Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

The Freeze Response, Gifted Kid Syndrome, and BPD: July Mailbag

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Jul 14, 2025
Explore how early labels of being 'gifted' can lead to fear of failure and hinder personal growth. Discover ways to shift focus from perfectionism to enjoying the journey. Learn about the freeze response and the importance of rebuilding agency and resilience. Delve into the distinctions between borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder, and how they affect relationships. Finally, rethink modern friendship dynamics and the role of mutual support in nurturing fulfilling connections.
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INSIGHT

Potential vs. Actual Self

  • Focusing too much on an idealized future self distracts from appreciating your actual present self and capabilities.
  • Emotional history of criticism around performance can reinforce fear of trying and disappointment.
INSIGHT

Gifted Kid Syndrome Paralysis

  • Being labeled gifted can create paralysis caused by fear of disconfirming that potential.
  • Avoiding effort protects the gifted identity because failure would threaten it.
ADVICE

Gradual Risk-Taking Builds Confidence

  • Build inner strengths gradually by taking careful small risks that often succeed.
  • Internalize those successes to push back the invisible cage of fear and avoidance.
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