenced by narcissism and entitlement.
Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Mindy Diamond
The mask of masculinity
How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives
Lewis Howes
In 'The Mask of Masculinity,' Lewis Howes explores the nine masks that men wear to protect themselves from emotional vulnerability. These masks include the Stoic Mask, Athlete Mask, Material Mask, Sexual Mask, Aggressive Mask, Joker Mask, Invincible Mask, Know-it-all Mask, and Alpha Mask. Through personal anecdotes, interviews with psychologists and notable figures like Tony Robbins and Alanis Morissette, Howes provides a roadmap for men to remove these masks and achieve true fulfillment. The book also offers insights for women to better understand the men in their lives and how to support them in their journey towards emotional freedom and deeper relationships.
Today’s guest is Dr. Ramani Durvasula. She’s a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology at California State University in Los Angeles. The focus of Dr. Ramani’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the cause and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. She’s also the best-selling author of “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in the Era of Narcissism, Entitlement and Incivility. This is a topic that truly fascinated me so much that I split this episode into two parts! Make sure to listen to part 1 by going to www.lewishowes.com/1195
In this episode we discuss the biggest misconceptions about narcissists, the essential components of every healthy relationship, the red flags to watch out for in your own relationships, the difference between narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic personality traits, the key to loving yourself in a more fulfilling way, how to create boundaries with a narcissist, and so much more!
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