Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast

Navigating the Online WorldRecorded October 2017This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 32Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 30 years of experience to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.comRules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, and informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungOn this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about navigating the online world of BDSM but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.This week we’re discussing how to navigate some of the more prominent lifestyle websites out there. This is a listener requested episode, all the way from Germany (?) I believe. Now because there are so many websites out there we’ve chosen to expand on those that have lasted the test of time, bring something unique to our community, or have the largest base of users. So while we are talking about these websites, remember this is by far not every website and quite frankly not even one tenth of what is out there. HistoryBefore we dive into what each of these websites are, what they offer, and how to best make use of them, we would like to touch just shortly on the history of the online community. So 1990 the internet as we know it is created, then in 1991 the word “BDSM” first appeared on a usenet group. Soon after alt.sex.bondage, a group on usenet, found the community expanding further into the online world. A decade later bdsmlibrary.org was founded, and Fetlife popped up seven years after. Today there hundreds more active websites for our community. Some are social networks, some dating apps, some pornographic sites, others are shops which cater to the implements, dress codes, and novelties associated with BDSM culture. The internet opened the lines of communication, for knowledge, connection, and experience in ways that our community simply didn’t have up until that point. Now we’re going to go one site at a time and give you ideas of how best to utilize these resources. Fetlife- starting with the most popular and well known social site is fairly obvious. Created by John Baku Fetlife is essentially the Facebook of the fetish community. There is a feed from people you know, and groups you follow just like on Facebook. However, it’s not pictures of your friend from fourth grade’s puppy (or at least not that kind of puppy)…. It’s going to be posts on things within the lifestyle. That’s not to say that there aren’t vanilla things happening on Fetlife, there are of course, but the majority is all about the kink. Kuldrin and I are both on Fetlife, so are our spouses. Along with us there are another 6,230,112 members to date. (https://fetlife.com) There are over 100,000 active groups discussing every possible subject you could think of at any given time. To be a member on Fetlife you must be 18 years of age. Within these 6,000,000 plus users there are people from all walks of life. You can definitely get a broad scope of what we mean when we talk about your kink is okay, by looking at the lists of fetishes alone on Fetlife, and understanding that for each one, there are probably at least 1,000 users who can relate to it at any time. Groups are just as diverse as the individual users. We of course have our group Kuldrin’s Krypt, where you can join or start a conversation. There are groups for fetishes, groups for local communities, there are groups for fans of certain book series. I myself am part of groups that offer tutorials, or just give advice. There is so much out there where you can meet people with similar interests and so many learn opportunities. Let’s get into what is featured on this particular website. Fetlife provides member profiles, again similar to Facebook in this aspect. Fetish lists allowing members to list their likes, quickly and easily. Members are listed by location, along with events. Several members also post their writings, pictures, and videos. Clearly Fetlife has tons to offer and for newbies especially it can get a bit overwhelming. So what are some things that can make meeting the people you want to meet easier? A good profile goes a long towards this end. On your profile you should of course list the basics, location (though many list Antarctica,) age (again many will put in 90+ years of age to hide their identities.) You can also list relationship status (including vanilla relationships, ie marriage,) D/s relationships, orientation, activity level within the community, and what you are looking for. After that there’s your About Me section. You can make this is as detailed or basic as you like, however as a tip those who have detailed profiles do better. Now this is not to say that you need to write a book or anything in this section, but typically two to three paragraphs helps. I know Kuldrin actually wrote the about section on his wife, Lady Katherine’s profile page and it is brilliant. I think I smiled the entire time I was reading it actually. You can also add your fetishes to help other members with similar interests as you in being able to find, and thereby meet you. This is important because you can search members based on fetishes alone. Finally you can add any writings you want to share; poetry, articles, and journals; pictures, and videos. I will note that videos are only watchable by paid supporters of Fetlife. Also and this is something that I know seems very sexist in a way, but a lot of female members are starting to