Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast

Recorded: 9/9/2018 / Published: 9/23/2018Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to finish up the interview with Lady Katheryne and then I will give my final thoughts on vanilla with sprinkles. So I’ll hit those rules to love by and then jump right into the interview where we left off last time.Rules to Love by:1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungInterview with Lady Katheryne[1:37] Kuldrin’s catharsis leads to Lady Katheryne’s catharsis.[6:22] What were the following days like?[6:57] Lady Katheryne’s first true understanding of why Kuldrin has a need to be a Dom. However, a little knowledge is dangerous and can lead to frenzy and becoming an “insta-dom”.[9:18] Trying to tame Lady Katheryne and her opinion on listening to lifestyle veterans. There is no destination in the lifestyle; it’s the journey that matters.[10:53] Goals in the BDSM don’t really work and dangers that can come from setting certain types of goals.[17:20] 80% of people who enter the BDSM lifestyle switch roles after they discover who they really are and Lady Katheryne thoughts on the subject.[21:05] The day you think you know it all and have seen everything is the day you need to give it up and how “each one, teach one” applies.[22:02] The kink of masks.[24:37] Being Dominant is NOT being a bully or a narcissistic jerk![27:01] The four (4) classes of sadists and learning that a friend of ours is a class three (3) sadist and knowing that people like that use BDSM as a way to implement their abusive nature.[30:13] TPE=Total Power Exchange[30:20] What advice do you have for people that are in the lifestyle but they are not?[32:50] Lady Katheryne’s first real BDSM experience as a teen. How has this new level of communication effected her in the vanilla world?[35:20] Contacting LadyKatheryne7 on http://fetlife.comA final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producers Jeremiah, Sihlus, and Jess (KitKat) our Senior Producers Matt, Jeremy, and xEmeraldxWolfx our Producers Kainsin, RoxieBear and Mytor at That Place in Kansas City, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, BuffaloDom84, Pain Waits, LxSoumis, and JayKay. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext time on The Krypt I will be sharing the audio from the live episode I did a few weeks ago on FB where I talked about 7 ways to introduce BDSM in marriage. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to become a Patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfire https://www.instagram.com/kuldrinfire/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKryptPaypal: MasterKuldrin http://paypal.me/masterkuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded: 9/9/2018 / Published: 9/19/2018Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to change things up a little from our regular format. Funsize has done an interview with Bratty Red about being vanilla but having some spice in her marriage. Then you will hear the first of a two-part interview I have done with My wife, Lady Katheryne about what it was like to enter the BDSM lifestyle after being married for so long. Rules to Love by:1. Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungBratty Red Interview1. Vanilla with Spice2. How was Kink introduced into your marriage?3. What kind of kinks do you use?4. How were bondage and spanking introduced?5. Bratty Red’s change of opinion about “Fifty Shades of Grey” after becoming a Krypter.6. Bratty Red’s thoughts on finding out Funsize is a lifestyle kinkster.7. How has adding a touch of kink affected your marriage?Lady Katheryne Interview1. How did it feel and what was your thought process as you were introduced to the lifestyle?2. Kuldrin admits to handling things the wrong way.3. What were some of the difficulties in the beginning?4. Outsiders are threats?!?!?!5. Territorial and Lady Katheryne’s primal side. How would you define the primal side? Territorial: protection vs jealously.6. What is the best way to deal with jealousy?7. Primal leading to catharsis? Sexual primal play?8. The manifestation of the cathartic release?9. Releasing past pains of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse that started at five years old.10. Was primal something that you used to relate to me or was it natural?11. Lady Katheryne’s kinks?12. What are your actual needs as opposed to likes?13. Would you descibe yourself as a sadist? Sadist by proxy? 14. Emotional & mental sadism?15. Psychology and the lifestyle: to mix or not to mix.16. BDSM should never be used as a replacement for therapy.17. Would you ever want to have a submissive of you own?18. With traveling for show appearances and demo’s, how difficult is my “pod fame” on you?19. Sharing me with the local community and listeners.20. Cat-like behavior at home?21. Being such a private person, how are you going to handle all of this info being out there?22. Your first true cathartic moment?A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producers Jeff, Jeremiah, and Sihlus, our Senior Producers Matt, Jeremy, and xEmeraldxWolfx our Producers Kainsin, Danni, and Heather, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon, BuffaloDom84, and Master Ferguson and LxSoumis. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext time on The Krypt we will finish up the interview with Lady Katheryne and I will give my final thoughts on vanilla with sprinkles. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to become a Patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin Fire https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfire https://www.instagram.com/kuldrinfire/Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKryptPaypal: MasterKuldrin http://paypal.me/masterkuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded: August 5, 2018  / Published: August 26, 2018Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about who pursues whom, but before that happens, we need talk about a few new interesting places find our show, hit those three rules to love by and most importantly, I have to welcome the co-hostest with the mostest, Funsize.Interesting places to find us: iHeart Radio, Spotify, Blubry on Roku, and smart speakers.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungDefinitionPursuit- To follow, chase, hunt, run after, seek to form a relationship within a persistent way, or a specific type of activity.If the Dom is to pursue the submissive?What we're really looking at here is a personal preference because there is no right or wrong.  Some tops prefer to take on the hunter’s role of pursuing the bottom.For those that do I do wonder if it does have something to do with a primal need, I'm not suggesting that these are all primals, I just wonder if that may be a part of it in that moment.  I think the next to consider is power.  Everything we do in BDSM has to do with power.  Pursuing someone is a way of displaying power, and tops could certainly view this a couple different ways.  You display the power you want to hold over the bottom by pursuing them, thereby making yourself a more attractive partner.  It could be that you view this as your right or even your duty as the dominant partner.  Sometimes this could be a dominant playing into the role, even so far as kind of falling into the trope of a big bad Dom who knows exactly what they want and how to get it.  However, that does swing us around to something very real.  We're all people who for the most part, do our best every day.  And for a lot of us, that means that we have a relationship FOMO that pops up when we've made a connection with someone.  So what do we do? We go to that person and we pursue them, we make our want of a relationship known. Because we don't want to miss out on something amazing simply because we did not try.If the submissive pursues the Dominant?Most of what we just talked about still applies to the submissive so far as not wanting to miss an opportunity.  If a submissive is stepping up to tell a dominant that they want to pursue a relationship it could also be because they feel it is their duty and right.Bottoms offer up their power for the top to wield, and it really is a case of pursuit. If you imagine a submissive on their knees holding up a collar in supplication that's what I'm talking about here.  The sub is saying here is this power over me, please use it.Is it topping from the bottom?Again I don't think we have a clear cut answer here.  For some submissives, some brats included, it can be a way of getting what they want in terms of a partner, and there in a case of topping from the bottom.  But again that's certain ones and if you think that's what is going on then as the top you can still consent or not to them.How to really get the ball rolling?Pretty simple, communicate.  Regardless of your preference on the matter, you have to communicate in order to build any relationship.  This is one of our shortest episodes in a while but don't worry because next time on the Krypt we'll have a very special interview for you all.  A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producers Jeremiah, Sihlus, and Jess our Senior Producers Matt, Jeremy, and xEmeraldxwolfx our Producers Kainsin, Princ3ssPuddl3s, Heather, and ThatPlace Oklahoma City and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon, BuffaloDom84, LxSoumis, painwaits, and J.K. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext time on The Krypt: “Vanilla with Sprinkles” interviews with three very special guests about their entrance into kink. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to become a Patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded: July 22, 2018 / Published: August 12, 2018Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to explore contracts and collars but before that happens, we need talk about a few new interesting places to find our show, hit those three rules to love by and most importantly, I have to welcome the co-hostest with the mostest, Funsize.Kuldrin’s Weekend Intensive September 14-16, 2018 https://kuldrinskrypt.com/kwiInteresting places to find us: iHeartRadio, Spotify, Blubry on Roku, and smart speakers. Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungDefinition of a BDSM ContractA non-legally binding but useful tool in negotiations, there to assist with guiding the relationship preferences, limits, interest, and goals. They are also extremely helpful for later check-ins. ContractsWhat a contract means really. A contract, as we've discussed before, is not legally binding in most cases. So having one doesn't mean you're having to do something. Instead, it is a document that outlines boundaries, preferences, and can/should be gone back to during check-ins. Negotiation. Basically, contracts are the written drafts of the negotiation process, only cleaned up and finalized. Many times when writing a contract you find yourself negotiating the level of the relationship, hard and soft limits, a timeline for check-ins, and any goals you might have. All of these and more will end up being in the final contract. Why they matter. They matter not in the legal sense but in the way that they are a tool. Creating the right tool can help with maintenance, fixing any glitches, or simply give you a peace of mind. Definition of a BDSM CollarsA BDSM collar is another tool which can help distinguish the level of the relationship and can also be an accessory for getting into headspace.TypesConsideration Collar:A consideration collar marks the commitment of a relationship that has negotiated their dynamic, however, they are still considering the relationship. It's the difference between dating and being married. Interestingly to me, I've heard this collar being compared to engagement because the commitment is there but the relationship can still end. Personally, I think a dating relationship is more accurate as your sure you want to be with that person for a time but whether or not you go any further is still up for consideration. Protection Collar:These are collars which denote that a submissive is under the protection of a dominant. Though occasionally a dominant may also come under the protection of another. I've seen this during periods of discord in a community, and in times where a predatory bottom has surfaced. TrainingThese are collars typically worn when the bottom is in a training phase of the relationship. They indicate the purpose of learning a specific aspect, the interplay of that relationship, or for a specific relationship dynamic between mentor/trainer and student. Play Collar:These are collars worn just for the duration of a scene. Often they are significant to assisting with slipping into headspace, not only to the sub, but to the Dom as well. To quote Meronym’s wonderful article he posted on Fetlife.com on collars, (and of course there’s a link in the show notes at https://kuldrinskrypt.com/149 ) “It’s an agreement between the person wearing it and the holder of the collar, but only for so long as they are wearing it. When it comes off, that agreement is done.”Meronym’s Fetlife.com article: https://fetlife.com/users/120724/posts/5077039Day Collar:Day collars are those worn either for the purpose of day to day activities or to show preferred role in the community. If you're in a committed D/s or M/s relationship with a collar that is blatantly BDSM related but say you have to go to work or the store or on a family outing, a day collar is a way to show respect for your relationship without outing yourself or your partner. It can be a simple piece of jewelry specifically worn for this purpose, for example. Some will wear a day or as I also like to call it an availability collar to events to denote a submissive position. In this case, it is only there to show their preferred role. These will often be plain. Commitment Collar:I'm tempted to throw in wedding bells here because that's the level of commitment that this collar possesses. In M/s these are also referred to as slave collars and are typically those lovely locked steel rings you see. In D/s relationships a commitment collar denotes a permanent or long-term bond. Many commitment collars are given during a formal ceremony, much like a wedding ceremony. How to know which is which? Ask! If you end up talking to someone wearing a collar and you're not sure of it's meaning just ask. What can they be, or be made of?Traditional; in the sense that they look like collars, materials include leather, PVC, rubber, steel, and linked chain. They may have decorations like d-rings for leashes, be locking, or have jewels or spikes. The design is and should be very personal to that relationship. Non-traditional; doesn't look like a collar; collars can be a ring, necklace, another piece of jewelry, or may include piercing, branding, scarification, or tattoos. I strongly recommend staying away from anything that modifies your physical person until you have at least reached the commitment collar, and even then. However, I'm not a complete hypocrite as I actually have a scarred commitment collar from my old Master on my left breasts and still greatly cherish it. The more rigid the material the more serious the relationship it typically denotes. Why they matterWearing a collar can not only show others in the community who you are and what your relationship dynamic is but it should also help shift your mental state, to get or keep you in headspace. If you don't experience a shift in at least your mental state when you put on a collar then the commitment to that relationship isn't there to denote using one. Which brings us to our next point...Why so many are starting to become upset about them. For those of us who are part of the lifestyle and have been in any seriousness, slapping on a collar and saying it's something more than a scrap of fabric when you haven't put in any effort, any knowledge seeking, or any thought to its meaning is a huge slap in the face. We get it, lots of people are wearing them as a fashion statement or you might be new and foolish but please think twice before you toss on a collar and form a relationship with someone after knowing them a week. Doing so is basically the equivalent of a drunken wedding to a stranger in Vegas. A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producers Jeremiah and Sihlus, our Senior Producers Matt, Jeremy, and xEmeraldxwolfx our Producers Kainsin, Princ3ssPuddl3s, and Heather, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon, BuffaloDom84, LxSoumis, and painwaits. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to dive into who pursues whom. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us (https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme) to become a http://patreon.com/kuldrinskrypt supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: https://www.facebook.com/kuldrin.fireTwitter: https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrinInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kuldrinfire/Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKryptPaypal: http://paypal.me/masterkuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for https://kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded: June 24, 2018  / Published: July 28, 2018Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kudrinskrypt.comOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to explore a very complex subject, BDSM in marriage.Rules to Love by:1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungIntroduction:-We have to slightly change up our show's format here because we don't have a definition.  BDSM and marriage separately are such complex topics that intertwining can look like a minefield full of twist and turns.-What are some of the complexities?Jealousy: No matter the dynamic of your marriage jealousy can and more than likely will arise at some point. If you our your partner is poly this may pop up more. It's important to discuss with your spouse if one or both of you become jealous.  Communication can help you find the source of this jealousy and then you can work together on alleviating the situation. Sources may surprise you.-Feeling like you don't get enough attention.-Stress-Worry over creating emotional bonds.Do not allow yourself, your spouse, or any third or fourth party person to become disrespectful.  If you have a third person in the relationship and you see them snipping at your spouse or vice versa it's a sign of jealousy.  It's rude, can become abusive, and who wants to live with that kind of discord? Instead, discuss the incident and set the boundary of respect and communication.  -CommunicationThis is the single most important thing in any relationship.  Communication cannot be undersold.If you are already part of the lifestyle when you get married, simply put, your partner should already know.  However, if you are married and you start getting into the lifestyle it is far better to discuss your growing interest and needs.-I know there are quite a few people out there who are hiding their BDSM lifestyle from their spouse.  And every single person I know who is doing is this is experiencing the same two things. First, they are sure it would end their marriage if their partner found out.  Second, they live with gut-wrenching fear and guilt over what they are doing.-If one person in the relationship is in the lifestyle.-Does the vanilla partner know?-If your spouse does know but isn't interested in participating in the kink community or scenes, they can still be your support system.  I know several vanilla partners, not just spouses but boyfriends and girlfriends, who will just attend munches.-It is also important to communicate and negotiate what is acceptable in your kink.  You may be dominant but if your spouse says cuddling with a submissive during aftercare crosses a boundary in your marriage, you might just have to find a stand-in for that activity.  If both are.-Scenes together-Negotiate if this a 24/7 lifestyle, or merely in the bedroom.  -Scenes apart-Having clearly defined boundaries will be important.-Having a family.-Majorly complex already-It can be healthy for your family to view your dynamic in vanilla settings.  Communication especially is prized in the BDSM lifestyle and can help teach youngsters how to approach everyday life and relationships.  -Unexpected mines popping up.When you get married you agree to stand beside someone as you both learn and grow.  But part of that is that things we don't expect pop up, some good, some bad. In BDSM these mines may require a spouses support, or be caused by that spouse.  How you handle the situation can remake or break your marriage.-Religious beliefs about marriage.-Adultery.  This is something that comes up for a lot of couples.  Many of us grew up with the notion that any relationship outside of marriage was bad and a sexual relationship was adultery.  You may have consented to a polyamorous marriage but the feeling of betrayal can still pop up.These feelings that arise can feel like cheating, or they may even be just that.  Go through the steps to handle these situations. Communicate, forgive your partner or yourself, move on and work towards rebuilding.  Punishment can also be a tricky minefield in these situations.-Tips we have found to help with balancing functional marriage and BDSM.  -Communicate.-Ask questions and clearly negotiate boundaries.-Don't become instantly disheartened if your vanilla partner reacts negatively towards BDSM. --There is so much misinformation and so many bad apples ruining it for the rest of us that they may simply require time to process.  Most often they will come back with a million questions. It's important not to get defensive and simple answer.Always be respectfulOffer empathy.Take time to calm down if you become angry or upset.  Understand that as you both grow as people things are going to change and the unexpected may occur.  Be careful to watch for frenzy and/or burnout.  If one partner is experiencing either things can become volatile, but if both are….Ask for support and a secondary watcher for these things from a third-party person.  Be part of each other's support system.A final note or two.-I’d like to thank our Executive Producers Jeff, Jeremiah, and Sihlus, our Senior Producers Matt and Jeremy, our Producers Kainsin, Danni, and Heather, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon, and BuffaloDom84. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.-Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.-And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext, on The Krypt we are going to talk about contracts and collaring. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to become a Patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceThis has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Recorded: May 27, 2018 / Published: July 16, 2018 Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit https://kudrinskrypt.comRules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungBDSM definitions for hurt and harm (as defined by Master Kuldrin)Hurt: The intentional physical and/or psychological trials that are either self-inflicted or afflicted upon a typically masochistic person consensually participating in a BDSM scene for the purpose of physical, psychological, and/or sexual pleasure.Harm: The intentional or unintentional physical and/or psychological trials that are either self-inflicted or afflicted upon a typically masochistic person consensually or nonconsensually participating in a BDSM scene that often has immediate and lasting psychological, and/or physical, and/or sexual negative effects.A brief history of hurt and harm:Flogging and self-flagellation go back thousands of years and was part of most, if not all civilization throughout history. There are cave paintings of people self-flagellating.In the late 17th century, George Jeffreys of Welsh provenance, better known as “The Hanging Judge”, obviously earned his reputation but it extended beyond the gallows. Having sentenced a young woman to lashing at the rear of a cart, he advised the executor of the punishment, “Hangman, I charge you to pay particular attention to this lady! Scourge her soundly, man. Scourge her till her blood runs down! It is Christmas, a cold time for madam to strip in! See that you warm her shoulders thoroughly.”It’s talked about in every monotheistic religion and most non monotheistic religions for both the purpose of punishment and enlightenment.The U.S. Army abolished flogging on August 5th, 1861. However, direct corporal punishments were still used “off the books” into the mid 1900’s and nondirect corporal punishments such as running, pushups, and a plethora of other physical activities commonly referred to as exercise will forever be used in militaries around the world as an effective method for punishing, training, and psychologically strengthening soldiers.Cathartic Flogging is a term coined by Master Skip Chasey wherein he defined it as "Merging the erotic with the ecstatic." It has been defined by Master Taino, the founder of MTTA and Executive Producer of Master/slave Conference as "A spiritual healing, that is erotic and sometimes a teleporting experience, created by the exchange of energy between the participants." He has also referred to it by saying it is "The exorcism of your demons." Why is hurt good for us?Hurt helps us to learn about ourselvesThink of the unnamed character play by Edward Norton in the movie “Fight Club”. He had never been in a fight and had no clue of his inner strengths but it was through the fighting that he learned just how strong of a person he was. It often does the same for us...only without the imaginary friend represented by Brad Pitt’s character, Tyler Durden. Hurt helps us to experience lifeIt has been said that life isn’t about the destination but about the journey. For some, experiencing hurt is a foreign concept or a fantasy that is exciting and intriguing. For others, it is a scary thing...and that in itself can be erotic when you think about the primal instinct. Most people are very aware of the fight or flight instinct but what teachers forgot to teach us that there is more to it than just those two things. It actually fight, flight, freeze, feed, or fuck.Another scene from “Fight Club” I love is when they are riding in the car and Edward Norton’s imaginary friend, Tyler talks him into taking his hands off the steering wheel. After they crash and flip the car, Brad Pitt excitedly points out to Edward Norton’s unnamed character that he just had a near life experience. StimulationPsychological stimulation:Catharsis: Catharsis is a state of peace, where everything else falls away and we are simply able to process and heal. Sometimes physical hurt can help you reach this and let go of mental and emotional pain or stress. Catharsis is incredibly healing.Growth: Reaching a new peak of what you can endure as a submissive is a great learning experience. From the dominant standpoint it can also offer lessons on control, and care. Overall the hurt we share allows relationships to grow and run deeper. Sexual stimulation:Masochist: As a masochist pain from hurt is a wonderful type of stimulation. Just as with experiencing pleasure endorphins are released due to these sensations. ChangeFrom the very first time we play hurt experienced from BDSM play can bring on both short and long-term changes. As we experience, push ourselves, and grow...the major changes become fewer and farther between but the changes that have occurred become hardcoded in us as time passes. These changes are often very personal and usually, aren’t even recognized until weeks or years later...if we ever recognize them but they can be simple things like the way we present ourselves to our entire belief system about ourselves, others, or how the world works. In other words, our entire worldview and characters can benefit from BDSM hurt.Why is harm bad for us?Harm is abuse. Even though sometimes it is accidental, it is still abuse. We talked about this in great detail in the two-part series on Consent and Boundaries...which can be found at https://kuldrinskrypt.com/135 But a brief rundown of this is pretty simple and self-explanatory. Basically, physical, psychological, and sexual harm are the things that we typically have control over whether or not they occur. If you break someone’s hard limits, which includes doing something they haven’t consented to, then you have automatically harmed them. If you’ve wrapped someone with a flogger, single tail, or other implement then you have harmed them. Yes, this one is usually made “ok” by a quick acknowledgement of what you have done, an apology, and a check in to make sure they are ok but it is important to understand that they didn’t consent to having their neck or collarbone struck with a single tail and it is up to you to practice or focus more so that you don’t do it anyone again. But regardless of the level of harm that we intentionally or unintentionally inflict on someone, all of us need to strive for perfection in this area and be hyper-aware of our actions and the effect we can have on someone.Harm Vs. Hurt: What’s the difference?A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producers Jeff, Jeremiah, and Sihlus, our Senior Producers Matt and Jeremy, our Producers Kainsin, Danni, and Heather, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon, and BuffaloDom84. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to go into detail about BDSM in marriage. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Live Date: 07/01/2018  /  Published: 07/02/2018The chat takes place at https://kuldrinskrypt.com/liveBDSM Masters, Dom/mes, Trainers, and Owners-Unhealthy types of O/p relationships-A brief talk about season 2-Bloodplay-Announcing a collaborative book with Master Kuldrin and Funsize on BDSM 101-Knife play-Needle Play-Resources for submissive training-The submissive's role in social settings-How much of a kink relationship is kinky time and how much appears vanilla.-Walking a submissive on a leash in public-Kneeling in public to present drinks or other items-Kuldrin's Krypt t-shirts, hoodies, and other merchandisehttps://kuldrinskrypt.com/shop-Outing people and what is the lifestyle version of the HIPAA law (Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act) that protects our healthcare information-The two types of controlled Dominants-Kuldrin's Krypt paddles-Being intentional with your actions and not spontaneously reactionary-Jeff and Sara win a paddle!!!-Should Dom's be willing to do what ask of subs-Thanks to the show producers-Kuldrin's Weekend Intensivehttps://kuldrinskrypt.com/kwiMedical Supplies:https://www.shopmedvet.com/Kuldrin's Weekend Intensive:https://kuldrinskrypt.com/kwiMaster Arcane Interview with Master Kuldrinhttps://kuldrinskrypt.com/s01e14Master Arcane's Book on Amazon:Igniting the Fire: The Art of Romantic Submissionhttps://tinyurl.com/ya6q487mElizabeth Cramer's Book on Amazon:Dom's Guide to submissive Traininghttps://tinyurl.com/y78uq7u7

Live: June 9, 2018   /  Published as Podcast: June 13, 20181: Can a little or middle be in a dynamic with a Master?It depends on the protocol required by the Master and the Master's level of compassion. As someone who previously required high protocol, I have been involved in a successful dynamic with a middle and so have many others. It is not a simple answer and like all relationships, results will vary based on the people involved.2:When is it appropriate to give/accept a collar? What are the meanings and types of collars?Play collars can be given or loaned to any person you play with and it is to be returned after the completion of aftercare.Training/consideration collars are given after the relationship matures and new relationship energy has worn off. This ensures that the parties involved aren't jumping in to fast. I recommend never collaring someone prior to the six-month mark. Think of this as you would an engagement ring. It's not to be taken lightly.Full collars are the equivalent of a wedding ring and the collaring of a slave, submissive, pet, ... is often done in a ceremony in front of close friends and/or family.Collaring: The new fad: No self-respecting lifestyle veteran would offer or accept a collar without truly knowing the other person/people involved.  However, as of late people are offering and accepting collars after only knowing someone for a few weeks or months. Since most kinksters live daily in the vanilla world it would stand to reason that they would marry someone that quickly yet they are so eager to give or wear our version of a ring and this NEEDS to stop. It is completely invalidating the entire purpose and meaning behind the collar.3: How do collars and cuffs apply to a Leather Household?Every piece of leather has a different meaning and in a Leather Household, it carries even more significance. 4: Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast paddle giveaway announcement, drawing and winner: -LadyKatie-Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource

Discover the transformative journey of personal growth within the BDSM community. Explore how learning and real-world experiences shape our paths and deepen our connections. The hosts discuss the balance of relationships based on love and respect, emphasizing the significance of embracing change. They also touch on navigating complex dynamics, like introducing third partners, and the importance of community support. With insights on personal evolution and the upcoming immersive event, this conversation is rich with inspiration and encouragement for newcomers and veterans alike.

Recorded: May 13, 2018 / Published: May 26, 2018Contact us: 865-268-4005 or https://kudrinskrypt.comRules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungDefinitionsWhat is burnout? Regardless of your position in the lifestyle you can become burnt out. Burnout is often also called Dom fatigue, or sub fatigue, and thought of as an extended drop. Honestly though you can experience a form of this even without having a partner. It is simply the feeling that you’ve had too much of the lifestyle for a time and you cannot find the energy or zeal that you used to have regularly to continue. And it’s not just a feeling of oh I’m tired after this scene, it’s a deeper more resounding, I want nothing to do with this in my life right now feeling. So for those who are really committed to the lifestyle or a particular relationship the feeling can be devastating. I really always compare burnout in the lifestyle to that of the workplace, if you don’t take a vacation for a long time you can get burnt out and the same applies here. How can the lifestyle make you jaded?Run-ins with predators and fakes.One run in can be detrimental but when you're trying to find the “one” it can be frustrating to the point of spiraling you into a sort of depressed state, which is a lot like burnout feels like. StressChanges like a move, new job, or end/beginning of a relationship. Of course, having a relationship end can be very mentally jarring and leave you feeling empty and exhausted. But, new relationships can also do this simply because of all the training and adjusting you may find yourself doing. Some people do of course experience frenzy at the start of a relationship but for others, it can be a very daunting thing. You spend so much time looking for the right person that when you find them, you can feel like you just don't have anything left to give. Feeling stagnant. Sometimes when you've been in a relationship for a while you can start feeling burnt out, the rush of those amazing new relationship drugs has worn off and you can find yourself in a rut. Or you might find yourself doing the same thing every day or every scene and wanting to push forward but just not having it in you to do so. This kind of stagnation can cause an extreme drop that just leaves you drained. What to do when you notice this happening?Turning to your support systemTaking a breakIt's important to self-monitor and understand what you are going through. Don't just assume that you are experiencing drop because while you are, burnout runs so much deeper, and often last longer. Communicate with those closest to you that you are taking a break in the interest of self-care, and clearly defined what you are stepping back from. Taking a break doesn't mean that you are ending a relationship, it just means that you are doing what is necessary to keep the relationship going, and to make all aspects of your life better. When taking a break in a committed relationship CommunicationIf you're experiencing stagnation talk to your partner, you can often use this as a platform to change the way you play. Introduce new fantasies or even reintroduce old ones to create a new experience.Finding yourself to ready to get back into the lifestyleBouncing back when you can Self-monitor, you'll know when you feel ready to get back into the lifestyle. Be aware that coming back from a break can spur you into a frenzied period. A final note or two.I’d like to thank our Executive Producers Jeff, Jeremiah, and Sihlus, our Senior Producers Matt, Jeremy, and xEmeraldxwolfx, our Producers Kainsin, Danni, and Heather, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon, and BuffaloDom84. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to dive into personal evolution. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for show notes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to become a Patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth