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Refusing to be Accountable: Responsibility, Boundaries, Intervention and Punishment

Dec 29, 2020

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The Importance of Taking Away the Nice Things From Violence

02:38

Deescalate the Violence - It's Not Your Job to Tell

02:00

Cancel Culture Work That Way?

02:08

Introduction

3min

Is There a Boundary?

2min

In Relationships of Integrity and Conflict Avoidance

4min

Is There a Difference Between Integrity and Breach?

3min

What Are Imperative Boundaries?

4min

Treat Others With Consideration

3min

Dating Culture From Monogamous People - Is That True?

2min

Is There Any Kind of Harm in Cancell Culture?

4min

Anarchism

2min

10.

Cancel Culture

3min

11.

Responsibility in the World

2min

12.

Exactly What Are Your Boundaries?

2min

13.

Relationships - You Know Your Own Boundaries, Right?

2min

14.

The Responsibility to Repair When Things Have Goed Wrong

2min

15.

How to Take Responsibility in the Context of 12 Steps

3min

16.

The Importance of Refusing Accountability

4min

17.

Is There a Commitment to Community?

4min

18.

Is This a Breach or a Break?

3min

19.

Relationship Counseling - Is There a Boundary?

4min

20.

What Are Your Boundaries?

2min

21.

How Do You Know if You Have a Boundary?

6min

22.

Is There a Border Between Desires and Needs?

3min

23.

Is It Your Responsibility to Communicate Your Boundaries?

2min

24.

You Can't Just Enforce Your Own Boundaries, Right?

3min

25.

Cancel Culture Is Abuse

2min

26.

What Is Intervention Work?

2min

27.

Anarchism

6min

28.

Is There a Difference Between Free Speech and Censorship?

3min

29.

Is Intervention Appropriate for the Internet?

2min

30.

Are You Rounding Up People to Harass?

4min

31.

The Importance of Taking Away the Nice Things From Violence

3min

32.

The Importance of Intervention in the Nexus

4min

33.

Intervening on Domestic Violence Situations

2min

34.

Deescalate the Violence - It's Not Your Job to Tell

2min

35.

Do You Want to Help Domestic Violence Survivors?

4min

36.

Can't Call the Cops?

2min

37.

Punishment Is Not Intervention, Right?

2min

38.

How Do You Justify Punishment?

2min

39.

Survivor of Child Abuse?

2min

40.

Is Carceral Judgment the Same as Inclusion?

4min

41.

Transformative Justice - What's Your Lineage?

3min

42.

What Are Consequences and Punishment?

3min

43.

Cancel Culture Is Not Consequences

3min

44.

Cancel Culture Work That Way?

2min

45.

Fucking Cancel Has Two l'S Because We're Canadian

2min

In Episode 6, we discuss different situations in which people hurt others and feel hurt by others, what distinguishes one type of such an experience from another, and what sorts of responses are appropriate. We unpack the terms ‘harm’ and ‘accountability’, often used in the Nexus but seldom defined, and tease apart some of the unstated assumptions underlying them. We offer a framework for understanding responses to situations of interpersonal discord, differentiating between responsibility, boundaries, intervention, and punishment.

Part of the Refusing to Be Accountable series.

Show Notes

Alan Robarge's Youtube channel (attachment theory)

The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy, by Deb A Dana

The Revolution Starts at Home, edited by Chen, Dulani, and Piepzna-Samarasinha

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Mixing and editing by Charlotte Dora.

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