Codependent Doctor

Dr. Angela Downey

Podcast focusing on codependency. Learning how to create healthier relationships, healthier self and healthier lives.

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May 12, 2025 • 31min

39: Losing Yourself in a Role: How to Find Your Identity Beyond Your Job Title or Being ‘The Mom’

In this episode, I explore what happens when we lose ourselves in the roles we play—doctor, parent, caregiver—and forget who we are beyond them.We cover:How tying self-worth to titles leads to burnout and identity lossSocietal pressure to equate value with productivityMy personal journey of redefining myself outside of being “just a doctor”I share practical ways to reconnect with your true self:Spend time aloneRevisit forgotten joysAsk: Who am I beyond what I do?You are enough—just as you are. It’s time to reclaim your authentic self.Send me a message 📗 My Books: Enough as I Am (codependency recovery) Enough as I Grow (365 day guide journal). Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📘 Great Books on Codependency 📙My Favorite books: Daring Greatly by Brenee Brown, It Begins With You by Jillian Turecki, Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras, The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin. Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📰 Sign up for my Newsletter 🛜 My Website DrAngelaDowney Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.comSocial Media links: Here🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement

Apr 21, 2025 • 17min

38: The Loneliness Of Healing: Why Growth Feels So Isolating At First

Healing often brings a surprising companion: loneliness. As you set boundaries and seek healthier connections, some relationships may fade, leaving room for self-discovery. Embrace this solitude instead of fearing it; it can spark creativity and joy. Reconnect with hobbies and let curiosity guide you through this transition. Ultimately, loneliness isn't a punishment—it's a pathway to more authentic relationships and a fulfilling life. Remember, you're not alone in this journey.

Apr 14, 2025 • 33min

37: Reclaim Your Power: How to Recognize and Release the Victim Mindset

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor, I delve into the complex and often misunderstood concept of "victim mode." As a family doctor and fellow codependent, I understand that many of us have experienced feelings of powerlessness, especially after trauma, burnout, or in the context of codependency. This episode is designed to foster compassion and self-awareness, rather than judgment, as we explore how victim mode manifests in our lives and how we can begin to shift out of it.I start by defining victim mode as a mindset where individuals feel as though life is constantly happening to them, leading to a sense of helplessness and resentment. This mindset can stem from real experiences of trauma, emotional neglect, or feeling unheard, and it often results in a long-term identity that can be difficult to break free from. I emphasize that while many listeners may have valid reasons for their pain, it’s crucial to recognize when that pain transforms into a belief that nothing will ever change.Throughout the episode, I highlight the signs of being stuck in victim mode, such as feeling like nothing works out, blaming others for our circumstances, and retelling painful stories that define our identities. I encourage listeners to approach these signs with curiosity rather than shame, recognizing that they are often survival strategies learned in response to past experiences.I also discuss how victim mode can impact our relationships, leading to feelings of being taken advantage of, expecting others to read our minds, and avoiding direct communication. These patterns can create a cycle of disconnection and disappointment, even when those around us are not intentionally trying to hurt us.As we move into the healing portion of the episode, I share practical steps for shifting out of victim mode. I emphasize the importance of acknowledging our experiences without shame and encourage listeners to ask themselves, "What is still in my control?" This question can help reclaim a sense of agency in situations where we may feel powerless.I introduce the concept of "tiny acts of power," which are small, everyday decisions that reinforce our ability to choose and asserSend me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month. 📗 My Books: Enough as I Am (codependency recovery) Enough as I Grow (365 day guide journal). Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📘 Great Books on Codependency 📙My Favorite books: Daring Greatly by Brenee Brown, It Begins With You by Jillian Turecki, Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras, The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin. Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📰 Sign up for my Newsletter 🛜 My Website DrAngelaDowney Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.comSocial Media links: Here🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement

Apr 7, 2025 • 28min

36: Understanding Burnout: Recognizing the Signs and Taking Action

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor, I dive deep into the topic of burnout, a personal experience that has significantly shaped my life and career. Burnout is more than just feeling tired; it's a profound exhaustion that affects our body, mind, and emotions, often creeping up on us until we hit a breaking point. I share my own struggles with burnout, including moments of emotional outbursts and the toll it took on my health and relationships.We explore the three key dimensions of burnout as defined by psychologist Christina Maslach: emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and reduced personal accomplishment. I discuss how burnout manifests in various areas of life, from work to personal relationships, and the signs to look out for, including physical symptoms like chronic fatigue and emotional signs like irritability and detachment.I emphasize the importance of recognizing burnout as a signal that something needs to change, rather than a personal failure. Recovery requires intentional steps, including prioritizing rest, setting boundaries, and building a support system. I encourage listeners to reflect on their own experiences with burnout and to consider what changes they can make to foster a healthier relationship with themselves.As we wrap up, I provide reflection exercises to help you identify your energy drains and explore ways to reclaim joy in your life. Remember, self-care isn't selfish; it's essential for preventing burnout and nurturing your well-being. Join me next week as we discuss being stuck in victim mode. Thank you for listening, and take care!Send me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month. 📗 My Books: Enough as I Am (codependency recovery) Enough as I Grow (365 day guide journal). Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📘 Great Books on Codependency 📙My Favorite books: Daring Greatly by Brenee Brown, It Begins With You by Jillian Turecki, Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras, The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin. Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📰 Sign up for my Newsletter 🛜 My Website DrAngelaDowney Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.comSocial Media links: Here🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement

Mar 31, 2025 • 26min

35: Jealousy and Envy: Shifting Your Mindset for Healthier Relationships

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor, I delve into the complex emotions of jealousy and envy—two feelings that many of us grapple with but often struggle to understand. As we explore these emotions, I aim to shed light on how they can impact our self-worth and relationships, particularly in the context of codependency.I begin by discussing the common experience of feeling jealous or envious, whether it’s triggered by a friend’s engagement or someone’s apparent confidence. These emotions, while natural, can lead to feelings of insecurity, bitterness, and even resentment if left unchecked. I emphasize that jealousy and envy are not inherently bad; rather, they serve as signals that reveal our fears and values.To clarify the distinction between the two, I explain that jealousy is the fear of losing something we already possess, while envy is the desire for something someone else has. I provide relatable examples to illustrate how these emotions manifest in our lives, such as feeling threatened when a partner spends time with someone attractive (jealousy) or longing for a friend’s relationship (envy).Throughout the episode, I highlight how these feelings can become particularly overwhelming in codependent relationships, where self-worth is often tied to external validation. I discuss various ways jealousy can manifest, including the fear of being replaced, the need for constant reassurance, controlling behaviors, and feelings of rejection over minor actions.I also address how envy can show up in our lives, often leading to comparisons that diminish our self-esteem. I encourage listeners to shift their mindset from comparison to inspiration, reminding them that everyone has their own unique journey.To help manage these emotions, I share practical strategies for shifting our perspectives. This includes recognizing and naming our feelings, practicing gratitude, challenging negative thoughts, and strengthening our sense of self. I emphasize that healing from jealousy and envy is a process, and while we may still experience these emotions, they don’t have to control our lives.As we wrap up the episode, I invite listeners to reflect on their own eSend me a message This episode includes a paid partnership with BetterHelp. Click this link, betterhelp.com/drdowney, to get 10% off your first month. 📗 My Books: Enough as I Am (codependency recovery) Enough as I Grow (365 day guide journal). Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📘 Great Books on Codependency 📙My Favorite books: Daring Greatly by Brenee Brown, It Begins With You by Jillian Turecki, Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras, The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin. Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📰 Sign up for my Newsletter 🛜 My Website DrAngelaDowney Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.comSocial Media links: Here🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement

Mar 24, 2025 • 22min

34: Living Authentically: Embracing Diversity in the LGBTQ Community

In this episode of The Codependent Doctor, I delve into the complexities of gender identity and the experiences of the LGBTQ+ community, particularly in the context of codependency. I begin by emphasizing the importance of acceptance and respect for all individuals, regardless of their differences. I share my unwavering support for the LGBTQ+ community and create a safe space for open dialogue.Throughout history, human diversity has existed, yet societal norms have often imposed rigid categories around gender and love. I discuss how these norms can lead to feelings of discomfort and resistance when faced with identities that challenge traditional beliefs. Drawing from my own experiences, I illustrate how societal expectations can dictate personal choices and the impact this has on mental health.I explore the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals, particularly regarding codependency, which can manifest as people-pleasing and difficulty setting boundaries. Many in the community have experienced rejection and discrimination, leading to deep-seated fears of abandonment. I highlight the importance of self-worth and the need to prioritize self-care, encouraging listeners to break free from codependent patterns.As I reflect on the current political climate, I express my concern for the increasing fear and discrimination faced by marginalized groups, particularly in the U.S. I examine how codependency and the need for control can contribute to resistance against those who challenge societal norms. I invite listeners to engage in self-reflection and to approach differences with curiosity and compassion.Ultimately, I remind everyone that we all seek to feel seen, valued, and free to be ourselves. By embracing diversity and allowing others to exist authentically, we can create a more vibrant and connected world. I encourage those struggling with their identity to know they are not alone and that their existence is valid. I conclude by inviting listeners to join me next week as we explore the themes of jealousy and envy. Thank you for tuning in!Send me a message 📗 My Books: Enough as I Am (codependency recovery) Enough as I Grow (365 day guide journal). Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📘 Great Books on Codependency 📙My Favorite books: Daring Greatly by Brenee Brown, It Begins With You by Jillian Turecki, Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras, The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin. Affiliate disclosure: I am an affiliate parner with Amazon and therefore receive a commission at no cost to you. 📰 Sign up for my Newsletter 🛜 My Website DrAngelaDowney Email: codependentdoctor@gmail.comSocial Media links: Here🎵 Music: Touching The Air by Graceful Movement

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