auto-vet men who use photos of their genitals as profile pics. It’s highly unattractive to start with, and honestly it signals to women that you’re only looking for sex. It’s fine to want sex, or even just be looking for a play partner but really there’s nothing less appealing than this. So I would really recommend against this. Especially as the auto-vetting is becoming more and more popular. I also have to recommend against showing your face in pictures, or anything that signifies where you work or live. Even on sites like Fetlife you can end up unintentionally outing yourself in this way. Not only that but showing this much of yourself can potentially put you in danger from predators. Talking to other members can be done through either group posts, or direct messaging. And this is where a lot of people find hang ups and snags, because what do you say to a stranger in order to form a connection? A lot of people have trouble here because they just don’t know what to say to get or keep a conversation going, or weed out person’s they’re not interested in, or they end up portraying themselves in a certain way they may not have intended. Kuldrin and I actually started talking after I shot him a message about the podcast on Fetlife. What I said was: Hello, I recently listened to a few of your podcasts. You seem to have a lot to offer to the community at large. I'd love to hear more of what you have to say about the lifestyle. Perhaps we could have a few discussions even? Please feel free to contact me.Do- Say hello, be friendly but not too familiar. Don’t- Use common vernacular and assume that everyone will understand what you mean regardless of their age or region. Example: Yo bro, sup?... Said to a 60 something year old member of the Old Guard just won’t fly. Do- Read the person’s profile. This will hopefully give you an idea of who you’re talking to. Don’t- Assume you know everything about a person just by what the profile says, you should be asking questions based off what the profile does say. Do- Leave an opening for further conversation to follow. Don’t- Insist on the conversation taking place, or try to push it towards a certain direction or aim. Do- Be honest about what you want. Don’t- Think that just because someone is willing to message with you that this means you can skip the vetting process. Vetting is still extremely vital for online interactions. Alright now that we’ve explored a lot of what Fetlife has to offer let’s jump to the next site on our list. One of the longest lived sites out there, bdsmlibrary.org. (http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/) Bdsm library is often thought of a site solely for stories written about the lifestyle. This however isn’t true. There is a huge library available there, with stories that are definitely worth the read. However the library also hosts an extensive forum section, where members can contribute to a plethora of subjects in the lifestyle. And of course there is the chat room, which holds a large enough collection of regular members to keep the conversation going after so many years. Just as with Fetlife you can find members from all walks of life. Everyone must be 18 years of age or older and create a profile to join. The site hosts members from all over the world. The best way to use this site is by creating a profile, just as with Fetlife. After you’ve got your profile set up, read through the forums, there are some great topics there. And finally jump into the chat room when you’re ready. The Cage is another huge forum site. (https://thecage.co/) For the moment it is a free site, but they are quickly becoming a paid, by invite only website. This is a very serious place for those who want to learn and share with others. The Cage has only been around for a couple of years but the member base they host is one of quality.For complete show notes go to https://kuldrinskrypt.com/132

Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastBDSM Frenzy-S01E31October 11, 2017This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 31Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about frenzy but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.First I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, Producer Missy Lynn and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon. In order to maintain weekly episodes we are going to have to reach the goal of $30/month in listener support otherwise, due to costs, we will have to go to two episodes a month. Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungThe definition of frenzy is a condition of being overly excited, wanting to try something new, or several things in very quick fashion; being in a frenzied state in regards to the lifestyle. Three types of frenzy, or groups of people it affects. Sub-frenzyThe frenzy submissives feel, also thought of as the most common kind, this is definitely the most talked about form of frenzy. Dom-frenzyRarely acknowledged, this is the frenzy dominants feel and often makes them push themselves into new toys or techniques faster than they should. Switch frenzySwitches feel frenzy from both perspectives and this often can lead to a temporary mindset of “use this on me, okay good, now my turn.” It comes basically from both sides of the fence, but feeling it come from one end of things and not the other can lead to periods of self doubt and questioning of your position in the lifestyle. Signs that you or someone you know may be experiencing frenzy:Adrenaline rushFeeling almost inebriated when approaching the lifestyle, or learning about something that is new to you. Dizziness, surreality, etc. Feeling like you need to make up for lost time. Lots of those who are new to the lifestyle will feel like this, as though they have “wasted” time up until this point and are finally becoming who they were meant to be. Feeling a surge of excitement and hope when encountering something new.Feeling unspecified needs, or an insatiable need for more. Feeling the need to mirror what someone else wants or needs. Again this something everyone can do, not just subs as many myths would have you believe.Other emotions you may encounter during periods of frenzy, particularly if you are a newbie are fear, guilt, self-disgust, anger, denial, anxiety, and confusion. The risks of frenzy:You mind find yourself saying, “wait did I really consent to that?” Going into a situation or play with a lack of information. Higher health risks, due to a lack of information, giving consent without understanding what you consented to, or pushing to otherwise questionable limits. Dangerous emotional and physical burn out, often from playing too much or too soon. Skipping the proper vetting process, or ending up with a right now parnter instead of the right partner, simply because you want or feel like you need someone. Emotional confusion like the I love you feelings forming inappropriately due to be in altered mental state. How to avoid or slow down a frenzied state.Remember that there is so much to experience there is simply no way any of can learn it all within the span of any lifetime anyway so you might as well make the most of what you can do by slowing down and doing it correctly. Reflect on each encounter so that you can be true to yourself, and learn at your pace. Read and find trustworthy individuals in the lifestyle to help teach you. Fetlife and google are both amazing resources for this. Definitely hit up your local munches as well. Don't be afraid to come out and say I'm new, or I'm new to this. Pride is essentially useless when it comes to the risks involved in this lifestyle. Use this time to self moderate. Again really look within to discover what you need, what you want, and just be very self-aware. Saying no can be the best thing for you. You don’t have to say yes to every experience you come across to be part of this community. BDSM is lifestyle that’s extremely inclusive and understanding. We all have our own kinks and our own limits so no is a big part of our vocabulary as a whole. Count to ten and breathe deep. Staying calm and clear headed as much as you can will reduce a lot of the risks you’re going to encounter during this period. Understand that you have limits and don't need to test those parameters to their fullest. You really have nothing to prove. There’s going to be times when you will get to push those limits and fully explore them with a clear mind, so that really can wait until the frenzy has slowed down. If you see someone going through frenzy, speak with them about it and set clear limits so that they may grow at a healthy rate. It’s also okay to turn away someone experiencing frenzy if you are not comfortable playing with them at that time. Talk to people in the community as a whole, we've all gone through frenzy at some point. Even talking to someone else going through frenzy can help you understand your own experiences and give you a clearer perspective on things. Don’t allow a frenzied state to negatively affect the rest of your life or relationships. Communicate your needs and interests to any partners you have, and prioritize your time, energy, and resources realistically. Encountering frenzy when you're not new: Understand that this is actually a fairly common occurrence.There is a plateau stage where we can level off for a while and then suddenly hit a growth spurt and enter frenzy all over again. You may hit a later frenzy due to any number of changes both within the lifestyle, and without. I.E. job changes, big moves, a new toy, discovering a new style of play, or a new play partner. Finally continue to learn all the time, this will help stave off later frenzy, though it will not prevent them as a whole. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt ? In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin’s Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastS01E30-Types of BDSM DominantsOctober 13, 2017Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about types of Doms but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.First I’d like to thank our patreon supporters The Accidental Trucker, K-2SO and Matt. If you are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon. In order to maintain weekly episodes we are going to have to reach the goal of $30/month in listener support otherwise, due to costs, we will have to go to two episodes a month.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungI like my definitions as always but I feel like we’re going to be defining and exploring several types of Doms and Dommes today. How about we start off we what a dominant is and build from there, Funsize? A dominant is someone who is inherently drawn to taking a role of power and control over others, through means of consent. There’s actually a quote here from husdom.com that explains dominants excellently, “Being a Dominant has nothing in common with being domineering, in fact one is a contradiction of the other. A respectful dominant does not rule arbitrary, based on choice or that of a personal whim. A Dominant does not posses an unbridled supremacy or limitless power.” (https://husdom.com/dominant-gentleman/)Before we begin to delve into each type of Dom out there, I would like to point out that you can be more than one type, even within the span of a single scene, and that’s perfectly normal and okay. Types of DominantsA top is a person who takes control during a scene.What makes a top different from the typical dominant? A top may be in charge for a scene, while a dominant is someone who will take control outside of a scene as well. FemdomsLet’s quickly break the stereotype that Femdoms or Dommes have to be ‘hard,’ in order to be in control. It’s an absolute myth and one that often pressures women into pushing those who bottom to them too hard and can lead to serious injury. Findom A dominant who asks their submissives to send them tributes in money or (usually) expensive gifts as part of their submission. They also control other financial aspects of their subs’ lives. More than once Kuldrin has suggested this for me, but uh… I’m not sure how I feel about it. And there have been certain organizations that have openly taken a stand against findoms within our community. I believe Vanilla Umbrella is one such organization. We’ll be doing a further episode on financial domination later on, so let us know what your thoughts are on this matter. Masters and Mistress refers to a dominant who has either mastered a craft or technique of BDSM, or has an active slave under their controlWe’ve talked more than once on and off mic about what makes a Master or Mistress, in this case we’re talking about those who have active submissives or slaves looking up to them and finding them worthy of such titles. Gentlemen and Ladies are dominants who behave in chivalrous, and honorable ways towards their submissives and often any who surround them. They showcase respect and good manners in all things. Daddies and Mommies are dominants who choose to take on the role of a Daddy or Mommy, to a little submissive, or one who practices infantilism. They typically focus on guiding, and caring for their submissives as a parent would. Kuldrin, take it away, this is your area of expertise. Owners are tops that view and treat their bottoms as property that they ownThis includes pets, slaves, furniture and those who wish to be only objects. Sadists are technically those who gain sexual pleasure from causing pain to others. This can be physical or mental. Laughing Sadists are those who will be very Joker-esque in their play, often laughing or cackling as they perform impact play or hurt their consenting submissive in some other way. Sensual Sadists will couple pain with sensuality and pleasure.Leathermen are dominants who practice the leather traditions of the Old Guard. They have gone through the lessons and put in the work to earn their leathers and their positions within the community. There is a still a connotation of homosexualtiy attached to this, but its not strictly true of all leathermen. White Knight is a dominant type who longs to rescue damsels (or danes) in distress. They enjoy playing the hero. Mentors and Trainer are people who guide and teach others in one form or another in aspects of the lifestyle, formally. A controlled dominant is a dominant who is being controlled by another dominant or mentor, as an agreement in a scene to follow certain rules, or learn a new technique. This is different from a junior top as it pertains only to a particular scene or lesson. A controlled dominant may also be one who is following the rules laid down by a protector for a particular scene. Junior Tops refers to a top or dominant who is learning under the supervised care and guidance of a mentoring dominant. Kuldrin, I almost want to say that in a lot of ways both of our spouses could claim this title at the moment. Feeders and Breeders are those who focuses on feeding their submissive with the goal of weight gain in mind. These types of dominants usual look at things from the human animal/livestock perspective; ie cows and pigs, for feeding, breeding, and milking scenes. Instas or Instant Dominants, subs, or “Masters” (only in quotes for this sense of things!) who have come across a snippet of (usually) fictional BDSM and decided they were instantly part of the lifestyle. They typically know very little and will pretend they know how to handle much of the lifestyle. I’m not a fan of these people at all, for obvious reasons. To talk about primals I’ve got to actually read an excellently worded excerpt from dominantguide.com on this; the author says, “I want to start from or get to a place, where the feelings are primary- pure, raw, animal emotions, sensation and/or instinct. It could be fear, vulnerability, desire, grief, or any profound emotional state. I want to get to a place where words are gone- there may be grunting, growling, moaning, nonsense syllables crying or silence; maybe even all of above. “Primal” applies, as per Merriam Webster, in a way that’s raw, past rational thought, animalistic, instinctual. It’spure, core, raw emotion without a lot of the sensibility and good training that gets layered over that.” Kuldrin I happen to know you very much enjoy being a primal dominant, do you have anything to add here? (http://dominantguide.com/1866/what-does-it-mean-to-be-primal/)A protector is someone who watches over the safety and well being of a submissive during scenes or at events. They can be a Dom outside of these events but sometimes they merely serve for these scenes only. Riggers set up various rope bondage and suspension devices. They may only do this, or they may participate further in the lifestyle. Service Top is a top who focuses on giving service or pleasure to the bottom in their care.Caring Dominants are those who focus on taking care of their submissives, not in the sense of servicing them, but in the sense of caring for them physically, mentally, and emotionally. R.P.s or Role Play Dominants are those who take on various roles for a scene, and take control through those avenues.Examples of these might be boss, cop, or teacher role plays. Performers are those who put on shows, jump into the often stereotypical role of a dominant, or just perform demonstrations using their submissives. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext time on The Krypt we are going to dive into “frenzy” and discuss ways to prevent, what to do if you’re experiencing it, and how to help others through it. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastS01E29-Everything You Need to Know About Your First BDSM Play PartySeptember 29, 2017This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 29Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about everything you need to know about your first BDSM play party but before we begin I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.First I’d like to thank our patreon supporters The Accidental Trucker, K-2SO and Matt. If you are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon. In order to maintain weekly episodes we are going to have to reach the goal of $30/month in listener support otherwise, due to costs, we will have to go to two episodes a month. Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungBefore we begin I, as usual, like to start out with some definitions. What is a play party Funsize? A play party is a gathering for those in the lifestyle, getting together for various methods of play, be they demonstrations, performances, or just scenes in general. There are two types of play parties actually, regular play parties usually listed on Fetlife, or generally known within community munch circles and groups, and dark parties, which are by invitation only. How to get invited?It usually comes down to who you know, especially in the case of dark parties. However simply having friends who are going to a community play party can be a way of finding out about them. You can also check the events page on Fetlife to see if anything is listed for your local community. Vetting is vital to these types of events. It’s an important practice on both sides, as a hosts, and as those attending. Lots of local communities vet via munches. Others prefer one on one sit down meetings for certain events. It’s important to be patient and openly communicative if you are not being invited to these events as quickly as you had hoped. Some groups simply have extensive vetting practices, especially for dark parties. It is also important that you vet those you know are attending and your hosts. You can check who is going to most community parties and vet them on Fetlife, for dark parties, you will more likely know people on a more personal level before you are invited. What to bring? (In no particular order) Fetish-wear or other appropriate clothing to change into or out of for the event. Some events have strict dress codes to adhere to. Towels and washcloths. While some hosts will provide towels and washcloths to sit on and for clean up, it’s often more considerate to simply pack you own. No hosts likes to do that much laundry after a party!Bottled water. Many will offer refreshments but again to be considerate and mindful of others it’s often better just to already have it on hand. (Plus I cannot tell you how many times I’ve gone to an event and then ended up chugging that bottle of water on my way home later.) Wipes/ moist towelettes. Even if you’re not participating in a scene you may find yourself sweaty or arouse, and these make life so much easier. Your own toys/ toy box in a discreet container! (I've got a story here) Aspirin/ Tylenol. One word; headaches. NO one wants a headache to ruin this kind of experience, and getting into the practise of having these on hand will make for better experiences down the road as well. What to expect?Do not expect to participate in a scene unless previously negotiated to do so; you can learn a lot from just watching Ask yourself what are your personal expectations for this experience? (thanks Roxiebear!) Regular people, doing ordinary things, and having ordinary conversations, during this event. Acts which bring out things from your wildest fantasies; often for the firsts times ever in real life; or make you uncomfortable due to your own limits/ interests. Almost casual nudity and/or fetish wear that may make you uncomfortableSometimes sex or sexual acts being carried out, but often times not. House RulesDifferent hosts/ houses have different sets of rules, it’s important to learn these beforehand and/or go over them upon arrival, usually they will be posted and you can ask your hosts to view them. Is there an entry fee or a potluck contribution expected? This is good to know before you arrive. Where you can go, and where you cannot. You are usually entering a hosts private home for these parties. Some rooms like living spaces will usually be allowed while bedrooms and often outdoor spaces will be set as off limits. (Outdoors because of neighbors in most cases, remember your rules of discretion.) What kind of scenes are appropriate/against the rules. While this isn’t a big deal the first time you attend as you most likely will not be participating, it’s still good to pick up on for future events. Protocol rules for the household. Is this event high protocol friendly? What is the dress code both in the house, and for your arrival and departure? Make sure you’re dressed appropriately. Where to sit while viewing a scene and if a towel is needed/preferred? (Usually it is.) Do not interrupt a scene or interject yourself as there are still risks involved for the participants, and distractions increase those risks. Bring any safety concerns you have for a scene being performed to your hosts discreetly, they have often gone over what will occur with those performing beforehand to address many of these concerns or will stop a scene if you have a valid safety issue to be addressed. The general no touching rule, which applies to both persons and toys/implements. Very general rule: If it’s not yours, don’t touch it. Know what to do in case of an emergency. Many hosts will have specific protocols in place and first aid kits on hand on the off chance that something may go wrong. Play party scenes, demos, and performances explained.In a scene of this nature some people (exhibitionist *cough* KULDRIN *cough*) enjoy being viewed, others become humiliated and enjoy it on another level. The world falls away for the performers, allowing them to focus on what they doing (for the most part- unless some distraction occurs.) Save any questions you have for after the scene, including aftercare completion.Be prepared for more than one scene to be taking place at the party at one time and don’t become to anxious with feeling as though you’re miss something. It’s important to simply enjoy the experience as a whole. Our own stories and experiencesNEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt a special listener request, Type of Doms Explained. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastS01E28-Basic SafetySeptember 9th, 2017This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going get into basic safety, but first, as usual I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.First I’d like to thank our patreon supporter The Accidental Trucker…he’s been around since the beginning of the show. He gives a dollar a month. If the listeners are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungBasic safety defined: The steps we should all take to ensure the wellbeing of our play partners, mentally, physically, and emotionally. In review- limits, both hard and soft, and the use of safewords. We’ve already gone over these a few times so just to review; hard limits are limits that are firmly set in place, and to be avoided being broken. Soft limits are limits that are there but open to negotiations in the right situation. And safewords are words or hand gestures used to signify where a bottom is physically, mentally, or emotionally during a scene. Physical SafetyPreparations for a sceneStretch, take a mild pain reliever, and drink a glass of water. In fact don’t be afraid to pause a scene for water, drink water as part of the scene, and drink water as part of your aftercare. Hydration is everyone’s best friend. Get into the proper headspace. Clear away everything else so that you are mentally and emotionally able to get what you need from the experience. Do not imbibe in drugs or alcohol previous to or during a scene. This can inhibit decision making i.e. consent, and make it harder to tell when a person is at or has crossed their limits. Knowing what you are doing. It’s important to have as much knowledge as possible on what you are doing. For most vets there is a code of teaching others, and we take this quite seriously with our newbies. Understand any risks you are taking. RACK, PRICK, and SSCI. Know how to use any implements safely and correctly. Understand the tools and implements which you are using. Each implement in your tool box has certain risks involved, especially if used incorrectly, or before you’re ready. Scalpels vs usual knife play is a prime example of this. Scalpels are meant to peel flesh open whereas knives can be used to simply incite fear. So it’s important to understand that scalpels are not for beginners by any means. Candles and hot wax play can vary based on the type of wax used. Paraffin is safest because of its low melting point but some dyes added can increase the temperature to a harmful level. Also be aware of how far from the skin the candle is being held and avoid sensitive areas. Handcuffs, should be the real cuffs used in law enforcement not the cheap kind sold at places like Spencer's. These have a point where they lick and stay put whereas the cheap kind can tighten from slight movements cutting off circulation. Also make sure you have your key on hand and easily accessible. Avoid cheap toys in general as these typically break, are harder to care for, and cause more hurt than intended. Be sure you are cleaning, conditioning, maintaining, and storing all implements correctly. When participating in impact play know where and how to hit. Watch for silent cues that something is wrong. Practice safe bondage. Use the two finger rule. Watch for circulation risks, and possible nerve damage. You can check circulation by pressing on fingernails and counting how long it takes for color to return. Be mindful of the materials used. Notes on silk ties and bondage tape. Have quick releases available and safety shears on hand. Never leave a bottom restrained and unattended. Other safety practices and tips.Be mindful of your partners temperature. Often an extreme and quick drop in temperature signifies that the body is nearing or going into shock. Often what we do creates physical trauma, and this is a sign to back off, regulate temperature and bodily function, so a break or end of play is appropriate. Talk to your partner about previous sexual partners and activities. And get proof that they are STD and STI free. You should be doing this anyway whether it's with a play partner (including nonsexual) or a vanilla partner. Know what your partner's health conditions and allergies are before play. Take care of mental/emotional safetyKeep an open line of communication (this is what ended my relationship with my last dominant.) Don’t let your pride keep you from calling orange or red to address mental/emotional concernsConclusion: With these regular practices of basic safety and aftercare you can the best possible scenes with your partner. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to discuss everything you need to know about your first play party. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastS01E27-IrishMTDragon Interview on BDSM ExperienceAugust 31, 2017https://kuldrinskrypt.com

Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastS01E26-Consensual Non Consent RevistedAugust 23, 2017Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to revisit consensual non-consent. Before we begin I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.First I’d like to thank our patreon supporter The Accidental Trucker…he’s been around since the beginning of the show. He gives a dollar a month. If the listeners are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungBefore we begin I, as usual, like to start out with some definitions, however we’re going to be hitting a very sensitive topic today so the definitions we’re going to start with are going to SSC, RACK, and PRICK. Safe, Sane, and Consensual: Think of it as a checklist for anything you’re going to do within the lifestyle. Is it safe, physically, mentally and emotionally? Is it something you find to be sane? Do you and the other participants knowingly consent to doing it? RACK- Risk Aware Consensual Kink: This means that all parties know that there are risks involved, the know what those risks are, and still are fully consenting in participating in this variety of kink. PRICK- Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink: The idea behind this is that each individual participant should seek out the knowledge and assume personal responsibility for the activities (kink) they are consenting to. Finally there are two primary definitions for consensual non-consent. Full tpe (or total power exchange) CNC in which a slave has given full permission to their Master or Mistress to essentially remove all boundaries and possible limits, fully entrusting their care and consent in their top. CNC as in rape play, or the consent given for a role-play of nonconsensual acts to be carried within a scene. Okay so going back to CNC for the M/s dynamic this is a consent that has been given that essentially creates a carte blanche for that dynamic. What it means?It means that the slave and Master have built such a level of trust that the slave feels it is no longer necessary to have negotiations or any will to practice willful consent. Not all M/s relationships work like this. What it takes? Years of trust building, open communication, and care. And even then it may not be something every M/s relationship reaches. Risks involved?The risks involved here is that without limits and boundaries you truly have to rely on your partner to be able to fully understand your needs, even when they sometimes push beyond that which you had once considered to hard limits. CNC aka Rape PlayWhy it appeals to some?It has the appeal of fear, of making one ‘truly helpless,’ and there’s a certain taboo element to it too. How to approach this topic with a partner?Keep open honest communication, during a check-in or negotiation you may choose to bring it up as a fantasy. Risks involved? Mental and emotional damage, misunderstandings of consent could turn a fantasy into a real rape if not handled correctly, which can lead to long lasting consequences for all parties involved. How to decide if either version of CNC is right for you?Meditate on it if you think you are interested in either one. Be aware of the risks involved. Talk to your partner and if they feel this is not the right path for your relationship, be respectful. Be very mindful of your check-ins and aftercare. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275Fb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin's KryptSeason 1 Episode 25August 15, 2017This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 25Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going get into basic safety, but first, as usual I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.First I’d like to thank our patreon supporter The Accidental Trucker…he’s been around since the beginning of the show. He gives a dollar a month. If the listeners are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungAftercare basicsCheck-insHave your first aid kit stocked and readySpend time together, watch tv, cuddle, take a bath or showerDrink waterMaintain a steady temperatureMassagesTalk about what you liked or didn’t likeExpress any feelings even if it means crying or screamingTell your partner that you care (do not say 'I love you' if you don't mean it) just show your respect, and care.  