Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast Polyamory-S01E41
May 2, 2018
41:39
Recorded: March 11, 2018 / Published: May 2, 2018
Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
What is polyamory?
Broken down into its two parts, poly simply means many, and amor means loves or lovers. Polyamory is the practice of wanting or having more than one intimate partnership, with the knowledge and awareness of all parties involved.
Types
Sometimes those who are polyamorous who have established committed relationships with one or more of their partners will refer to the relationship as an open relationship. When dating this means that the parties involved have consented to one or both of them dating others. Open marriages also occur in which the spouse or spouses have agreed to the same. This can occur within the BDSM lifestyle when a polyamorous person has play partners, Dominants, or submissives along with any other forms of romantic partnership including vanilla ones.
Open
If all partners have consented to seeking out or have intimate relationships then the relationship is known as an open polyamorous relationship.
Open/closed
If only one party of the primary relationship, marriage for example, is polyamorous then this is often what's known as an open-closed relationship.
This can happen in a BDSM relationship when a Dom may have a primary submissive that has consented not to scene with others, while the Dom still chooses to, or in the case of harems.
Harems are simply top/bottom relationships in which typically the top has several bottoms which are committed in some way to serving that top regularly.
Closed
A closed polyamorous relationship is what happens when the partners have all consented to stop seeking other relationships outside of those that have been formed. I like to think of this as an extension upon traditional monogamy because the commitments are there though the relationship contains more than two parties.
Morality vs traditional learnings
Monogamist can look at polyamorous relationships a bit negatively. They often consider polyamorist as cheaters or simply don't understand how we do it. There's a huge difference between being a moral polyamorist and a cheater. Polyamory is something to be communicated openly and honestly. Cheaters don't communicate what they are doing and that's a huge difference.
Polyamory is something that certain people need. These relationships are created through honest communication and hard work. And for those who are thinking of jealousy, yes it can occur but just like in any other relationship it just takes work to overcome.
The myth that everyone who is part of the BDSM lifestyle is polyamorous.
Many newbies can end up coming into the lifestyle believing they must practice polyamory. Coming into BDSM you may feel like you have to separate your vanilla and kinky life. In this way you may have a vanilla partner while having a BDSM partner as well. It may work for you but if you are not a polyamorist problems will arise and you may end up ruining all the relationships you have built. If you're a monogamist then be a monogamist, you can find a way to have all your needs met if you communicate with your partner.
New Relationship Energy (NRE)
Finally we would like to go over the subject of NRE. When new relationships are formed our bodies will send out a rush of chemicals. Oxytocin and dopamine give you a rush, making your heart pound, and giving you a light headed feeling. All these feelings are what happens when you fall in love, not that every relationship contains this emotional connection. In polyamory NRE can result in ignoring your other relationships for a time, or send you into a bout of frenzy. Communication is often the key to overcoming these issues and creating successful relationships. For more information on NRE check out the kinky cast season 2, episode 9 as they covered an amazing amount of information on the subject.
A final note or two.
I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.
Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
Contact info:
Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Fb: Kuldrin Fire
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin
Instagram: kuldrinfire
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt
Paypal: MasterKuldrin
http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
Outro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth
Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
What is polyamory?
Broken down into its two parts, poly simply means many, and amor means loves or lovers. Polyamory is the practice of wanting or having more than one intimate partnership, with the knowledge and awareness of all parties involved.
Types
Sometimes those who are polyamorous who have established committed relationships with one or more of their partners will refer to the relationship as an open relationship. When dating this means that the parties involved have consented to one or both of them dating others. Open marriages also occur in which the spouse or spouses have agreed to the same. This can occur within the BDSM lifestyle when a polyamorous person has play partners, Dominants, or submissives along with any other forms of romantic partnership including vanilla ones.
Open
If all partners have consented to seeking out or have intimate relationships then the relationship is known as an open polyamorous relationship.
Open/closed
If only one party of the primary relationship, marriage for example, is polyamorous then this is often what's known as an open-closed relationship.
This can happen in a BDSM relationship when a Dom may have a primary submissive that has consented not to scene with others, while the Dom still chooses to, or in the case of harems.
Harems are simply top/bottom relationships in which typically the top has several bottoms which are committed in some way to serving that top regularly.
Closed
A closed polyamorous relationship is what happens when the partners have all consented to stop seeking other relationships outside of those that have been formed. I like to think of this as an extension upon traditional monogamy because the commitments are there though the relationship contains more than two parties.
Morality vs traditional learnings
Monogamist can look at polyamorous relationships a bit negatively. They often consider polyamorist as cheaters or simply don't understand how we do it. There's a huge difference between being a moral polyamorist and a cheater. Polyamory is something to be communicated openly and honestly. Cheaters don't communicate what they are doing and that's a huge difference.
Polyamory is something that certain people need. These relationships are created through honest communication and hard work. And for those who are thinking of jealousy, yes it can occur but just like in any other relationship it just takes work to overcome.
The myth that everyone who is part of the BDSM lifestyle is polyamorous.
Many newbies can end up coming into the lifestyle believing they must practice polyamory. Coming into BDSM you may feel like you have to separate your vanilla and kinky life. In this way you may have a vanilla partner while having a BDSM partner as well. It may work for you but if you are not a polyamorist problems will arise and you may end up ruining all the relationships you have built. If you're a monogamist then be a monogamist, you can find a way to have all your needs met if you communicate with your partner.
New Relationship Energy (NRE)
Finally we would like to go over the subject of NRE. When new relationships are formed our bodies will send out a rush of chemicals. Oxytocin and dopamine give you a rush, making your heart pound, and giving you a light headed feeling. All these feelings are what happens when you fall in love, not that every relationship contains this emotional connection. In polyamory NRE can result in ignoring your other relationships for a time, or send you into a bout of frenzy. Communication is often the key to overcoming these issues and creating successful relationships. For more information on NRE check out the kinky cast season 2, episode 9 as they covered an amazing amount of information on the subject.
A final note or two.
I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/supportme to get that information.
Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hard bound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
Contact info:
Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Fb: Kuldrin Fire
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin
Instagram: kuldrinfire
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt
Paypal: MasterKuldrin
http://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresource
Outro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth