Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast

Recorded: 4/29/2018 / Published: 5/19/2018865-268-4005 or https://kudrinskrypt.comRules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungNew schedule: With Funsize every other week Interviews for the off weeksDefinition of the Old Guard: A group that outlined a lot of the etiquette and traditions of modern BDSM through their practices in a subtle military style format post World War Two. History: Now we would like to note that while we typically talk about BDSM in a worldview, or as much as we can, the Old Guard history as we know it is something that is very American. We’re definitely interested in how these things have evolved throughout the rest of the world, and Funsize is chomping at the bit to dive deeper into that subject, but for today we are just focusing on the American side of this topic. We’ve talked a bit about this before, they were originally World War Two veterans who had returned from the war with a sense of brotherhood, protocols, and their own system of communication. Quite a few of them came back in the leather bomber jackets, which is where the leather part of leather culture comes from, and they began their journey. These men came back from the horrors of war, years away from their homes and had discovered parts of themselves, parts of their sexuality, which wasn’t seen as being okay during that time period. The protocols of the Old Guard evolved as a way to express those things and to protect these men. So we know where the communication tactics come from, subtle signals announcing who was who and their relationships etc, which we’ll dive into a bit more in a minute. But what about the sexual practices that are rooted in kink? I say kink here and not BDSM because there is a big difference. Kink is just that, it’s the actual physical bondage, the floggings, the animal play- those kinds of things are kinks. BDSM goes deeper into our mental and emotional sides, beyond just physically consenting to our kinks. It is more, and those kinks some of these men discovered come from the places and histories of the people these veterans encountered during their travels. BDSM has existed in some format throughout the world for millennia. You can trace some roots back to ancient Romans, Egyptians, and even throughout Asia. And then we have the works of Marquis de Sade in 17th century France, which I’m sure a lot of these veterans came across as quite a few of them ended up in, or traveling through those western regions of Europe. BDSM is by far not a new practice to the world, so it’s not surprising that these men found it’s traces, and those who were interested in those things easily incorporated them into their personal protocols. I think it should be noted that while we are talking about the history of the Old Guard in context to BDSM that not every person who was part of this tradition even practiced what we would identify as kink. They had a system of who was top and who was bottom, they had etiquette as far as communicating goes, but they didn’t necessarily have scenes with whips and floggers, and pet play, or any of those things. BDSM has certainly evolved in the last century but these are our modern roots. But it’s not just that simple as men returning home in the mid-1940’s and creating this subculture. They came home to a very puritanical America, where they were expected to have wives and jobs, and create families. They had to be very subtle and very secretive about their sexuality for a long time to come. They created the framework of their protocols and etiquettes but it wasn’t until the 1960’s and 70s after the Korean and Vietnam wars that the Old Guard truly filled out that framework, and began spilling over into what we identify it as today. During the 60’s and 70’s we saw a lot of civil rights movements, and on more personal scales, personal rights movements. There was a whole culture of people who wanted to explore themselves, and the world around them, and weren’t quite happy with how things had been for a very long time. They were having personal and sexual revolutions. But you also had this giant stigma that homosexuality was still very wrong. So these new veterans coming back from the Korean and Vietnam wars had this basis of the military-style hierarchy combined with the need to explore and have their sexual revolution and they came home, and many of them started to exhibit the same habits of the World War Two veterans, the subtle communications, the protocols, and the need to be able to have their own subculture. The older met the younger and there was a blending of ideals, of protocols, and the subculture evolved a bit more. This is where we really see leather culture starting to be viewed as a whole, there were the biker gangs, the secret clubs, and also the very real fear of being discovered. And what’s more is it wasn’t just men who were veterans hiding their homosexuality anymore. There were also women getting involved in these things. There were the people who were homosexual and lesbian, but there were people who were straight getting involved more and more into this subculture as they explored parts of themselves that didn’t quite meet the greater status quo of the country at that time. This is really the point in which BDSM, the protocols, the etiquette, the top/bottom relationships, met with the kink aspect on a grander more recognizable scale. During the 1980’s we start to see the slow divide between the Old Guard and the biker gangs. More of the leather clubs began to arise and the subculture began to define itself a bit more clearly, to the point where if you were part the Old Guard you could and would follow the cues and etiquette signifying this, and if you weren’t then you would never be part of this leatherman culture. More people who were leathermen but not biker’s began to filter in and the divide between the two became more solidified. From there the culture evolved more and now we have the New Guard arising which we’ll touch on briefly in a moment. Protocols For now let's talk about the more prevalent protocols that came from the Old Guard, what they were or are, what they signify, and why they will either continue on or evolve as BDSM culture evolves. Chaps indicate more commitment than Levi's, and leather pants more commitment than chaps, especially when worn consistently.This goes back to how we view BDSM fashion, even today. We see a newbie come in their blue jeans and we go okay, they’re newer, they may only be looking to scene, or learn, or whatever. Then we see someone like Master Kuldrin, yes I’m using you as an example, and he’ll show up to an event with his leather on and it signals to us that this is someone serious about what they are doing, and about who they are in this community and culture. It’s still a very real protocol and communication signal and honestly likely will be for quite some time, however, I personally do see this as being one of the traditions that relaxes a bit more as BDSM evolves in this post 50 shades world. Bottoms may not own collars unless a particular Top has allowed that bottom to be the custodian of the Top's collar. A bottom wearing a collar is a slave and belongs to the owner of the collar who, presumably, has the keys. Other Tops are not to engage a collared bottom in conversation, but other bottoms may do so. Should such a relationship end, the collar must be returned to the Top.It still stands that tops provide the collars for bottoms, it is theirs to give, and the bottoms to maintain. While the bottom isn’t necessarily a slave, and the terms of top and bottom have expanded to mean just top/bottom, or top/Dom/Master and bottom/sub/slave or pet the idea is still the same. Especially in the case of high protocol settings you still the rule of not speaking or approaching another’s bottom without permission first. So in a lot of ways, this protocol isn’t as rigid as it once was, but it’s certainly not going away anytime soon. Tops and experienced bottoms should be accorded higher respect and deference unless and until they behave rudely--all are expected to observe rules of social courtesy-bad manners are inexcusable and can lower one's status in the Scene.It’s true that the longer you’re around, and the more you participate the better the vetting is the more people you will have access to, and the more events you can attend. This comes from experience and also how others in the community perceive you. Courtesy and respect still go a long way, and most in the community won’t bother with you if you’re rude. Preliminary social contact should be on the formal side.You’ll notice this quite a bit as you travel through the BDSM community, people calling each other Sir, or Miss, or just behaving more formally than what we would otherwise behave or witness in the vanilla community, especially at first, or when we first encounter someone new to us. Experience being equal, Tops lead the conversation.For complete show notes: https:kuldrinskrypt.com/142

