

Justin Lehmiller
Social psychologist and Kinsey Institute research fellow. He runs a sex and psychology blog and podcast and is the author of Tell Me What You Want.
Top 10 podcasts with Justin Lehmiller
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Feb 28, 2025 • 1h 3min
You Won’t Believe How Many People Have This Sex Fantasy ft. Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a research scientist at The Kinsey Institute and expert on human sexuality, joins the discussion on sexual fantasies and desires. They unveil the surprising prevalence of multi-partner scenarios, taboo desires, and kink. The conversation highlights the psychological layers of these fantasies, the impact of pornography, and the importance of communicating desires in relationships. They also delve into cuckolding and infidelity, emphasizing open dialogue as key to intimacy. Plus, learn about the health benefits of masturbation and its role in self-care.

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Aug 20, 2024 • 57min
Best Of: Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller
Social psychologist Justin Lehmiller from the Kinsey Institute joins to explore the surge in sexual experimentation during the pandemic and its connection to heightened communication. He shares insights on enhancing casual sex for women, emphasizing pleasure. The discussion dives into the fluidity of sexuality, the dynamics of threesomes, and the necessity of transparency in sexual experiences. Lehmiller also highlights the Dutch approach to sex education, advocating for open conversations with kids about boundaries and consent.

Nov 14, 2025 • 56min
#1176 Justin Lehmiller: The Science of Desire, and The Most Common Sexual Fantasies
Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author of *Tell Me What You Want*, dives into the science of sexual fantasies. He explains what constitutes a sexual fantasy and how paraphilias differ from them. Lehmiller reveals seven core fantasy themes, explores their origins, and shares insights on how societal and cultural factors shape our desires. He discusses the differences in fantasies across genders and the importance of consent. Listeners will find out why sharing fantasies can enhance intimacy, and the complexities involved in acting on them.

May 30, 2022 • 47min
Justin Lehmiller - The Science Of Sexual Fantasies
Justin Lehmiller, a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of 'Tell Me What You Want,' dives into the intriguing world of sexual fantasies. He reveals how common desires often reflect cultural and personal insecurities. Lehmiller discusses findings from his extensive survey on American fantasies and emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships. He also explores the complexities of friends with benefits dynamics and how fantasies can evolve over time, enhancing intimacy when shared with partners.

Apr 2, 2025 • 16min
Moment: Sex Researcher Explains Why Men Enjoy C*ckolding! ft. Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a sex researcher and author of 'Tell Me What You Want,' joins to unravel the allure of cuckolding and the differing attitudes towards it in men and women. They explore the psychological appeal of humiliation and masochism, discussing how these fantasies can enhance intimacy. The conversation highlights the growing interest in kink among Gen Z and the critical gaps in sex education, emphasizing the need for open discussions about consent and healthy sexual exploration.

Jul 4, 2025 • 55min
Why Prioritizing Sexual Pleasure Makes You Healthier (Backed by Science) | ft. Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Kinsey Institute research fellow, reveals surprising insights about sexual fantasies, emphasizing that kink is more common than many think. He discusses how our fantasies reflect emotional needs and personal history, alongside tips for transparent communication with partners about desires. The conversation explores the rise in sexual experimentation post-pandemic, particularly in casual sex dynamics, and underscores the importance of self-awareness for achieving sexual fulfillment. Gender differences in pleasure and evolving views on casual relationships are also highlighted.

May 28, 2025 • 13min
Moment: The Surprising Health Benefits of Masturbation ft. Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a prominent sex researcher and author, joins to delve into the surprising health benefits of masturbation. They discuss its role in stress relief, improved sleep, and lower prostate cancer risk. Lehmiller highlights how masturbation can boost self-esteem, especially in women, and ease menopause symptoms. They also address the evolving challenges of accessing these benefits as people age, and the significance of creativity in maintaining a fulfilling sex life throughout the years.

Jan 6, 2025 • 53min
Easy A (2010) with Justin Lehmiller
Join Justin Lehmiller, host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, as he dives into the provocative themes of the 2010 film Easy A. The discussion tackles lingering sexual double standards, misconceptions around casual sex, and the importance of sex positivity. They critically assess the film's portrayal of adolescent sexuality and self-worth, highlighting societal attitudes towards women's sexual freedom. The need for open conversations about STIs and the evolution of romantic gestures in film also take center stage, making for an enlightening chat.

Jan 21, 2023 • 50min
What do your cuckolding fantasies say about you? - With special guest Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Dr. Justin Lehmiller discusses the stats and discoveries about cuckolding fantasies, including connections to BDSM and self-esteem. They explore the link between cuckolding fantasies and BDSM, communication in relationships, and upcoming Cuck Week events like panel discussions and matchmaking services.

Feb 9, 2021 • 1h 3min
SEXUAL ENERGY SERIES-4: Surprising Science About Human Desire – Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D. : 790
Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., a renowned expert on human sexuality and author of "Tell Me What You Want," dives into the fascinating complexities of sexual desire. He discusses how fantasies often feel strange but are more common than most believe. The conversation touches on the impact of age on openness about fantasies, the acceptance of non-monogamy, and the societal stigmas surrounding sexual discussions. Lehmiller highlights the psychology behind BDSM and encourages honest communication in relationships to enhance intimacy and understanding.


