Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast Listener Q&A (BDSM Play Parties Dungeons Ds Roles)-S01E40
Apr 18, 2018
44:40
Recorded: Feb 18,2018 / Published: April 18, 2018
Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com
On this episode of the Krypt we are going to but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
Listener Questions
FrostBiter: (Primal)
Can one be a primal and still be a sub and be trained?
NikNakPW: (Ending a scene)
How is a scene that is naturally coming to an end called? Is there a different word used to let both the sub/bottom and anyone watching know that the scene has ended/is ending? Or is formally ending a scene generally reserved for performances?
Lora: (Play Party Questions)
What kind of food should I really bring? Are people going to go all out and be ultra creative or can I just bring something generic like chips and dip? I’ve spent hours on Pinterest looking for simple but hopefully creative food ideas.
What do I wear? I have some clothes that might be ok to wear but what if they are too revealing or if no one else is wearing something like that? I have my corset but is that gonna be to cliché? Would I even be comfortable wearing that with who knows how many people there? Can I wear regular clothes? WOuld jeans and tshirt be ok or if I'm not wearing kink wear should I dress up really nice or would that be out of place?
While I kinda figure what kinds of things I'll see just from being at munches and hearing people talk, I’m still nervous about what kind of scenes there will actually be. Would anyone be upset if I walked away while they were doing stuff if it freaked me out? Would I be expected to participate in some level? If I got there and was too overwhelmed would it be rude to leave? Should I have a buddy for my first play party?
DonniMeow: (BDSM Resources)
Can you speak resources for clothing and jewelry for those in the BDSM community .... such as collars, etc, also places for dungeons excursions
L F: (A Variety of Questions)
I noticed that you do not use whips. Is there some particular reason? Is it a bad idea for me (sub bottom) to bottom for whips?
Is it appropriate to ask a potential top to read my profile before we play?
What are your requirements for a sub that make them so hard to find?
I noticed “oxygen deprivation” and “blood letting” as specialties of yours. My (possibly incorrect) understanding is that neither of these qualify as “safe”. Where does my mistake lie?
In the case of a dark party, what should one do if something went wrong (consent violation, safety problem, etc) that one does not consider capable of handling oneself, and needs to be addressed after the fact?
I have been practicing with my flogger on a pillow! Right now I can hit the target pretty accurately if it is lying down and I try to hit with the sides. With the ends on a standing target I would say I am just over 50% accurate. At what point should I look for someone to train me in person?
Subtweet: (Travel Bags)
Had a random thought listening to episode 28 about traveling with the flogger. There are tail bags for fake horse tails (like... real life, competition/show horses) that are designed to hold something that is designed in some ways like a flogger. It keeps the tail from tangling, pads/protects it in some cases, and can be hung itself with the tail (or flogger) still tucked inside. Often theybhave individual sleeves that keep the fibers laying down in the correct direction. I have some links below for example.
https://www.sstack.com/westerntack/Dura-Tech-Deluxe-Fake-Tail-Bag-1-Tail/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAlpDQBRDmARIsAAW6-DP8rF7DhKCP1IOUR2foTWdj3CyU3hA56JamGecZpOwjO4pU4ol-V2QaAsJ_EALw_wcB
https://www.sstack.com/product/dura-tech-deluxe-fake-tail-bag-2-tail/
https://www.doversaddlery.com/dovers-tail-bag/p/W1-C10481A/?eid=X18A00U1000&utm_source=google&utm_medium=PLA&mrkgcl=1131&mrkgadid=3206187183&rkg_id=h-9c8cf92b7cd71263e54dda1e794cda69_t-1510237192&utm_campaign=NB_PLA_Retail_Mid-Atlantic_GOOG&adpos=1o5&creative=193718291935&device=m&matchtype=&network=g
Digital_Fox: (Terminology)
When my wife and I were first considering going to an education station we talked about how we wanted to act and what I wanted her to call me. I told her to call me master (which she liked) but to only use that term for me. Anyone else can be Sir, Daddy, Mister or what-have-you. Maybe I'm overthinking this, but would that be a faux pas in the community? Or is that really only if I had master in my screen name or demanded other people call me that?
A final note or two.
I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.
Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
NEXT WEEK’S AGENDA
Next on The Krypt we are going to dive into . In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.
