Ellie and Cole went from both being non-monogamous to just Ellie playing with others. But that doesn’t mean Cole doesn’t benefit! Ellie shares videos and pictures of her encounters and brings the sexual energy into their relationship when she gets home. We dive into how this (some might say hotwifing) arrangement works, the conversations that made it possible, and their journey from playing together to settling into a mono-poly dynamic.Listen to Ellie's podcast 'Kink with Alex + EllieSubstack:https://talkingkinkpodcast.comSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6tg4geRbYCJWl2SmwweVodApple:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-kink-with-alex-ellie/id1727462400To My Stag, My Hubby full audio:https://soundgasm.net/u/ParcaeNona/To-my-Stag-my-HubbyBook a free exploratory call with me⁠ ⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01Join our Whatsapp community⁠⁠⁠ herehttps://chat.whatsapp.com/CIo9i8FTioT0ebfU3QmNqVJoin our Patreon ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious on⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this final episode of the Mono-poly mini-series, my assumptions about these relationships get seriously challenged! Shy is solo poly, non-hierarchical, and a relationship anarchist, while Gabrielle, who’s monogamous, has a surprisingly open (some might even say poly) mindset. We dive into what non-hierarchy actually looks like in practice and how even monogamous partners can benefit from polyamory.Book a free exploratory call with me⁠⁠here⁠⁠https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community⁠⁠here⁠⁠.https://chat.whatsapp.com/Ka6FnsUEPaJ2gpFBcphhQJJoin our Patreon⁠⁠here⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/c/PolycuriousFollow Polycurious on⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, I sit down with Cassie and Schuyler, a couple navigating a mono-poly dynamic—Cassie is open to dating others, while Schuyler has remained monogamous (so far!). We dive into their journey of embracing this relationship style, from Cassie overcoming feelings of guilt to how their dynamic has deepened their connection. Resources mentioned in this episode: Ep.2 Finding the Type of Relationship That Works for You ⁠Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth⁠ Book a free exploratory call with me ⁠here⁠ https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01 Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community ⁠here⁠. https://chat.whatsapp.com/Ka6FnsUEPaJ2gpFBcphhQJ Join our Patreon ⁠here⁠ https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode Seth and I talk about why he’s never lost his confidence as a monogamous man in a non-monogamous relationship. We unpack how we approach "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" (spoiler: it’s not what you think!) and share what we’ve learned about making a mono-open dynamic work. Resources mentioned in this episode: Ep.12 She's Open He's Not with Fer & Seth Book a free exploratory call with me here https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min?month=2025-01 Join our Mono-Poly Whatsapp community here. https://chat.whatsapp.com/Ka6FnsUEPaJ2gpFBcphhQJ Join our Patreon here https://www.patreon.com/c/Polycurious Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Polycurious is one of the 25 top non-monogamy podcasts: https://podcast.feedspot.com/non_monogamy_podcasts/

Today I'm giving you a little sample of a Patreon episode. Feeling NRE (New Relationship Energy) in non-monogamy for the first time? If you're connecting with someone outside your primary relationship, you might freak out a bit (I sure did!). Here’s what I wish I knew: Thinking about your new lover more than your partner is normal and it will likely go away: Infatuation often comes with intense emotions and short-term, obsessive attachment. Remember, you likely felt the same for your primary partner once—it will fade.  You might feel guilty: If you haven't discussed this with your partner, guilt can creep in. It’s crucial to talk about what happens if someone catches feelings. Falling in love isn’t something you can control—be ready for it. You might doubt your primary relationship even if it’s going great: This is monogamous conditioning at play. Society teaches us that loving someone else means something’s wrong. It takes time to unlearn that belief. Resources: NRE Newsletter Post  Join my Patreon at ⁠patreon.com/c/Polycurious⁠ Book an exploratory call here: https://calendly.com/polycuriouspodcast/30min

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In the last episode of the Poly Parents mini-series I spoke to Molly Roden Winter, author of the New York Times Bestseller More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. We spoke about her experience overcoming shame as a non-monogamous mother and how opening up her marriage helped her grow and learn about herself. Get Molly's book here! Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our WhatsApp community ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠! Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠

Today, I talk to writer and coach Sarah Stroh (Monogamish_me on Instagram), a week before giving birth. We speak of how becoming pregnant changed the dating game for her and put her identity as a flirty and adventurous person into question. She also tells us about what led her to decide to co-parent with a friend and how that influenced her partner.  Connect with Sarah: Instagram Substack Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our WhatsApp community ⁠⁠here⁠⁠! Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠

In the second part of my conversation with this couple, we discuss their transition from being open to polyamory, partially due to their three kids leaving for college. They each share their unique methods of dealing with jealousy and other challenging emotions, as well as how they've adapted to these feelings. Finally, they talk about their experience of revealing their non-monogamous relationship to their children, and the unexpected outcomes that followed. Resources mentioned in this episode: Carol & David's Episode: Unlearning Monogamy ⁠Esther Perel's Questions to Build Adaptability⁠ Join our WhatsApp community here! Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠

This couple decided to open up their marriage after two decades together. Today, they share some of the challenges they faced during that transition, such as learning how much to share about their outside relationships with one another. They also tell us how they used Craiglist (believe it or not) to find a match for their first non-monogamous date. Lastly, they give great tips around finding community. Follow Polycurious on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ Join our WhatsApp community ⁠here⁠! Visit our website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠polycurious.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Our email is polycuriouspodcast@gmail.com Get $10 off STD Check ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