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It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Pulling the Plug on a Hostile Conversation

Dec 19, 2023
Learn how to defuse tense conversations and exit hostile interactions, with strategies from the High Conflict Institute. Discover techniques to redirect heated exchanges into constructive dialogue and gain insights on setting boundaries. Find out how to regain control in confrontational situations and why it's important to question unverified claims politely. Bill and Megan provide tools to end toxic conversations, maintain self-control, and model peaceful conflict resolution.
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Quick takeaways

  • Warn, then withdraw from attacks to peacefully end hostile conversations.
  • Refuse to engage hostile agendas and redirect focus back to the original agenda.

Deep dives

Ending Hostile Conversations: The Two-Step Process

In this episode, the hosts discuss how to peacefully end a hostile conversation, whether in a one-on-one or group setting. The first key step is to give a warning to the person exhibiting negative behavior, informing them that if they continue, the conversation will be ended. By taking control of their own participation, individuals can consciously choose to disengage from conflict by saying goodbye or walking away. The hosts provide an example of a case where a lawyer successfully ended an aggressive conversation by setting boundaries and offering a chance for respectful communication. The importance of assertiveness in setting limits is emphasized, and it is highlighted that practice can help individuals become more comfortable in interrupting negative patterns of behavior.

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