Sex With Emily Why Prioritizing Sexual Pleasure Makes You Healthier (Backed by Science) | ft. Dr. Justin Lehmiller
Jul 4, 2025
Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and Kinsey Institute research fellow, reveals surprising insights about sexual fantasies, emphasizing that kink is more common than many think. He discusses how our fantasies reflect emotional needs and personal history, alongside tips for transparent communication with partners about desires. The conversation explores the rise in sexual experimentation post-pandemic, particularly in casual sex dynamics, and underscores the importance of self-awareness for achieving sexual fulfillment. Gender differences in pleasure and evolving views on casual relationships are also highlighted.
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Pandemic Sparked Sexual Experimentation
- Post-pandemic, over half of Americans tried new sexual activities, with a significant pivot towards kink.
- Improved communication and willingness to explore fantasies characterize this shift.
Threesome Fantasy vs Reality
- Threesomes are the top sexual fantasy across genders, yet few have actually experienced one.
- Discrepancy between fantasy and reality often causes unsatisfying experiences without prior communication.
Communicate for Better Threesomes
- Successful threesomes require explicit communication and negotiation among all partners beforehand.
- Practice communication through virtual threesomes to improve real-life multi-partner sex experiences.
