Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Healing Your Attachment Wounds with Dr. Diane Poole Heller

Oct 25, 2021

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Secure attachment is nurtured by feeling safe and having responsive parents.

Avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized attachment styles stem from childhood interactions.

Healing attachment wounds involves body-based approaches to address trauma responses.

Deep dives

Understanding Attachment Theory and Patterns

Attachment theory delves into the importance of early relationships and their impact on adult attachment patterns. Secure attachment is fostered by feeling safe, protected, and having parents who are responsive and empathetic. The theory explains how childhood experiences shape our ability to form healthy relationships in adulthood, highlighting the role of compassion and understanding in overcoming attachment injuries.

Better Help on Being Well

04:18

What Are Attachment Styles?

03:24

What's the Story?

04:18

Introduction

5min

Toward Secure Attachment

2min

What Are Attachment Styles?

3min

I'm Not Avoidantly Attached to Forest, for Example.

3min

Trama and Insecure Attachment in General

2min

Is My Parent a Good Place Now?

6min

How to Get Out of a Tram in a Relationship

2min

Relationships - How Do You Work With People?

4min

What Signal Do You Think That Yelling Aloud Sends?

5min

10.

Better Help on Being Well

4min

11.

I Love You So Much, but You Dis Deflect It

3min

12.

I Don't Know What to Do With Love Out There Coming at Me

3min

13.

The Relational Field Ifyu - Body to Body

4min

14.

Is There a Pattern of Reactivity?

3min

15.

What's the Story?

4min

16.

How Can I Be a Friend to Myself?

2min

17.

The Four Major Forms of Attachment

6min

Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson focus on two of our most important subjects, attachment wounds and traumatic experiences, with a longtime therapist, trainer of therapists, and world-class expert on attachment theory: Dr. Diane Poole Heller.

About our Guest: Dr. Heller focuses on using somatic, or body-based, approaches to help people resolve the painful experiences and negative patterns that hold us back. Her work on adult attachment has created a path for adults with childhood attachment injuries to develop the secure attachment skills that lead to more connected and fulfilling adult relationships.

Key Topics:

2:30: What is attachment, and why should we care?

4:45: Secure attachment.

7:50: Avoidant attachment.

12:30: The potential for movement toward secure attachment.

16:00: Ambivalent (or anxious) attachment.

20:45: Disorganized attachment.

24:15: Somatic approaches to attachment wounds.

29:50: Allowing the body to move out of threat.

34:10: Secure attachment skills.

38:55: Repatterning ourselves.

47:20: Becoming more secure in connection.

50:30: Three questions to help calm relational activation.

55:45: A message to your younger self.

56:45: Recap

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Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Healing Your Attachment Wounds with Dr. Diane Poole Heller

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Understanding Attachment Theory and Patterns

Different Attachment Styles and Their Characteristics

Therapeutic Interventions for Healing Attachment Wounds

Understanding Shame and Practicing Self-Compassion through Kind Eyes Exercise

Repairing Attachment Styles: Healing Through Acknowledging Emotions and Patterns

Better Help on Being Well

What Are Attachment Styles?

What's the Story?

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Understanding Attachment Theory and Patterns

Different Attachment Styles and Their Characteristics

Therapeutic Interventions for Healing Attachment Wounds

Understanding Shame and Practicing Self-Compassion through Kind Eyes Exercise

Repairing Attachment Styles: Healing Through Acknowledging Emotions and Patterns

Better Help on Being Well

What Are Attachment Styles?

What's the Story?

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