The Kevin Miller Podcast

What is driving many people. Most of us. Is a lack of resolving. It’s politically correct to validate everyone’s pain and call it trauma. So on one hand you have an adult who suffered from severe abuse as a child, and on the other hand an adult who is still suffering from not making the football team. One was life threatening and the other was ego threatening. Making that statement will sound minimizing and likely gain me some criticism, but my point is to elevate the issue of resolution. The difference we find between the two is only the individuals ability to resolve the hurt. I know a lot of grown adults, me included, who have not had what they feel are big traumas, but they exist in an unsettled spirit. Often frustrated. Dissatisfied. Angry or sad. And they don’t know why. I posit that the issue is not what happened to us and judging it’s validity, but simply, have we, can we, resolve it? Drive with me a moment…Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevinGo to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial.Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevinGet 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout.Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsGo to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discountJoin thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU.If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Don’t be controlled by your emotions.” Think about that statement. It says to not be controlled by your emotions. As a culture and specifically with men over the span of history, I believe we misinterpreted it in two ways; 1) don’t show your emotions, and 2) let’s go further and label it manly and masculine and strong to just not have emotions. So we disdain showing and being emotional. And women we’ve deemed are more emotional and we’ve used their propensity to express emotions as weakness. Another poor interpretation that has hurt us all. I spent most of my life validating myself for being calm under pressure. There are some acute moments of tragedy where this helped. Then there is the other 99% of the time where I now look back and see what a coward I’ve been. Drive with me a moment to explore How To Manage & Not SuppressSign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevinGo to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial.Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevinGet 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout.Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsGo to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discountJoin thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU.If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I spent most of my life ignorant of my emotions. Only to find that they were there, and in abundance. And I wasn’t ignoring them, I had just become a pro athlete in avoiding them. And I contorted and distorted my life and psyche around them as a result. As I found more emotional intelligence however, I just became aware of how terrified I was of my emotions.. It made no sense, but I couldn’t escape my irrational fear of emotions that, while they were not life threatening to me physiologically, they seemed to be life threatening to me psychologically. I’ve been fervently at work on this, but just two weeks ago I received a great gift from a guest on the show. I’m very familiar with cold plunging. Immersing yourself in frigid water. And I’ve learned how to make peace with it. It’s not comfortable, but I’ve learned how to find comfort in myself, even as my skin rebels at the cold water. Emotional cold plunging is the same and I want to give this gift to you. Drive with me a moment.Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevinGo to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial.Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevinGet 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout.Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsGo to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discountJoin thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU.If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jennifer Mann and Karden Rabin are experts in mastering the nervous system and alternative healing. They dive into the emotional and physical impact of anxiety, sharing personal stories of overcoming chronic fatigue and trauma. The duo discusses the mind-body connection, advocating for emotional awareness and confronting discomfort as paths to growth. They challenge misconceptions about anxiety and OCD, emphasizing the healing power of recognizing emotions and understanding their roots. Their insights offer a hopeful approach to achieving balance in a stressful world.

Ashley Stahl, a strategist with a Master’s from King’s College London and a psychology background, shares her journey shaped by childhood trauma. She recounts a pivotal moment when her father's panic about money influenced her life path. The conversation dives into the impact of fear versus passion in motivation, the significance of childhood experiences on identity, and the quest for authentic self-discovery. Stahl emphasizes aligning one’s career with innate talents while navigating the shadows of past traumas.

Explore the fascinating concept of drive and how it can manifest in both positive and negative ways. The discussion highlights the importance of purposeful direction over mere drive, with engaging examples like road trips to illustrate navigating life. Self-reflection emerges as a key strategy for understanding personal desires and motivations. The power of insights from top entrepreneurship podcasts is also showcased, encouraging listeners to harness motivation for personal and professional growth.

Dr. Jamil Zaki is a Stanford psychology professor and author of 'Hope For Cynics'. In this discussion, he examines the delicate balance between trust and distrust in our society. Zaki reveals how our protective instincts often lead to cynicism, but challenges the notion that this skepticism truly enhances our safety. The conversation encourages listeners to explore their own beliefs and the implications of choosing hope over pessimism, emphasizing how trust can enrich personal connections and overall quality of life.

Dr. Jamil Zaki, a Stanford psychology professor, dives into the epidemic of cynicism pervasive in today's society. He argues that embracing hopeful skepticism can foster genuine connections and trust. Zaki highlights the cultural misconception that cynicism equates to intelligence, advocating for an open mind that balances critical thinking with positivity. He explores how our perceptions are often skewed by social media and advocates for self-compassion to combat negative beliefs. Ultimately, Zaki encourages us to recognize and harness the inherent goodness in humanity.

I really appreciate taking a topic where we think we know what drives us, and discovering the motives are actually coming from somewhere else. It allows us to come into better alignment and realize more benefit. In this case, the concept is kindness. We think we should be kind because it’s the right thing to do. And if we’re kind, then others will reciprocate and be kind to us in return. It’s usually under the “should” category of life. We “should” be kind. Especially to those we perceive as not so kind. Be kind to the person who cut you off in traffic. Be kind to the surly person behind the coffee counter. Be kind to your spouse who seems grumpy to you. When I’m interviewed on other podcasts, I’m often asked who some of my favorite guests have been or the most profound topics. I often cite Shaunti Feldhahn. Shaunti is a social researcher and best-selling author who investigates life-changing truths about relationships. I first got to know her through her book, “The Kindness Challenge – Thirty Days To Improve Any Relationship.” In it she uncovers that whether we thrive depends far more on how we choose to treat others than on how we ourselves are treated. The path to our happy place starts with one choice: whether or not to be kind. Especially when we really don’t want to be. The punchline? Being kind benefits us far more than who we choose to be kind to. I had this conversation with Shaunti nearly seven years ago and here I am still talking about it today. As I keep bringing her message back up, I’m re-publishing our talk so you can hear Shaunti’s full research. Find her at shaunti.comGot a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co.Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevinGo to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial.Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevinGet 20% off any AquaTru purifier today! Visit AquaTru.com and enter code "KEVIN" at checkout.Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsGo to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discountJoin thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Explore the fluid nature of identity and how we often confine ourselves to outdated labels. The conversation emphasizes embracing change and recognizing our ongoing evolution as individuals. Personal growth is not a destination but a continuous journey shaped by experiences. Practical resources for development and life insurance essentials are also shared. Plus, discover insights into ethical fashion and e-commerce solutions that prioritize sustainability, showcasing how conscious choices can elevate our lives and businesses.