Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

We all have times in life where it feels like we’re stagnating. We’re unfulfilled, bored, or trapped in cycles of behavior that don’t serve us. We’re stuck in a rut. Today Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore how we can break old patterns, and get un-stuck.Change Your Mind Workshop: Learn how to step out of old assumptions and attitudes, free yourself from limiting beliefs, and cultivate more useful, hopeful thoughts about yourself and others during this new workshop from Dr. Rick Hanson. Attend this online event live on August 28-29, or watch the recordings after. Enter code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for 25% off the purchase price.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You  can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics0:00: Introduction2:00: What tends to keep us stuck in a rut?5:15: Limiting beliefs.7:45: Appraisals and attributions.9:30: The invisible cage.11:15: Challenging our assumptions.15:20: A 3-step process for challenging assumptions. 18:30: Rick applies the process to his own material.22:15: Core skills that support the creation of new beliefs.25:45: Social scripts. 31:30: Key skills for building new beliefs. 34:00: Avoiding “must.” 38:00: Groups don’t like to change. 41:30: Finding those who grow alongside you.43:20: Have the courage to change.48:10: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The pursuit of fulfillment is explored through the lens of personal experiences and societal expectations. Emphasizing that fulfillment should be seen as a climate rather than a passing mood, the conversation dives into the challenges posed by curated social media narratives. Topics include authentic self-expression, the pitfalls of low expectations, and the crucial balance of accepting both joy and pain. There’s a rich discussion on recognizing low moments, personal growth, and the importance of finding meaning amidst life’s uncertainties.

Dr. Katy Milkman, a Professor at The Wharton School and author of "How to Change," joins the conversation to unravel the complexities of lasting behavior change. They discuss why shifting habits is challenging, emphasizing the roles of procrastination and present bias. Katy shares her insights on motivation strategies like temptation bundling and the impact of social accountability. She also highlights the importance of timing and fresh start moments, as well as tackling psychological barriers to facilitate sustainable change.

Explore the often-overlooked emotion of resentment, a mix of hurt, anger, and fear that can damage relationships and personal well-being. Discover its roots in perceived injustices and how repressed emotions can lead to negativity. Delve into the social dynamics of resentment and the transformative power of compassionate practices like Metta. Learn about disentangled forgiveness, which helps break the cycle of suffering. Ultimately, embrace strategies for personal healing and emotional growth.

Tara Brach, the founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington, D.C., dives into the concept of 'trusting the gold' within us. She discusses how societal norms can obscure our recognition of inherent goodness, and she shares the transformative power of embracing our worth. The conversation highlights love as a stronger motivator than fear and introduces mindfulness techniques like RAIN to navigate emotions. Tara emphasizes the importance of kindness, healing from trauma, and fostering genuine connections with ourselves and others.

Explore the challenge of recognizing when it's time to let go in life, dealing with disappointment, understanding sunk cost fallacy, redefining success, and finding courage in embracing change. The podcast delves into coping strategies, self-reflection, and the importance of preparing for transitions with virtue and optimism.

Dr. Katherine Kinzler, a pioneering psychologist and author from the University of Chicago, discusses how our speech profoundly shapes our social identity. She delves into how we categorize people based on accents and dialects, revealing deep-rooted biases that influence our perceptions of 'like me' versus 'not like me.' The conversation explores language acquisition, linguistic prejudice, and the consequences faced by marginalized dialects. Kinzler advocates for addressing these biases early, fostering an inclusive dialogue around language, identity, and community.

Explore the emotional landscape of life's major transitions and the challenge of facing what comes next. Delve into the significance of endings, embracing change with mindfulness and self-compassion. Learn about the cycles of growth and stagnation, and reflect on aging and personal achievements. The discussion highlights the importance of mentorship and gratitude in later life. Ultimately, it encourages listeners to celebrate transitions while navigating new beginnings with reflection and courage.

We all have different parts inside of us. This is perfectly normal, not psychotic. But our relationship with some parts is often better than others, and a wonderful path to healing and growth is to repair our relationship with all of our parts. That's the premise of Internal Family Systems Therapy, and today Forrest is exploring this powerful modality with the founder of IFS: Dr. Richard Schwartz.It's a special episode that includes a live demonstration of an IFS session between Forrest and Dr. Schwartz.Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Key Topics:2:00: Internal Family Systems' origin story.4:30: An introduction to IFS.12:40: Allowing the Self to help itself.14:20: Richard and Forrest do a mock IFS session.17:40: The "Manager" gets in the way.18:20: "Direct access" to the "Protector" part.24:00: Integrating the "session."27:15: Speaking from our parts.29:15: "No bad parts."33:00: Working with our exiled parts. 35:10: Anger toward our parts, and self-compassion.37:30: IFS' de-pathologizing stance, and place in the medical model. 39:40: Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy.42:15: Trauma work, and being with the younger self.47:45: RecapSponsors:From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Start a new healthy habit with Seed! Visit seed.com/beingwell and use code BEINGWELL to get 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic.Connect with the show: Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the common topics on the podcast is developmental psychology: how what happened to us as a child can influence our lives today. Alongside that, there can also be a lot of value in reconnecting with the person we were when we were young, before the world got in the way. This can give us a sense of our true nature, and new ideas for how to become an ever-more-complete version of ourselves out in the world.Follow this link to watch the conversation on YouTube!Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Key Topics:1:10: Uncovering our true nature.4:20: Our cultural view of children.7:20: “Feeling down” into younger layers.13:30: What were you like when you were young?18:20: A process of contacting your true nature.25:00: What were your innate desires?34:00: Compassion for our source.39:00: Guiding questions, and the layers of self we can access.43:00: The core needs of most young people.51:40: Writing a letter to your younger self.53:00: RecapSponsors:From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Start a new healthy habit with Seed! Visit seed.com/beingwell and use code BEINGWELL to get 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic.Connect with the show: Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices