Justin Lehmiller - The Science Of Sexual Fantasies

May 30, 2022

Justin Lehmiller, a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of 'Tell Me What You Want,' dives into the intriguing world of sexual fantasies. He reveals how common desires often reflect cultural and personal insecurities. Lehmiller discusses findings from his extensive survey on American fantasies and emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships. He also explores the complexities of friends with benefits dynamics and how fantasies can evolve over time, enhancing intimacy when shared with partners.

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ANECDOTE

A Transformative Experience

Justin Lehmiller's exposure to sex research in graduate school transformed his career path.
His experience as a teaching assistant for a human sexuality course highlighted the lack of sex education.

INSIGHT

Uncharted Territory in Sex Research

Many basic questions about sex remain unanswered due to limited research and funding.
Dr. Nicole Prowse's orgasm lab research challenges conventional understandings of orgasms.

INSIGHT

Seven Themes of Sexual Fantasies

A large-scale survey revealed seven main themes in sexual fantasies, including multi-partner sex, BDSM, and novelty.
These themes hold up across various demographics, normalizing diverse sexual interests.

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What we fantasize about sexually can say a lot about...well, a lot. Our insecurities, our identity, our culture, the list goes on. And what you might think is some strange niche only you hang out in might be more common than you think! This is the conversation the incredible Justin Lehmiller brought to the table, and I'm excited to share it with you. If you're with a part of any variety, listen in together for some great insights.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years.

He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world.

Dr. Lehmiller’s research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Connect with Justin:

-Website: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/

-LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinlehmiller

-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=r3pNkRoAAAAJ

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/justinlehmiller

-Book: Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/3x1vmvU

-Podcast: The Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/

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