Rena Malik, MD Podcast: Optimizing Health, Sex & Relationships with Science Backed Tips from Leading Experts Moment: Sex Researcher Explains Why Men Enjoy C*ckolding! ft. Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Apr 2, 2025
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a sex researcher and author of 'Tell Me What You Want,' joins to unravel the allure of cuckolding and the differing attitudes towards it in men and women. They explore the psychological appeal of humiliation and masochism, discussing how these fantasies can enhance intimacy. The conversation highlights the growing interest in kink among Gen Z and the critical gaps in sex education, emphasizing the need for open discussions about consent and healthy sexual exploration.
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Cuckolding Is Role-Dependent
- Cuckolding involves either watching your partner have sex or being watched while you have sex with others.
- Men report it more often and tend to prefer voyeuristic variants while women lean exhibitionistic.
Multiple Motivations Behind Cuckolding
- People pursue cuckolding for different motivations like ego, BDSM humiliation, or compersion.
- The fantasy can include chastity devices, orgasm denial, and status-based arousal depending on the person.
Humiliation Alters Headspace
- Humiliation is a psychological form of masochism that can be arousing because it changes headspace.
- That shift into 'subspace' reduces self-awareness and makes people feel present during sexual play.