What do your cuckolding fantasies say about you? - With special guest Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Jan 21, 2023
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller discusses the stats and discoveries about cuckolding fantasies, including connections to BDSM and self-esteem. They explore the link between cuckolding fantasies and BDSM, communication in relationships, and upcoming Cuck Week events like panel discussions and matchmaking services.
Positive attitudes towards sex and sensation-seeking tendencies correlate with cuckolding fantasies.
Cuckolding porn often includes BDSM elements like small penis humiliation and chastity cages.
Men with higher self-esteem are more likely to fantasize about cuckolding, debunking the 'cuck' slur.
Deep dives
Factors Influencing Cuckolding Fantasies
People with more positive attitudes towards sex and sensation-seeking tendencies are more likely to fantasize about cuckolding. Women often fantasize about cuckolding in an exhibitionistic role, while men prefer the voyeuristic role.
Link Between Cuckolding and BDSM
There are moderate linkages between cuckolding and all forms of BDSM, with a stronger connection for men. Cuckolding porn often features themes like small penis humiliation and chastity cages, aligning with BDSM elements.
Self-Esteem and Cuckolding Fantasies
Contrary to common beliefs, men with higher levels of self-esteem are more likely to fantasize about cuckolding. The term 'cuck' as a slur belittling self-esteem is debunked, as individuals with higher self-confidence often engage in these fantasies.
Gender Dynamics and Age in Cuckolding Fantasies
Cuckolding fantasies are common among men and women with erotophilic personalities and sensation-seeking traits. Fantasies peak in midlife, providing diversity and excitement in long-term relationships.
Approaching the Topic of Cuckolding with a Partner
When discussing cuckolding fantasies with a long-term partner, starting with low-pressure communication and using fantasy surveys or apps can help ease into the conversation. Encouraging open communication, exploring shared fantasies, and building trust are key components in navigating the exploration of cuckolding within a relationship.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller studied the sexual fantasies of thousands of Americans for his book "Tell Me What You Want" - The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. And through that extensive research he learned a lot about cuckolding! He joins Venus on this special pre-Cuck Week episode and dives into the stats, the discoveries, and all of the what we've learned about cuckolding fantasies so far - it's totally fascinating!LinksCuck Week Events - https://www.venuscuckoldress.com/eventsSex and Psychology blog and podcast: https://sexandpsychology.comTell Me What You Want: https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want/dp/0738234966?ref_=ast_sto_dpInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/Twitter: https://twitter.com/JustinLehmillerAbout Dr. Lehmiller:Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller is a much sought-after voice in the media on sexuality research and education. He has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, and CNN, and he has appeared on dozens of international radio, podcast, and television programs.Apps mentioned in the episode:X Confessions - https://apps.apple.com/us/app/xconfessions-the-couples-app/id1318649256Own Your Sex - https://www.ownyoursex.app/ Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://linktr.ee/venuscuckoldressLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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