Contact info:
Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Fb: Kuldrin Fire
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin
Instagram: kuldrinfire
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt
Paypal: MasterKuldrin
http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
Outro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth
Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com
On this episode of the Krypt we are going to but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
Listener Questions
FrostBiter: (Primal)
Can one be a primal and still be a sub and be trained?
NikNakPW: (Ending a scene)
How is a scene that is naturally coming to an end called? Is there a different word used to let both the sub/bottom and anyone watching know that the scene has ended/is ending? Or is formally ending a scene generally reserved for performances?
Lora: (Play Party Questions)
What kind of food should I really bring? Are people going to go all out and be ultra creative or can I just bring something generic like chips and dip? I’ve spent hours on Pinterest looking for simple but hopefully creative food ideas.
What do I wear? I have some clothes that might be ok to wear but what if they are too revealing or if no one else is wearing something like that? I have my corset but is that gonna be to cliché? Would I even be comfortable wearing that with who knows how many people there? Can I wear regular clothes? WOuld jeans and tshirt be ok or if I'm not wearing kink wear should I dress up really nice or would that be out of place?
While I kinda figure what kinds of things I'll see just from being at munches and hearing people talk, I’m still nervous about what kind of scenes there will actually be. Would anyone be upset if I walked away while they were doing stuff if it freaked me out? Would I be expected to participate in some level? If I got there and was too overwhelmed would it be rude to leave? Should I have a buddy for my first play party?
DonniMeow: (BDSM Resources)
Can you speak resources for clothing and jewelry for those in the BDSM community .... such as collars, etc, also places for dungeons excursions
L F: (A Variety of Questions)
I noticed that you do not use whips. Is there some particular reason? Is it a bad idea for me (sub bottom) to bottom for whips?
Is it appropriate to ask a potential top to read my profile before we play?
What are your requirements for a sub that make them so hard to find?
I noticed “oxygen deprivation” and “blood letting” as specialties of yours. My (possibly incorrect) understanding is that neither of these qualify as “safe”. Where does my mistake lie?
In the case of a dark party, what should one do if something went wrong (consent violation, safety problem, etc) that one does not consider capable of handling oneself, and needs to be addressed after the fact?
I have been practicing with my flogger on a pillow! Right now I can hit the target pretty accurately if it is lying down and I try to hit with the sides. With the ends on a standing target I would say I am just over 50% accurate. At what point should I look for someone to train me in person?
Subtweet: (Travel Bags)
Had a random thought listening to episode 28 about traveling with the flogger. There are tail bags for fake horse tails (like... real life, competition/show horses) that are designed to hold something that is designed in some ways like a flogger. It keeps the tail from tangling, pads/protects it in some cases, and can be hung itself with the tail (or flogger) still tucked inside. Often theybhave individual sleeves that keep the fibers laying down in the correct direction. I have some links below for example.
https://www.sstack.com/westerntack/Dura-Tech-Deluxe-Fake-Tail-Bag-1-Tail/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAlpDQBRDmARIsAAW6-DP8rF7DhKCP1IOUR2foTWdj3CyU3hA56JamGecZpOwjO4pU4ol-V2QaAsJ_EALw_wcB
https://www.sstack.com/product/dura-tech-deluxe-fake-tail-bag-2-tail/
https://www.doversaddlery.com/dovers-tail-bag/p/W1-C10481A/?eid=X18A00U1000&utm_source=google&utm_medium=PLA&mrkgcl=1131&mrkgadid=3206187183&rkg_id=h-9c8cf92b7cd71263e54dda1e794cda69_t-1510237192&utm_campaign=NB_PLA_Retail_Mid-Atlantic_GOOG&adpos=1o5&creative=193718291935&device=m&matchtype=&network=g
Digital_Fox: (Terminology)
When my wife and I were first considering going to an education station we talked about how we wanted to act and what I wanted her to call me. I told her to call me master (which she liked) but to only use that term for me. Anyone else can be Sir, Daddy, Mister or what-have-you. Maybe I'm overthinking this, but would that be a faux pas in the community? Or is that really only if I had master in my screen name or demanded other people call me that?
A final note or two.
I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.
Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
NEXT WEEK’S AGENDA
Next on The Krypt we are going to dive into . In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.
Contact info:
Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Fb: Kuldrin Fire
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin
Instagram: kuldrinfire
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt
Paypal: MasterKuldrin
http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
Outro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth