It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
TruStory FM
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Episodes
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Nov 9, 2023 • 23min
Floundering Into Adulthood: Overcoming Alienation and Parents with Personality Disorders
Bill and Megan discuss the challenges young adults face when launching into independent adulthood after growing up with a high-conflict parent. They explore the impact of social media on young people, the struggles they face in finding direction and purpose, and the importance of mentors and healthy social connections. They also discuss the experiences of young individuals with parents with personality disorders and provide strategies for overcoming depression and finding resilience.
Nov 2, 2023 • 23min
When Grandkids Get Caught in High Conflict
In this episode, the hosts provide advice for grandparents dealing with high conflict co-parents. They discuss strategies for shielding kids, co-parenting long-term, and getting expert evaluation for custody cases. They also emphasize the importance of minimizing damage as kids grow up by exposing them to positive role models.
Oct 26, 2023 • 34min
Manipulators in Plain Sight: Spotting Antisocial Personality Disorder
Podcast hosts discuss spotting antisocial personality disorder, clarifying myths and patterns. They cover recognizing antisocial traits in a spouse, seeing patterns across generations, and comparing antisocial and narcissistic behaviors. Key takeaways include the importance of pattern awareness, the strong genetic link to antisocial personality, and the distinction between lying and exaggeration. Skepticism is advised when encountering deception.
Oct 19, 2023 • 24min
Surviving High Conflict Divorce, Custody Battles, and Parental Alienation
Experts Megan Hunter and Bill Eddy answer listener questions on high conflict divorce and co-parenting. They discuss finalizing divorce with a self-unaware ex, mediating with an inflexible ex-spouse, and coping with extreme parental alienation. Key takeaways: don't expect self-awareness from high-conflict people, choose battles wisely, set firm limits on fruitless mediation, recognize and address alienating behaviors proactively.
Oct 12, 2023 • 22min
Over the Fence: High Conflict Neighbor Disputes
This podcast discusses strategies for dealing with high conflict neighbor disputes, including responding to false allegations, using mediation, and recruiting a helpful ally. Key takeaways include avoiding arguments, involving a lawyer when needed, and the importance of participation in decision-making during mediation.
Oct 5, 2023 • 24min
Family Feuds: Navigating High Conflict Personality Clashes
This podcast explores high-conflict family dynamics and discusses topics such as helping children with emotion dysregulation, responding to false allegations of causing a spouse's personality disorder, managing emotions from a young age, recognizing unique personality traits of twins, understanding borderline personality disorder and PTSD, and handling accusations and projections from high conflict people.
Sep 28, 2023 • 23min
Caught in the Crossfire: Escaping High Conflict Contagion
Hosts discuss high conflict contagion through examining psychological projection and emotional spread. They explain projection, where someone unconsciously projects their own feelings or behaviors onto another person. They discuss high conflict emotional contagion, where emotions rapidly spread between people during conflict. They explore the impact of contagion on splitting and polarization. Key takeaways include recognizing projection and avoiding getting hooked by high conflict contagion.
Sep 21, 2023 • 22min
Workplace Gaslighting: Two-Person Conflict or One High-Conflict Person?
Learn how to identify high-conflict people in the workplace and differentiate them from mutual conflicts. Discover signs of gaslighting and explore professional ways to address issues. Get insights on role-playing responses and suggest conflict resolution training. Tune in for strategies on dealing with high-conflict people and workplace dynamics.
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Sep 14, 2023 • 27min
Group Dynamics Decoded: Taming High Conflict Drama and Disruptions
Learn how to handle high conflict drama in group settings, including strategies for addressing high conflict individuals and biases against female leaders. Discover the importance of setting limits and strategies for setting agendas in group dynamics. Understand the challenges of dealing with high conflict people and the significance of not letting them dominate organizations.
Sep 7, 2023 • 32min
High Conflict Under the Microscope: Unveiling New Insights from a Summer of Reflection
Podcast hosts Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter share their insights on high conflict behavior and vulnerability, and discuss managing disruptive behavior in group settings. They also discuss the implications of a recent court case on domestic violence restraining orders.
