Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Dr. Blaise Aguirre, a child and adolescent psychiatrist and medical director at McLean Hospital, dives deep into Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). He discusses extreme emotional sensitivity and its links to self-hatred and suicidality, shedding light on why patients with BPD often resonate with him as a clinician. Techniques like mindfulness and dialectical thinking are explored, along with ways to challenge self-critical narratives. Aguirre emphasizes stigma reduction and the potential for growth and healing in those with BPD.

Dr. Rick Hanson, a clinical psychologist and author known for his work on resilience, joins Forrest to discuss the complexities of toxic relationships. They explore why good-hearted people often stay in harmful situations, highlighting traits like empathy that can trap them. The conversation dives into red flags such as lovebombing and power imbalances, emphasizing the importance of self-trust for a healthy exit. They also address common patterns in therapy and provide practical steps for rebuilding one’s life after leaving a toxic relationship.

Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist and founder of Good Inside, shares invaluable insights into parenting and self-development. She highlights how unresolved childhood issues affect parenting styles and emphasizes the importance of reparenting ourselves for healthier relationships. The discussion covers emotional regulation, resilience over happiness, and the concept of 'sturdy' parenting, blending firmness with empathy. Dr. Becky also stresses the need for connection capital and the role of shame in children’s behavior, offering practical strategies for improvement.

Discover how to navigate the tricky waters of communication in relationships. The hosts tackle listener dilemmas, from boundary setting to managing passive-aggressive behaviors. They delve into the complexities of non-monogamy, focusing on ethics and trust dynamics. Plus, learn strategies for cultivating contentment, especially when faced with life's ups and downs. With practical advice and insightful discussions, this episode is a treasure trove for anyone looking to improve their relationships.

In this engaging conversation, Elizabeth Ferreira, an associate therapist and couples practitioner, explores the nuances of authenticity in relationships. She discusses how developmental trauma and societal pressures impact self-expression. Elizabeth emphasizes the importance of healthy anger and vulnerability in fostering connection, advocating for prioritizing each other's needs. She encourages 'dating yourself' to uncover true desires and celebrates the beauty of embracing your quirks. The insights on navigating change within partnerships are both profound and practical.

Kyle Robidoux, Executive Director of FriendshipWorks, dives into the pressing issue of social isolation among older adults and the transformative power of intergenerational friendships. He shares the inspiring story of Peter and Pooja, who defy age barriers through their weekly chats, evolving from a volunteer match to a cherished bond. The discussion highlights the benefits of community-driven programs, the prevalence of loneliness in older demographics, and how mutual support between generations enriches lives. Kyle emphasizes actionable steps for anyone eager to make meaningful connections.

In this engaging discussion, Dr. Lindsay Gibson shares insights on the impact of inconsistent parenting, while Dr. Bessel van der Kolk delves into how trauma shapes our inner lives. Dr. Mariel Buqué explores intergenerational trauma's transmission through family dynamics. Elizabeth Ferreira discusses complex PTSD and offers somatic techniques for healing. Stephanie Foo emphasizes the power of relational repair, and Dr. Peter Levine highlights body-centered approaches. Finally, Dr. Gabor Maté critiques how our toxic culture fosters trauma, framing illness as a potential path to authenticity.

Joe Hudson, an executive coach and founder of the Art of Accomplishment, shares insights on reducing self-punishment and embracing emotional clarity. He discusses 'The Golden Algorithm,' revealing how we often recreate avoided emotions. Joe emphasizes the importance of emotional fluidity, cognitive clarity, and nervous system awareness in achieving real growth. They explore the dismantling of limiting thoughts and the role of shame in stifling joy, while celebrating the beauty of imperfection and the necessity of understanding our desires through emotion.

Dr. Rick Hanson, a clinical psychologist and author, dives deep into emotional regulation, sharing practical tools to help us feel without being overwhelmed. He discusses common misconceptions about emotions and introduces key steps: feeling, managing, and processing our feelings. Topics like cognitive defusion, opposite action, and the importance of interoception are explored. Rick emphasizes the balance between acceptance and agency as crucial for healthy emotional regulation, making it a treasure trove of insights for anyone looking to understand their emotions better.

Dr. Rick and Forrest delve into the complex interplay between trauma and personality, providing insights on distinguishing learned behaviors from one’s authentic self. They tackle the challenge of establishing boundaries with loved ones facing depression, balancing duty with personal needs. Explosive anger is addressed through emotional processing techniques that encourage joining with the feeling. Finally, they discuss transitioning from empathic distress to compassion to combat caregiver burnout, offering practical strategies for self-care.