Polycurious
Fernanda
Non-monogamy is not for everyone, but you might be curious about it. Could it be right for you? How do non-monogamous couples deal with jealousy? I was curious myself, and the more I asked, the more I became surprised by this unexplored topic. In Polycurious I have casual and intimate conversations with non-monogamous couples, sex and relationship experts, friends, and even people who tried polyamory and realized it wasn’t for them. This podcast is for the polycurious, whether you have explored non-monogamy or not.
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Oct 7, 2025 • 1h 2min
63. Handling Big Emotions in Polyamory, Triads and Breakups with Evita Sawyers
Today, Evita Sawyers ((@Lavitaloca34) shares how she went from letting jealousy and anger take over to becoming more grounded and less reactive. We talk about her experience being in a triad and how opening her marriage revealed gaps in her relationship with her husband, ultimately leading to their breakup.This episode explores how non-monogamy can uncover powerful truths about yourself, serve as a path for personal growth, and highlight both the strengths and limitations within your relationships.Resourced mentioned:Follow Evita on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/lavitaloca34?igsh=a2RqOHU5ZTdoMmRiFollow Evita on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/share/1Evne8bz9V/?mibextid=wwXIfrPatreon Bonus Content from This Conversation:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousPoly Love Documentary:https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B088G1RM9C/ref=atv_sr_fle_c_Tn74RA_1_1_1?sr=1-1&pageTypeIdSource=ASIN&pageTypeId=B088G3DKRG&qid=1759100808642The Untethered Soul Michael A Singer https://untetheredsoul.com/untethered-soulThe Power of Now by Eckhart Tollehttps://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruizhttps://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319No Mud, No Lotus by Thich Nhat Hanhhttps://www.parallax.org/product/no-mud-no-lotus/Loving What Is By Byron Katie https://thework.com/loving-what-is-revised-edition/More Than Two:https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706The Ethical Slut:https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664Nonviolent Communication:https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528XThe Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown:https://brenebrown.com/book/the-gifts-of-imperfection/Get my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community here:https://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/polycuriouspodcast?igshid=1mrwl69kdbtasFollow Polycurious on Tik Tok:https://www.tiktok.com/@polycuriousWatch the podcast on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcast
Sep 23, 2025 • 56min
62. When Your Partner Chooses A Nesting Partner with Roshi & Frankie
Discover the complexities of maintaining a long-distance polyamorous relationship! Roshi and Frankie share their journey of balancing multiple partners while prioritizing their connection. They discuss managing jealousy, the importance of communication, and finding security even with a nesting partner. Learn how to identify needs, embrace differences, and experiment for growth. This candid conversation highlights the emotional work necessary for non-monogamy and the inner journey it inspires.
Sep 9, 2025 • 49min
61. Meet My Secondary Partner Part 2 with John
In a candid discussion, John shares how his casual dating past shaped his current relationship. They explore pivotal moments, like the 'fireplace incident,' highlighting the importance of accountability. Trust issues are unpacked as they navigate their contrasting dynamics, focusing on personal growth and emotional processing. John's advice? Embrace curiosity over judgment in relationships. Together, they stress the beauty of accepting partners as they are, fostering deeper connections sans labels.
Jul 1, 2025 • 1h 4min
60. Two Families, One Polycule with Catherine and Brian
Catherine and Brian went on Feeld looking for a threesome but things took a turn when Catherine fell for a woman who’s also married with a daughter. Now the two couples (and their kids) have formed a loving polycule built on honesty and care.In today’s episode, we talk about how Brian stays sensually connected to the dynamic by being submissive, even though he’s not sexually involved with Catherine’s girlfriend. We get into how they’ve navigated Catherine having threesomes with her girlfriend and her girlfriend’s husband. We also explore the importance of staying open to evolving dynamics, and why asking thoughtful questions can go further than quick reassurance when your partner is struggling in non-monogamy.Resources mentioned:Ep.46 More Than A Mother with Molly Roden WinterMore Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (book)Sex with Emily podcastBonus content: Raising a child in a polycule:https://www.patreon.com/posts/133008939/Join our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokYouTubeFacebookThreads
Jun 17, 2025 • 58min
59. Masculinity & Non-Monogamy: A Man’s Memoir with Adam of Seek the Risk
Adam is the author of Seek the Risk, the only memoir I know of by a man about non-monogamy. In this episode, he shares how being with a female partner who was more sexually active than he was challenged his sense of masculinity. He talks about how he overcame those feelings using techniques from his extreme sports background, including recognizing harmful inner narratives and reframing fear. Get Adam's Book "Seek the Risk"seektherisk.netWrite to Adam: adam@seektherisk.netRead Adam's Substack:seektherisk.substack.comJoin our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up here:https://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokYouTubeFacebookThreads
Jun 3, 2025 • 56min
58. All About MFM Threesomes with Didi & Alex
In the second part of my conversation with Alex and Didi, we’re diving deep into MFM (male-female-male) threesomes, something they’ve explored together, and that Alex has a lot of experience with solo. He shares how he went from feeling uncomfortable with seeing his partner receive pleasure from another man to actually making it one of his biggest kinks.We talk about why this dynamic can be incredibly enjoyable, how to avoid jealousy, and how shifting your mindset can transform the entire experience.Follow Didi on Instagram at ethicallynonmongamous:https://www.instagram.com/ethicallynonmonogamous/Listen to Didi's podcast, The Non-Monogamous SpectrumSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0hwFZNSmLwDdDI1aUOvfT5?si=a2c04ea3e07c49aaApple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-non-monogamy-spectrum/id1818259334Join our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up herehttps://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me here:https://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokYouTubeFacebookThreads
May 20, 2025 • 1h
57. Navigating Couple-to-Couple Play with Didi & Alex
Today, Didi and Alex talk about what it’s like to be in a relationship where one partner is just beginning to explore non-monogamy while the other has years of experience. We also get into the complexities of couple-to-couple play, including the communication challenges, mismatched expectations, and lessons learned from their early experiences.Follow Didi on Instagram at ethicallynonmongamous:https://www.instagram.com/ethicallynonmonogamous/Listen to Didi's podcast, The Non-Monogamous SpectrumSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0hwFZNSmLwDdDI1aUOvfT5?si=a2c04ea3e07c49aaApple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-non-monogamy-spectrum/id1818259334Join our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousGet my free guide to opening up herehttps://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon here:https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokYouTubeFacebookThreads
May 6, 2025 • 1h 5min
56. Can a Kinky Relationship Be Asexual? Annie Undone Says Yes
Today, Annie Undone opens up about her long-distance Dominant/submissive relationship (where she was the dom) with an asexual partner and what it taught her about intimacy. She also shares her journey from monogamy to polyamory and back again, her experience leaving an abusive marriage and dating someone 14 years younger, and why staying grounded in yourself outside of romantic relationships is so important.Resources mentioned:From Polycurious to Poly Part 1: https://www.patreon.com/posts/127305023?utm_campaign=postshare_creatorPolycurious YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@polycuriouspodcastAnnie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annie_undone/Annie's writing: https://ko-fi.com/annieundone/shopFetLife: https://fetlife.com/Discord: https://discord.com/Feeld: https://feeld.co/Get my free guide to opening up herehttps://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon herehttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokFacebookThreads
Apr 22, 2025 • 1h 2min
55. Aryn & Josh From Couples Therapy
Today Aryn and Josh from Couples Therapy discuss their decade-long journey navigating polyamory, including their experience in a triad, Josh’s process of overcoming discomfort with Aryn dating other men, and how they use conflict as an opportunity to model how they want to be treated by each other.Watch Couples Therapy on Paramount: https://www.paramountplus.com/shows/couples-therapy/Listen to the episode with Lorena (Josh's Ex): https://www.polycurious.com/podcast/ep40Get my free guide to opening up herehttps://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon herehttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokYouTubeFacebookThreads
Apr 8, 2025 • 54min
54. When Their Actions Don't Match Their Words with Daniella Guimaraes (Velvet Ties)
Daniella Guimaraes is a non-monogamous matchmaker and founder of Velvet Ties social club. Today she shares her CNM journey, why she prefers starting relationships fully open, and lessons from a past partner whose actions contradicted his words. She also tells us how Velvet Ties is bringing the community together and what you have to do to become a part of it.Learn more about the Croatia trip here (make sure to mention Polycurious for $500 off):https://partiful.com/e/ULTwpIFxb5ocL6qjFAwlLearn more about Velvet Ties here (make sure to mention Polycurious for $500 off):velvetties.comFollow Velvet Ties and Daniella on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/velvetties_/Get my free guide to opening up herehttps://www.polycurious.com/guide-to-opening-upBook a free exploratory call with me herehttps://calendly.com/fernandafabian/30minJoin our Whatsapp community herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon herehttps://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious onInstagramTik TokYouTubeFacebookThreads