Recorded: March 11, 2018 / Published: May 2, 2018Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungWhat is polyamory?Broken down into its two parts, poly simply means many, and amor means loves or lovers. Polyamory is the practice of wanting or having more than one intimate partnership, with the knowledge and awareness of all parties involved. Types Sometimes those who are polyamorous who have established committed relationships with one or more of their partners will refer to the relationship as an open relationship. When dating this means that the parties involved have consented to one or both of them dating others. Open marriages also occur in which the spouse or spouses have agreed to the same. This can occur within the BDSM lifestyle when a polyamorous person has play partners, Dominants, or submissives along with any other forms of romantic partnership including vanilla ones. Open If all partners have consented to seeking out or have intimate relationships then the relationship is known as an open polyamorous relationship. Open/closedIf only one party of the primary relationship, marriage for example, is polyamorous then this is often what's known as an open-closed relationship. This can happen in a BDSM relationship when a Dom may have a primary submissive that has consented not to scene with others, while the Dom still chooses to, or in the case of harems. Harems are simply top/bottom relationships in which typically the top has several bottoms which are committed in some way to serving that top regularly.ClosedA closed polyamorous relationship is what happens when the partners have all consented to stop seeking other relationships outside of those that have been formed. I like to think of this as an extension upon traditional monogamy because the commitments are there though the relationship contains more than two parties.Morality vs traditional learningsMonogamist can look at polyamorous relationships a bit negatively. They often consider polyamorist as cheaters or simply don't understand how we do it. There's a huge difference between being a moral polyamorist and a cheater. Polyamory is something to be communicated openly and honestly. Cheaters don't communicate what they are doing and that's a huge difference. Polyamory is something that certain people need. These relationships are created through honest communication and hard work. And for those who are thinking of jealousy, yes it can occur but just like in any other relationship it just takes work to overcome. The myth that everyone who is part of the BDSM lifestyle is polyamorous.Many newbies can end up coming into the lifestyle believing they must practice polyamory. Coming into BDSM you may feel like you have to separate your vanilla and kinky life. In this way you may have a vanilla partner while having a BDSM partner as well. It may work for you but if you are not a polyamorist problems will arise and you may end up ruining all the relationships you have built. If you're a monogamist then be a monogamist, you can find a way to have all your needs met if you communicate with your partner. New Relationship Energy (NRE)Finally we would like to go over the subject of NRE. When new relationships are formed our bodies will send out a rush of chemicals. Oxytocin and dopamine give you a rush, making your heart pound, and giving you a light headed feeling. All these feelings are what happens when you fall in love, not that every relationship contains this emotional connection. In polyamory NRE can result in ignoring your other relationships for a time, or send you into a bout of frenzy. Communication is often the key to overcoming these issues and creating successful relationships. For more information on NRE check out the kinky cast season 2, episode 9 as they covered an amazing amount of information on the subject. A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded: Feb 18,2018 / Published: April 18, 2018Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungListener QuestionsFrostBiter: (Primal)Can one be a primal and still be a sub and be trained?NikNakPW: (Ending a scene)How is a scene that is naturally coming to an end called? Is there a different word used to let both the sub/bottom and anyone watching know that the scene has ended/is ending? Or is formally ending a scene generally reserved for performances?Lora: (Play Party Questions)What kind of food should I really bring? Are people going to go all out and be ultra creative or can I just bring something generic like chips and dip? I’ve spent hours on Pinterest looking for simple but hopefully creative food ideas.What do I wear? I have some clothes that might be ok to wear but what if they are too revealing or if no one else is wearing something like that? I have my corset but is that gonna be to cliché? Would I even be comfortable wearing that with who knows how many people there? Can I wear regular clothes? WOuld jeans and tshirt be ok or if I'm not wearing kink wear should I dress up really nice or would that be out of place? While I kinda figure what kinds of things I'll see just from being at munches and hearing people talk, I’m still nervous about what kind of scenes there will actually be. Would anyone be upset if I walked away while they were doing stuff if it freaked me out? Would I be expected to participate in some level? If I got there and was too overwhelmed would it be rude to leave? Should I have a buddy for my first play party?DonniMeow: (BDSM Resources)Can you speak resources for clothing and jewelry for those in the BDSM community .... such as collars, etc, also places for dungeons excursionsL F: (A Variety of Questions)I noticed that you do not use whips. Is there some particular reason? Is it a bad idea for me (sub bottom) to bottom for whips?Is it appropriate to ask a potential top to read my profile before we play?What are your requirements for a sub that make them so hard to find?I noticed “oxygen deprivation” and “blood letting” as specialties of yours. My (possibly incorrect) understanding is that neither of these qualify as “safe”. Where does my mistake lie?In the case of a dark party, what should one do if something went wrong (consent violation, safety problem, etc) that one does not consider capable of handling oneself, and needs to be addressed after the fact?I have been practicing with my flogger on a pillow! Right now I can hit the target pretty accurately if it is lying down and I try to hit with the sides. With the ends on a standing target I would say I am just over 50% accurate. At what point should I look for someone to train me in person?Subtweet: (Travel Bags)Had a random thought listening to episode 28 about traveling with the flogger. There are tail bags for fake horse tails (like... real life, competition/show horses) that are designed to hold something that is designed in some ways like a flogger. It keeps the tail from tangling, pads/protects it in some cases, and can be hung itself with the tail (or flogger) still tucked inside. Often theybhave individual sleeves that