The Kevin Miller Podcast Ashley Stahl: Driven By Childhood Trauma & How To Know If Your Motives Are Authentic
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Sep 6, 2024 Ashley Stahl, a strategist with a Master’s from King’s College London and a psychology background, shares her journey shaped by childhood trauma. She recounts a pivotal moment when her father's panic about money influenced her life path. The conversation dives into the impact of fear versus passion in motivation, the significance of childhood experiences on identity, and the quest for authentic self-discovery. Stahl emphasizes aligning one’s career with innate talents while navigating the shadows of past traumas.
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Childhood Money Promise
- At age 10 Ashley watched her father panic about money after a failed business and vowed to make a lot of money to save him.
- That vow became a driving motive that shaped her career choices and relationship to money for years.
Fear Fuels Performance, But Costs Health
- Ashley contrasts fear-driven fuel with inspiration-driven motivation and notes fear can power performance but at great cost.
- She links chronic stress to poor health and warns fear-based goals erode long-term wellbeing.
Goals Chase Feelings, Not Fulfillment
- Goals are often pursuits of a desired feeling rather than ends in themselves.
- Ashley says achieving a goal frequently fails to produce the expected emotional payoff.