Conclusion:  With these regular practices of basic safety and aftercare you can the best possible scenes with your partner.  NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to revisit consensual non-consent. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin’s KryptS01E24-Effective Communication in BDSMAugust 8th, 2017IntroThis is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 24 for August 8th, 2017.Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going get into Effective Communication. But first let’s say hello to my co-host, Funsize. Hello Funsize. Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.First I’d like to thank our patreon supporter The Accidental Trucker…he’s been around since the beginning of the show. He gives a dollar a month. If the listeners are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon.Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.Rules to Love by:Safe, sane, consensual, informedKNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul YoungVerbalNegotiations, safe words, and consent. We’ve gone over all these things before. Speak openly and honestly. If you’re uncomfortable or not sure about something it’s important to come out and just say so. Disagreements. Respect is a must, along with trust. If someone has a limit, whether you agree or not it’s important to respect that. You can also disagree as a sub and still be respectful. And take time to calm down and discuss disagreements with a clear head. Have normal conversations too. Too many times we forget to do this, but it’s important for building communication and trust. Check-ins and setting time aside to talk. Make sure you prioritize communication. Silent Communication- hand signals, body language and the very telling eyes. Communication is both a skill and a tool. Constant work on communication will make your relationship a thousand times better but if it’s not there or breaks down then it can end your relationship. Put in the work cause it’s worth it. Communication for Doms and subs.As a Dom keep a line of communication open. You need your sub to feel like they can approach you. As a sub always speak with respect. NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext on The Krypt we are going to jump into basic safety. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.Contact info:Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttps://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 PodcastS01E23-BDSM NegotiationAugust 1st, 2017IntroWelcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the showthis is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. Youcan call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we’re diving into negotiations but first I have to say hello to my lovely co-host Funsize. Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.1. First I’d like to thank our Patreon supporter The Accidental Trucker he’s been around since the beginning of the show. He gives a dollar a month. If the listeners are getting anything out of I'd be grateful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through Patreon. 2. Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases. 3. Rules to Love by:a. Safe, sane, consensual, informedb. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrityc. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young NegotiationsDefinition: Negotiations are the agreements, disagreements, and compromises made around the limits and interests between play partners or those engaging in D/s or M/s relationships. What makes negotiations important?They define what you are and are not consenting to.As consent is so important negotiations are a vital part of communicating consent. Types of negotiations:1: Scenes only - these are negotiations used to the communicate the boundaries of what is and is not consented upon for a scenes. Whether they be single scenes or the individual scenes undertaken by play partners.Example: We might agree to moderate spanking for a scene but no sex of any kind. 2: D/s and M/s relationships - more serious negotiations for on going relationships, negotiations are usually used to determine the particulars of contracts.For help writing your contract check out our sponsor bdsmcontracts.orgExample: High protocol? Is it is something Funsize would consent to? That would be something that for instance we would have negotiate for the long run of any D/s or M/s relationship we entered into. 3: Renegotiations - A renegotiation is the process of checking in at a typically defined point of time (2 months, 4 months, etc,) to negotiate any changes necessary to the pre-existing dynamic. Example: You might need to renegotiate a soft limit, that has become a hard limit or has moved into something you would like to incorporate into more regular use.NEXT WEEK’S AGENDANext week on The Krypt we are going revisit consensual non-consent together. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for the monthly giveaway. While you’re there click on support us for the Patreon link.Email: Sir@kuldrinskrypt.com / funsize@kuldrinskrypt.comFb: Kuldrin FireTwitter: @MasterKuldrinInstagram: kuldrinfirePatreon: kuldrinskryptPaypal: MasterKuldrinhttp://kuldrinskrypt.com/contactresourceOutro: This has been Master Kuldrin and Funsize for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth