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You Won’t Believe How Many People Have This Sex Fantasy ft. Dr. Justin Lehmiller

Feb 28, 2025

Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a research scientist at The Kinsey Institute and expert on human sexuality, joins the discussion on sexual fantasies and desires. They unveil the surprising prevalence of multi-partner scenarios, taboo desires, and kink. The conversation highlights the psychological layers of these fantasies, the impact of pornography, and the importance of communicating desires in relationships. They also delve into cuckolding and infidelity, emphasizing open dialogue as key to intimacy. Plus, learn about the health benefits of masturbation and its role in self-care.

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Justin Lehmiller

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Understanding common sexual fantasies reveals gender differences, with men gravitating towards multi-partner scenarios and women favoring romance and kink.

The reliance on pornography for sexual education can shape unrealistic expectations and fantasies among younger generations, necessitating better formal sex education.

Open communication about sexual desires is crucial for couples, as it enhances intimacy and helps navigate the introduction of new experiences in relationships.

Deep dives

Understanding Sexual Fantasies

Sexual fantasies vary widely among individuals, with distinct patterns often emerging based on gender. Research indicates that men tend to fantasize more about multi-partner scenarios and taboo activities, while women are more inclined towards fantasies involving passion, romance, and elements of kink or BDSM. This divergence highlights the complexity of sexual desires, with many individuals grappling with shame or guilt about their fantasies, especially those that are considered socially unacceptable. The recognition that such fantasies are common can be liberating, allowing individuals to embrace their sexual interests without stigma.

Intro

2min

Exploring the Depths of Sexual Fantasies

12min

Exploring Sexual Fantasies and Cuckolding

5min

Exploring Sexual Fantasies and Infidelity

20min

Navigating Conversations About Sex: Tips and Tools for Intimacy

4min

Playful Intimacy and Communication

6min

The Health Benefits of Masturbation

6min

Navigating Desire and Connection in Aging

7min

Enhancing Your Health and Sex Life

3min

In this episode of the Rena Malik, MD Podcast, Dr. Rena Malik welcomes Dr. Justin Lehmiller to explore the intriguing world of sexual fantasies and desires. They discuss the prevalence and nature of various fantasies like multi-partner scenarios, taboo desires, and kink, while also addressing the psychological nuances behind these fantasies. Dr. Malik and Dr. Lehmiller emphasize the importance of understanding and expressing one's fantasies to enhance communication and intimacy in relationships, offering listeners enlightening insights into the complexities of sexual desire.

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▶️Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction

00:02:43 Most Common Sexual Fantasies

00:05:02 Sexual Fantasies

00:11:53 Fantasy and Pornography

00:16:28 Cuckolding

00:21:04 Humiliation

0030:00 Novelty

00:38:06 Infidelity

00:44:59 Becoming a Good Kisser

00:49:52 Health Benefits of Masturbation

00:57:20 What's something you know now that you wish you knew earlier?

Stay connected with Dr. Justin Lehmiller on social media for daily insights and updates. Don’t miss out—follow him now and check out these links!

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/?hl=en

X - https://x.com/justinlehmiller?lang=en

Sex and Psychology - https://sexandpsychology.com

Apple Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-and-psychology-podcast/id1505460817

Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/6DCIGjOUaenoKdY71N7NqI?si=2320ebe17787443a&nd=1&dlsi=f0648d0cb03746ae

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) - https://www.aasect.org/

Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life - https://amzn.to/3QvZ6Ls

The Psychology of Human Sexuality - https://amzn.to/3QGv9YV

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death.

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