keep the fibers laying down in the correct direction. I have some links below for example.https://www.sstack.com/westerntack/Dura-Tech-Deluxe-Fake-Tail-Bag-1-Tail/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAlpDQBRDmARIsAAW6-DP8rF7DhKCP1IOUR2foTWdj3CyU3hA56JamGecZpOwjO4pU4ol-V2QaAsJ_EALw_wcBhttps://www.sstack.com/product/dura-tech-deluxe-fake-tail-bag-2-tail/https://www.doversaddlery.com/dovers-tail-bag/p/W1-C10481A/?eid=X18A00U1000&utm_source=google&utm_medium=PLA&mrkgcl=1131&mrkgadid=3206187183&rkg_id=h-9c8cf92b7cd71263e54dda1e794cda69_t-1510237192&utm_campaign=NB_PLA_Retail_Mid-Atlantic_GOOG&adpos=1o5&creative=193718291935&device=m&matchtype=&network=gDigital_Fox: (Terminology)When my wife and I were first considering going to an education station we talked about how we wanted to act and what I wanted her to call me. I told her to call me master (which she liked) but to only use that term for me. Anyone else can be Sir, Daddy, Mister or what-have-you. Maybe I'm overthinking this, but would that be a faux pas in the community? Or is that really only if I had master in my screen name or demanded other people call me that?A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to dive into . In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded 1/28/2018 / Published 4/14/2018Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to discuss Protectors but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungWhat are Protectors?A usually dominant person who watches over another, their charge, to ensure their safety when interacting in the kink community. They act both online and off, at munches, or even occasionally during scenes to ensure that the charges limits and wishes are upheld. Why is it important?Protectors assist with navigating any dangers the charge has asked them to watch for and keeping away predators, abusers, and suspicious persons. They can also help with mediating negotiations and scenes before things turn harmful. DutiesTaking on the title of Protector means you will have several duties in looking after your charge.Negotiate a scene for your charge. Sometimes protectors have to step in, especially if their charge has frenzy to help enforce practical limits for a scene. Give permission on specific play partners. They can act as a secondary advisor during the vetting process. Act as a safety call for your charge, or attend those meetings in person.Act as a transition dominant to a slave who has recently become unowned. This is more traditional for the Protector role in the leather community. Watch over the submissive of another dominant at events. When to seek out a Protector?If you're new, if you're shy,going through frenzy, if you're having trouble with abusers or predators, or you just have a certain goal in mind but are having trouble weeding out everyone else, you might feel the need to seek out a Protector. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. It doesn’t mean you can’t say no, or that you’re weak, helpless, or stupid as many have come to believe. It just means that you recognize that you sometimes need the support of others and have sought it out. How to find one.Ask a dominant friend, talk to other charges for recommendations, some Protectors will have more than one charge at a time. When you find someone willing and trustworthy of being your Protector you will need to negotiate what you need your Protector to do. Just as you would negotiate any other relationship you need to define the terms of this relationship as well. Approaching a Protector and their charge.Approaching someone else's’ charge should not make you nervous, if you have good intentions. If anything you can take it as a safety net for both you and that charge.Approaching in person when you know someone has a Protector means that you first ask the Protector if you may interact in a conversation, negotiation, etc with the submissive charge. Be respectful and honest about your intentions. If you don't know, be respectful, as you always should, and ask questions to determine just what that protection entails. On Fetlife you will often see that someone is under the protection of someone else, or protecting another. When you encounter this and wish to spark up a conversation with the charge, simply respectful request permission for the contact with the Protector. Answer any questions they may have and be honest. The bad reputation and sadly low opinion of Protectors and their charges. Your Protector Is Hurting You- the essay. (https://xcbdsm.com/2015/12/28/protector/) This essay makes several points about why not to have a Protector, or why having a Protector is bad. Those points are that if you are a Protector or the charge of one, others simply will not approach you. The article goes in to how Protectors are robbing their charges of the communicating with others in the BDSM community, by scaring off others or limiting the way they communicate.The second point this article makes is that Protectors only use the title as a way to isolate the submissive in order gain their trust and manipulate them. The idea here is that Protectors are actually acting as predators and coercing their charges into sexual dynamics. While this is true in some cases, its part of what's giving Protectors a bad rep overall. Not all Protectors are like this. There are bad apples who will take anything good and try to spoil it, that's as true here as it is anywhere.The final point is that charges don't or shouldn't need a Protector. It makes out that someone who needs a Protector has something wrong with them, or that they're weak, unwilling or unable to say no. What it doesn't say it that they may want to say yes but be unsure of what their limits should be due to inexperience or frenzy. It doesn't say that we all need to feel safe, as a basic human need, and approaching dangerous situations; which BDSM is, kicks in that basic instinct in us. It also doesn't say that some people, the abusers, predators, or just disrespectful people don't always take no as an answer. Some will keep pressuring, and abusing others. I've been part of this lifestyle for years, I'm clearly strong minded and capable and there are still moments when I want to seek out a protector myself.All in all this article holds many of the negative aspects of what people think of when they see the title of Protector, and I would very much like to shatter these illusions.ConclusionProtectors are an important part of this lifestyle and deserve more respect than they are given. We need to get back what Protectors are supposed to be and shrug off the assumptions that they are predators. But we also need to find a way to cull those who actually are. A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to dive into . In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastBDSM Dungeons-S01E38Recorded January 21, 2018 / Published April 3rd, 2018Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about dungeons but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungWhat are dungeons?Dungeons are generally considered as any space with BDSM equipment, used as a play space. They can also be used for classes, meetings, or events. They can be either public, open to a particular community; or private, belonging to a certain person or persons. How to find a dungeon in your area?There are a few different ways to approach this. Google, is a great place to start if you live in a larger city. Many professional dungeons are listed this way. You can also get to know people in your community and often will find your way to a public dungeon this way. And depending on what you’re looking for, some private dungeons as well. If you can't seem to find the dungeon of your dreams you can also make your own. Making your ownPrivate- To make your own private dungeon all you really need is space and imagination. You can build your own furnishings and really do anything you want to meet your needs. Public- Just like the case of a private dungeon you need space, many who are choosing to open a public space will use a home, business space, or barn even. Any open space that can provide discretion and feed into fantasies will usually work. It’s also important to set up a set of house rules as the owner and host. Among these, you can decide what activities you’ll allow, tools you’ll have on hand, and any other pertinent details. Soundproofing can help especially if the dungeon happens to be close to other businesses or residence. Whether you have a public or private space you can easily add soundproofing to nearly any space with installation, or by adding acoustic panels to the walls. You can also soundproof doors and windows using soundproofing rubber molding around the door. There are also tons of diy projects available to try. Liabilities Non-disclosure agreements are legal agreements which help to protect confidential information. I’ve gone to a few a hotel styled public dungeons in which I had to sign a non-disclosure at check-in, and it’s always made me feel safer to do so. Insurances. Homeowners insurance is there to protect your property and keep an attorney on retainer should you find yourself being sued for injury on your property. Other insurances you should have whether you’re planning to host a public or private dungeon are fire, and water damage. These are worth it especially if you are going to have any form of fire play or water bondage. Liabilities if something goes wrong, which it can no matter how cautious we are. We all have heard of someone trying to sue someone else because they were injured on that person’s property. These are cases of whether the property owner was liable or not, and can happen in any dungeon setting. However, in many cases, the owner is only actually liable if they have not given the property maintenance to prevent reasonable harm. You should do what you can to protect yourself by making it clear to anyone who comes into your space to play: any areas that may lead to harm, any risks, and make sure they understand how to use any equipment on hand. A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon, and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext time on The Krypt, we are going to dive into protectors. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to become a Patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded January 14th, 2018 / Published March 27th, 2018Call in to get your questions answered at 865-268-4005 or visit at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to dive into BDSM and the law but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungSo as we all know the law can be a sticky subject there to help protect us or if we get caught up in it, well it's not so pleasant.  In today's conversation we have a few things to look at:What are the laws we directly face as part of the lifestyle?In the majority of the U.S at present, there is a common law that states that a person cannot consent to being harmed.  In theory, this would negate all consent of BDSM practices, and generally make everything we do illegal.I would like to break down this common law because I very much like to dig deep into these subjects, and frankly, this is one of the stickiest and murkiest bits of law I know.  It states that one cannot consent to be HARMED. There is a huge difference in hurt and harm, to begin with, we're actually planning a whole future episode to discuss this topic.  What it really comes down to is that we each as consenting adults have to define the line between hurt and harm. So in that, we can consent to something.  My second huge point on the wording of this is that it seems to be aimed at those who engage in impact play.  As we all know impact play is NOT a must for BDSM. I'm not a fan of these murky generalizations.However, even with all this confusing and ill-worded generalization, there is one good point to be made, and that is that this law also helps to protect those who have been abused.  This common law is actually what allows victims of abuse to move into criminal charges against their abusers for assault or aggravated assault.There are also laws which ban many BDSM activities as morally reprehensible.  Especially if you live in the Bible-belt.These laws can also affect how many adult toys you may own and in some cases that is zero, what types of implements you can have, and even the kinds of sex you can be having.  Sodomy, for example, is illegal in Montana and most states. In most southern states the missionary position is the only legal way to have sex and some states go as far to say “only with the purpose and/or intent of and for procreation”.  I don't like these laws simply because they are mostly either too generalized or too specific.  And the idea of something being morally reprehensible doesn't sit well with me in terms of legality because too often laws are created and are often, in fact, immoral or based on religious practices when the Constitution of the United States is supposed to protect us from these types of biases.  Legal definitions of some of what we do, that are often considered illegal...because these do vary state to state:  Assault and aggravated assault are defined as acts of non-consensual touching of a person by another person or implement.  Aggravated assault applies to the same with the use of a deadly weapon ie knife play.Carrying a weapon knife play again for instance.  Some states have very specific laws as to the size of the knife you may have on your person, (in most states the blade cannot be longer than 3 inches) and if you’re into scalpel play these definitions may determine whether your scalpel is deemed a knife or not, and therefore a weapon.  False imprisonment and kidnapping are crimes of restraining another person without their consent.  Obviously, we’re all about consent but if you are engaged in a scene and police enter your home and find your partner tied up or in a cage, they may choose to view this as your partner being harmed, and therefore incapable of offering consent.  And I know Kuldrin has a story involving a consensual kidnapping...which is now funny but at the time a very tense and scary story involving a consensual kidnapping.Indecent exposure is an act of showing genitals or in some cases even breasts and buttocks.  If done in your own home and someone can see in through an open window or if you are an exhibitionist going about things in a public setting, you may be charged with this crime.  I have to say I really hate this one, because if I’m in my own home and someone is being a peeping tom, to me it is them that is the guilty party and not myself, however I know there are some out there who do put on shows, so I suppose I can understand.Impersonating an officer occurs if you engage in role play using costumes of police or firefighters, but in order for this to actually be a crime, you must be wearing a costume that is a replica or closely resembles the uniforms used in your region.  I, funnily enough, had a friend who was charged with this for using a policeman’s costume in a church Christmas play a couple of years ago.Prostitution is, unfortunately, a misdemeanor charge that professional dominants may at some point face.  It seems the best way to minimize your risks with this one is simply to offer only non-sexual services but depending on which state you are in the definitions of this could be horrifically tight to extremely loose.   With this one there has been a major change in the past year or two. Where they use to let the Jon’s and Jane’s go or charge them with a misdemeanor they can now be charged with felony aiding and abetting to sex trafficking.Rape and molestation are two huge ones for all of us.  They are defined as forced and/or non-consensual sexual intercourse or contact which includes any penetration, however slight, of the vagina or anus, with any object; touching of one person genitals to the anus or mouth of another; any touching of the sexual/intimate parts of another for sexual gratification.Reckless endangerment “is a crime consisting of acts that create a substantial risk of serious physical injury to another person. The accused person isn't required to intend the resulting or potential harm, but must have acted in a way that showed a disregard for the foreseeable consequences of the actions.” Essentially any act of edge play including rope bondage and suspension can easily fall into these terms. (https://definitions.uslegal.com/r/reckless-endangerment/)Sodomy is sex that involves either anal-genital contact or oral-genital or oral-anal contact.  Most places still consider this as simply anal sex.Legal forms that can help you with your alternative lifestyleFirst I want to throw in the disclaimer that BDSM contracts are not legal forms.  50 shades brought a whole lot of nonsense and confusion for many newbies thinking contracts were legally binding.  They are not, they are a tool to outline and help a relationship, nothing more. The ONLY part of the contract that was legally binding in 50 Shades was the non-disclosure agreement and that isn’t even legal when it comes to protecting someone from illegal acts.POA forms (Power of Attorney) is a form which allows the person acting as guardian to assume control and responsibility for someone else.  These responsibilities range from private affairs, business, and medical depending on terms specified in these forms.Wills exist so that we have protection when the unexpected happens, this as true in the vanilla world as it is in our alternative lifestyle.  This is especially important if you have a long-term relationship, or live with your M/s or D/s partner. On this topic, it’s also recommended that you have a reading of the will BEFORE anything happens to you. It will save your loved ones a lot of hassle...especially if there’s a chance things aren’t considered “fair”.Protective orders are to keep a person away from you if you feel there is a reason to fear for immediate harm or danger.  These are typically only obtainable in the case of actual physical harm or sexual assault.Restraining orders are legal orders which require the person it has been filed against to stay a set distance away from you and can ban all forms of contact, especially important if you are ever confronted with a stalker.  Unfortunately, it can often be difficult to get a restraining approved for threats or stalking.As with the forming of any legally binding document seek help from an attorney to write these forms and make sure you find out if they need to be notarized, filed with the court, sent to or formally served to another person.Facing the law.What do you do when faced with the police?No matter the situation stay calm but appropriate.Call an attorney immediately to assist you.  Be careful to not self-incriminate. Lawyer up immediately! Unfortunately, some detectives just want to get the case closed and have a conviction on their record. They don’t care if you actually guilty. Always use your right to remain silent even if you haven’t been charged and they are “just talking to you” or “just asking you a few questions”. Don’t answer anything without an attorney present.If a consent violation has occurred and you need to seek legal assistance call the police and follow the first three steps above.  Do not wash or remove any evidence on your person or clothing. Tampering with evidence in itself is a crime not to mention the fact that it immediately makes you look guilty of something that may not be a chargeable offense but now they’ll make it one.Seek medical attention if needed.  Most hospitals will call the police and a social worker when there are signs of abuse. In this case, it does help to be completely honest...unless you want you partner to go to jail.Whether you are seeking to press charges or file a civil suit, or both you will need to know a few things.  Criminal chargesFor complete show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/137

On this episode of the Krypt we are going to get into the second half of our Consent podcast, with our main focus on Boundaries but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.* A special shout out to Kuldrin, much of this podcast was written by Kuldrin, as he used to teach a class in boundaries during his tenure working in the psychological field. Much of this is actually just taken from those lessons and reformatted into show notes.* When we left off from part one of our two-part series on consent we were talking about the importance of being able to say no, and uphold our boundaries when it comes to consent. A boundary is defined as a dynamic line separating an individual's internal environment and external environment while varying in permeability and flexibility. This also applies to a line between others in that environment. Purposes and Types of BoundariesPurposes are to facilitate separation and individuation and to assist the individual’s adaptation to the environment. For BDSM this means that you will use these personal boundaries to maintain your personal self, and what you are willing to consent to. Types of boundaries can be broken down into:Ridged open which can be considered your soft limits Ridged closed, these are similar to your hard limits.Flexible or the things you might be open to, and things you are willing to negotiate.You need to learn what your appropriate boundaries are, how to set them, and how to recognize and respect the boundaries of others.How to identify your own boundaries.Become aware of your needs. You can’t expect others to respect or know what your boundaries are if you don’t know them yourself. Get support. Having others who will support you and help you uphold those boundaries is an important step. Many times you can even find a protector to help you in this capacity. Communicate effectively. Whether it’s expressing an interest or negotiating your limits, this has always been an important skill. For more information on the subject check out our episode on effective communication. Be realistic. Where boundaries start.Boundaries are natural. Infants start to develop flexible boundaries at 6 months old. Boundaries are developed and set before age 3. Have you ever looked at an infant in the eyes and it staired back briefly just before closing its eyes or turning its head? It did this because the stimulation became too much. Thus it set a boundary.People with healthy boundaries have limits and recognize what they are, know what they will or will not do and they know what they will or will not allow others to do.Teaching others how to treat you within the BDSM dynamic boundaries. Training is a big part of this. Not only do you have general training, but with each new relationship you have to train yourself and your partner as to how to be treated, and how to treat them. Again communicate your boundaries. Listen and respect the communications of others as well. And remember that not all communications of these boundaries is vocal. A person may be demonstrating a personal boundary via silent cues so try to always be observant of your surroundings. When boundaries aren’t respected. When boundaries aren’t respected, and we are faced with consent violations what can we do?If your consent has been violated, first determine for yourself if the person has made an honest mistake, or if this is a case of abuse. Recognize that you are not to blame in either case. Seek support from those around you. Communicate your feelings.Take your time. The simple fact is if you have been abused it will take time to heal, physically, mentally, and emotionally. The only person who can say whether it has been enough or too much time for this process is you. Rushing can often do more harm than good in these instances. What can you do if someone you know has had their consent violated?Give them time.Listen but never ask or demand that they talk about what has happened. Believe what they say. We each individually set our own personal boundaries and we are the only ones capable of saying whether those boundaries have been crossed. Do not rush to be their saviors. Often we can find ourselves wanting to be the saviors for those around us, especially if we have taken a role as a protector, but we also need to remember that protecting someone is something which that person also has to consent to. Going off to fight a battle for someone who does not consent to it can be just as harmful to that person as the original consent violation was. And now we’re going to dip into the hardest question of all; what do you do if you have been the one who violated someone’s consent?Be honest with yourself as to whether or not you intended the violation. If it is a case in which you made an honest mistake then you should apologise sincerely, and offer understanding. Understanding comes in many different forms; you will need to understand that your actions have affected someone who placed some level of trust in you, and that you may need to make further amends. Often you will have make a greater effort to regain that person’s trust, using patience and communication every step of the way. And finally you can forgive yourself for mistake, so that you can hopefully learn from it in the future. If it was not a mistake….Start by owning what you have done. Denying that you abused and mistreated another purposefully will only make things worse. Do not think you will live your life without consequences for your misdeeds. Do not allow yourself this choice again. Do not expect others to treat you with the courtesy or respect you have refused to show someone else. Other worthwhile notes on consent within our lifestyle. Physical boundaries ie condoms. Condoms are an important boundary for many as they reduce both the risk of pregnancy and that of STIs and STDs. There was actually a law about the removal of condoms before or during a sexual act without your partner's knowledge, an act known as stealthing, added in California back in May 2017, which added that once stealthing has happened the act is no longer considered consensual. The NCSF, ALI Project, and Consent Counts. The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom or NCSF has been coordinating the Consent Counts project in a BDSM community worldwide effort in education and activism in order to offer legal protection against consent violations. The American Law Institute has been working in conjunction with this to change the Moral Penal Code to decriminalize consensual BDSM. What this means for all of us is that for most states in the U.S. and several other countries, whether we consent to the activities we are engaging in or not, they are still considered legally reprehensible. But we will be digging more into this topic during our BDSM and the law episode later on this season. Well that wraps up our consent series. If you have any questions or comments join in the conversation in our Fetlife group Kuldrins Kyrpt. And now… A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, Producer Missy Lynn and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to dive into . In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

BDSM Consent Counts Pt 1-S01E35 (135)Recorded December 12th, 2018 / Published January 16, 2018Consent is an incredibly important topic to both of us, and should be an important topic for everyone out there. The news these days is filled with stories of consent violations and thankfully our society is beginning to crack down on these violators quickly. However we still have a long way to go within the BDSM community. What is consent exactly?Consent is what a person has knowingly and willingly agreed to a form of participation in. That form and those activities, behaviors, etc. are what that consent applies to. Legally consent is defined as being able to freely give agreement to participate in a(n) (sexual) activity. Many states in the U.S. have separate definitions as well which also specify who is capable of giving consent; for example a child many not consent, nor may a person who is unconscious. For more information about these laws and what your state defines as legal consent we have included a link that will help clarify many of these points. https://www.rainn.org/news/how-does-your-state-define-consent What do we consent to within the context of BDSM?ActivitiesSexual- including everything from kissing to intercourse of any and every kind. This can even include sexual behaviors using inanimate objects. Non-sexual- impact play, punishments, rewards, and anything else you can possibly imagine. You can even choose to consent or not to things like writing journals or taking pictures. Behaviors- kneeling, honouring, or having these behaviors used on you. Dominants need to give their consent too!Why is consent so important? The point could be made that in our vanilla lives we don’t ask for explicitly defined consent for every action, or activity we participate in, so why should we have to do that for BDSM? We have to in BDSM because of the nature of our relationships. Without consent there can be no trust. Without trust there can be no consent. Without both, there can be no relationship of love and respect. We do things within our lifestyles that present risks which require knowing consent to be able to participate in safely. This includes all forms of safety, mental, emotional, and physical. A note on knowing consent- Be aware that to give knowing consent you need to be clear and stable of mind. An unconscious or inebriated person, someone who is mentally ill, or someone who is in an altered state of mind i.e. sub/Domspace will not be able to give clear knowing consent. Finally, within the bounds of vanilla relationships people SHOULD be seeking consent. Types of consent violations. Honest Mistakes vs. AbuseWe have all made honest mistakes at some point, both in and out of the lifestyle. Something as simple as referring to Kuldrin as Master without his permission can be a violation of his consent. If you’re informed of this before addressing him, you could easily make this mistake. At which point I’m certain that he and most others would likely correct and forgive you. To choose to keep doing it though… would be a more a serious violation of consent, and not a mistake. You might have a scene with an established partner but forget to set up silent hand signals and therefore miss a communication opportunity which can lead to a consent violation. It’s a mistake and a dangerous one, but hopefully one that with the right care can be overcome. What makes it abuse?Intent is a huge part of what makes a difference between the two. If you intend to violate the consent of your partner, then you are already an abuser. Mistakes can’t be made with intent, only abuse. How the person who has their consent violated feels is the ultimate tell as to whether that violation has been a simple mistake or just abuse. I have faced both sides of this myself. When it has been a mistake I have found I could apologise and be apologised to. Work could be put in so that trust could be repaired or rebuilt and the relationships have gotten better. When it’s abuse this simply cannot occur. The most you can hope for with abuse is to learn to forgive, even if it's just yourself, and to heal enough to find your own peace. Huge Issues with Consent in the BDSM CommunityMany of the problems with consent in our BDSM community are sadly the same ones plaguing the vanilla world as well. However due to the bondage and sadomasochistic elements of our lifestyle we are also faced with the issue that to those of a vanilla mind-set we can also be portrayed as violent, persons who only wish to tie up, abuse, and violate our ‘victims.’ Now we all know this isn’t true but for a long time, and with no help from pop culture icons like 50 shades of grey, this stereotype is still ongoing. Some of the other huge problems we are facing and I personally would love to help abolish, and hope that I am in some minute way, are silence, oppression, misinformation, and arrogance. Silence comes from a few different places. Shame, fear, and denial of what has occurred can all lead to silence from the victim and from the community. When my consent was violated and I was physically abused to the point of needing to receive immediate medical care, I didn’t want to talk about it. I still very rarely do. I was ashamed at what I had, in my mind, allowed to happen. I was ashamed that I was not able to stop the abuse. There I was, I had consented to everything up until that point, I had been trained to protect myself, to take punishments, and yet I was still in a position where I was harmed. After the immediate event I was in the emergency room, and the police were notified because it was very clear that I had been physically assaulted. That’s when the fear hit me too. I was afraid to speak up, because if I explained to the police how I was harmed they would want to know who did it. I was put into a position where I had to out my assaulter. I had to make the choice to break my silence, because I recognised that this person would likely do something like this again to someone else. But I was still scared, of what the police would think of me, of what would happen to me if and when others learned of the incident, and of what my community would do to me as a result of my outing this person. Many communities will out right shun anyone who outs someone, regardless of the reason. I was facing a terrifying moment, where my defenses were already broken down, and I was afraid to face it alone without any support or understanding. I was lucky enough to find that I did have support and understanding from those in my community, but it is a sad and despicable fact that in many cases this is the opposite of what happens to most victims of abuse. I have since come across several others who will out right deny that they were ever abused. They say they wanted to submit so they had no right to say no to something they weren’t comfortable with. Or that they never said the words “no” or “stop” or called a safe-word, so consent was given. But here’s the huge issue with that, consent is NOT inherent ever. This is what makes communication from all parties and at all times so important. As I was saying, when someone breaks their silence about a consent violation, often a community will try to oppress or deny this abuse ever happened. Whenever we are abused within our community it is recommended to alert our community leaders. However what can we do if it is our community leaders who are the abusers? Who can we then turn to? Too often there is no one. There are also known cases of leaders sweeping known violations under the proverbial rug because they are “friends” with these people, or simply choose to not believe accusations of abuse. It is sheer arrogance that allows these kinds of instances to occur. I recently came across a beautiful piece of writing on Fetlife that I think everyone should check out. It’s by Micchi_Monster, called Believe the Victim, and is truly wonderful. I would like to personally thank them for sharing it. https://fetlife.com/users/1065014/posts/4782318 Protecting yourself.Vetting is a huge part of what you can do to protect yourself from encountering a situation in which your consent, or the consent of another will be violated. Don’t trust only the word of others, regardless of who they are. It’s important to vet those around you but you also have to do your own unbiased research.Trust your instincts. We all have gut feelings and instincts, if your natural red flags are going off there is probably a reason. Beware the people and situations that set them off. Use common sense when entering a situation. Avoid being alone or saying yes to any kind of contact with someone you haven’t properly vetted. Don’t be afraid to say no. If something makes you uncomfortable, no matter how little the thing may seem, you can and should say no. You have your own limits and boundaries to uphold and communicate, which brings us to the end of this two parter episode. We will be picking up this subject again in its second half, boundaries, next week. Next time we are going to dive into Part 2. Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Full shownotes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/135

Recorded December 3rd, 2017 / Published January 10, 2018Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comRules to Love by:1. Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about BDSM in Literature, and no we’re not discussing 50 Shades but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Literature both fiction and nonfiction is a staple of civilized society. The lifestyle is a society in and of itself and we have our literature. Our fictions delve into our deepest fantasies and our non-fictions help us learn and share with others. Funsize you are a huge connoisseur of the written word. What books do you find span the scope of our world the best? Non-fictions:The Topping and Bottoming SeriesThis is a series of books that has been around since the mid 90’s. Written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy, these books, explore the basics of each perspective in the lifestyle. Dossie Easton also wrote the Ethical Slut which explores polyamory. The Ultimate Guide to Kink by Tristan TaorminoA very well written basics guide to everything you need to know when you first enter the lifestyle. Of course there are a lot of interesting things to be found within these pages even if you aren’t new. BDSM: How to Take Your First Steps into BDSM Another great book for newbies by Scarlett Dalton. Life, Leather, and the Pursuit of Happiness by Steve LenuisThis particular book delves into the history of leather culture and the beginnings of modern BDSM as we know it. History is very important so this is really a must read. You should also check out the Leatherman’s Protocol Handbook by John D. Weal. Other nonfictions to check out when you have a moment are:Raven Kaldera’s books Power Circuits: Polyamory in a Power Dynamic, and Sacred Power, Holy Shrine. Two Knotty Boys and Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes, a couple of interesting, educational, and entertaining books on learning the art of rope bondage. Elizabeth Cramer, Kuldrin I know you love her writings just because she keeps things short and simple, which works well with your busy schedule. She has written something like six or seven books detailing how to be a dominant and how to be a submissive. We’re both huge fans for a reason. And finally, Igniting the Fire: the Art of Romantic Submission by Master Arcane. This amazing book illustrates the BDSM dynamic through the eyes of a truly caring dominant. I’ve personally read this book at least twenty times over. If you want to get an idea of what you’ll be reading definitely go back and listen to the amazing interview between Kuldrin and Master Arcane. https://kuldrinskrypt.com/s01e14 There are dozens of others we could recommend but in order to keep me from talking until I’m hoarse this is the list we’re going to have to settle for today. If you have any more suggestions feel free to join in the discussion on our Fetlife group, Kuldrin’s Krypt. FictionSo our starting point for this particular half of the list is a rather obvious choice; the granddaddy of Sadism, the Libertine, Marquis de Sade. Justine explores a whole world of human sexuality, torture, imprisonment, and the duality of the justice system. Even if it doesn’t quite explore true BDSM and power dynamics it is a wonderful read. 120 Days of Sodom is a novel of erotic orgies. While this sounds fun in a sense, this particular tale is all about sexual abuse, torture (not the fun kinds), and finally the slaughter of several characters involved. There are several other works by de Sade, many of them available for free in PDF format. It is however, important to remember while de Sade inspired the word sadism for his works on featuring pain in a sexual setting, much of what is actually portrayed is not respectful or caring. It is in fact abusive and often non-consensual acts in vivid detail so if you can not stomach these things, be sure to skip these classics. The Way of a Man With a Maid by anonymous is actually one of my favorites. This novel portrays a man who is fascinated by a young woman, which leads to acts of obsession, bondage, and questionable consensual content. It’s highly erotic but can again doesn’t accurately portray the consent necessary for anyone truly in the lifestyle. Anne Rice’s Sleeping Beauty series illustrates the traditional tale of sleeping beauty in a more erotic light. It truly does display certain fetishes and parts of the BDSM lifestyle. Maya Banks the Enforcers Series, Mastered, Dominated, and Kept, are three books which mix the erotism of BDSM with more romantic notes. Quite enjoyable. The Kushiel’s Legacy Series by Jacqueline Carey, which set off my exploration of the lifestyle. I read the very first novel in this series when I was only thirteen years old and when it’s subject matter was discovered it led to a talk which led me to my training years later. It’s still one of my favorite’s not only because of the highly masochistic main character, or the erotic scenes, but also because of the political intrigue. And finally the Anita Blake, Vampire Hunter Series by Laurell K. Hamilton. The series as it moves along begins to depict more of the lifestyle and even features a submissive character, Nathaniel, to explore what it’s like for some of us out there. What’s more is that these novels, despite their fantasy/ sci-fi setting, still manage to (mostly) accurately display everything from fetish clubs, to power dynamics, to the roles of protectors. I’m clearly a huge fan. So these were the literary works we’ve chosen to delve into. As we said before there are tons more to be found. A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, Producer Missy Lynn and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to dive into consent. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about BDSM on a budget but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.So the reason we chose to do this episode now is that Funsize found an infographic on Pinterest about BDSM on a budget and saw a huge safety flaw. On this infographic, it suggest several things that are just fine, however one thing it suggest in particular is the use of household candles. This is a huge no, because household candles have a higher melting point than the candle we in the lifestyle use for wax play, so you will burn your partner if you use these. It’s just a huge safety problem, so today we really want to get into how to have safe, sane, budget friendly BDSM. http://www.ucollectinfographics.com/bdsm-on-a-budget-household-items-that-serve-as-cheap-alternatives-to-toys/ Pervertables- These are items you can convert and pervert for your play, which are not traditionally used in this way. Paddles at home:Spatulas are one of my favorite to be used as paddles. Also if you have ceramic or metal spatulas you can play with temperature a bit by sticking them in the fridge for 20 minutes prior to play. Just be sure that you use the flat side and avoid the edges as they may be sharper than they appear when used in impact play. Hair brushes. Not only does the flat side work as a cheap on the spot paddle, but the bristles can create a marvelous sensory feast, especially when combined with a blindfold. (Which can be made from a silk tie.) Rolled up magazines or newspapers create a mild thud and are great fun, especially if you are delving into pet play. Paint stirrer sticks. Often you can get these really cheap or for free at your local hardware store. Flogging fun:Paracord made into a flogger. If you’re looking to make your own paracord is a great place to start, and much cheaper than leather as far as materials go. There are tons of diy patterns for making your own flogger on Fetlife, Pinterest, and the internet in general. I recently came across a flogger made from an old yoga mat, cut into thick one inch strips and tied for the mop. I’m actually dying to try this out myself. Strips of spare cloth with beads tied to the tails can be arranged into a pretty neat makeshift flogger. Other impact play toys at home:Bamboo or other wooden switches can either be picked up at your local craft shop, or simply from a tree outside. Either way remember to sand the wood to get rid of any splinters. You can also make a handle out of simple bits of scrap fabric and electrical tape. One of my first experiences which I can pinpoint as a moment of pure masochism was when I was a child and ended up taking shelter under a willow tree during a storm. The branches lashed me as well as any single tail ever has. So if you have a willow tree on hand, cut off a switch and play with care. Wet towels or washcloths. You know how in movies during a locker room scene someone will snap someone else with a towel…. Same theory, only when wet they sting a lot more so there’s a lot of fun to be had there. Leather gloves… Irishmtdragon surprised me with this one recently and I’ve got to say it was actually a lot of fun; fairly light for impact but the stroke of the leather alone was mmm so nice. Pincers and clamps: Clothespins, such a marvelous pervertible, and so cheap. And if you’ve ever seen pictures of those pretty zipper patterns, well good chance they’re from clothespins. Chip bag clamps. A lot of times you can find these wider clamps and well they are amazing for the uh… lower lips on women. They can create the pinch and hold, but also provide more surface area and therefore less pain too. Combined with using some creatively placed tape, and you’re bound to have a good time. Other sensory toys you already have:Ice cubes, need we say more. If you haven’t explored temperature play, pull out some ice cubes and grab a towel from the dryer, switch between the two and watch your bottom squirm. Safety pins. Tape three or four together with the points open with a pencil as the handle. Using these to trace over your partner's skin lightly can raise all sorts of goosebumps. Sand paper. Abrasion play isn’t for everyone and should be approached carefully for those inexperienced in it. Back scratchers. Irish and I have two, one with metal claws and one wooden. Both are better for teasing than any feathers we’ve come across. Spices, stings, and rice. Tabasco…. Woo that stings! Ginger… see figging. Bags of uncooked rice. When I was being trained I was instructed to sit on a 5 lb. bag of uncooked rice for as long as needed until I learned my lesson. I still haven’t forgotten that lesson or how much that rice stabbing into my knees stung. If you don’t have that much on hand you can spread a cup around inside an empty pillow case for much the same effect. Diy and Dom DepotOften Home Depot is referred to as Dom Depot but you can also make your furnishings and toys. Some of the things you can pick up from Dom Depot are eyelet hooks. Screw a few of these into chairs, foot stools, or sturdy chests and you’ve got your own at home bondage furniture. Things like this are also pretty easy to hide in plain sight if the discretion of your home is anything you need worry about. If suspension is your play of choice you can create your own free-standing beam. Making your own will cost 1/10th of what buying one would cost. Using a cheap plastic tablecloth or tarp and duct tape you can create a protective cover for your furniture in place of sport sheets. If you don’t have a piece of furniture you feel comfortable modifying already, check out your local thrift shops. It’s important to explore what you have on hand and be safe as always. There are a lot of groups on Fetlife especially devoted just to sharing plans and diy ideas with others, so be sure to check these out as well. A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, Producer Missy Lynn and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you are getting anything out of the show we’d be grateful if you would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon. Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt BDSM in literature. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource865-268-4005