Inner Work With MaryAnn Walker: Stop People Pleasing and Start Honoring You!

Send us a textAs people pleasers, we are very good at showing up consistently for others. But we are less skilled when it comes to showing up consistently for ourselves. Take some time today to identify one way you want to consistently show up for yourself and find a fun way to track it!  As we practice showing up consistently for ourselves, it benefits everyone because we aren't as depleted. 

Send us a textIn this episode  we discuss the differences between communicating from a place of emotional calm versus approaching conversations with heightened emotional charge. Examples of Emotionally Charged vs. Emotionally Calm Responses:Emotionally charged: "You're avoiding me to punish me."Emotional calm: "Hey, I'd love to get together, I miss you."Emotionally charged: "You must not like me very much."Emotional calm: "Hey, I haven't heard from you as much lately, what's been going on?"Emotionally charged: "Our friendship doesn't matter anymore."Emotional calm: "I noticed we haven't been spending much time together, is everything okay?"Emotionally charged: "I guess I can't count on you."Emotional calm: "I'm feeling overwhelmed with work, could use some support, are you available?"Reasons for Emotionally Charged Responses:Past Experiences: Previous negative experiences or traumas shaping interpretations.Insecurity: Low self-esteem leading to negative interpretations.Lack of Communication Skills: Not having the skills to communicate effectively.Projection: Projecting fears or insecurities onto others.Defense Mechanisms: Becoming defensive to protect ego.Emotional Triggers: Strong reactions based on past experiences.Cognitive Bias: Seeking and interpreting information to confirm existing beliefs.The episode emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, pointing out that it ultimately boils down to our ability to manage our emotions in order to communicate effectively. Consider instances in your life where emotional regulation might be a challenge, particularly in relationships. By recognizing these patterns, individuals can strive to approach conversations from a place of emotional calm, leading to more constructive dialogue and healthier relationships.Looking for more support?  Come and work with me! Click here to apply now

Send us a textToday I share the story of two monks. Both had taken a vow to not touch a woman, yet they found a woman in need of help crossing a river. The older and wiser monk carried her across. The younger younger monk became angry and accusatory towards the senior monk. "We took a vow not to touch a woman!" The older monk replied, "I left her by the river. Why are you still choosing to carry her?"So often we continue to hold onto things, possibly even ruminating on them, thinking this is productive. Today, I encourage you to leave it behind. Let it be. Leave it by the  side of the river. To read the full article, click here. To work work with me, click here. To connect with me on my other platforms, click here. 

Send us a textAre you telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth in your relationship? Comment like: "I don't like your boyfriend""You abandoned me at the party"& "You are so inconsiderate"Might feel like you're telling the truth, but these statements are actually partial truths. This week we explore how to be more truthful and authentic in relationship by increasing our own emotional maturity, identifying ALL that is coming up for us, and communicating in a way that owns your experience without defensiveness. Are you looking for support when it comes to identifying what your whole truth us? Apply to work with me now by going to www.maryannwalker.life  

Send us a textDo you struggle to say no?  The desire to help comes from a good place. But sometimes, saying yes can lead to resentment or feeling taken for granted.Learning to identify the difference between urgency & an emergency can help. Here are three ways to tell the difference:Urgency: It is time sensitive, but the consequences of not taking immediate action are mild.Emergency: It is time sensitive and consequences of not taking immediate action are severe.Urgency: The consequences of it not being addressed include some inconvenience.Emergency: The consequences of it not being addressed include death or significant injury to self or others. Urgency: The problem could have been prevented with proper planning. Emergency: The problem could not have been prevented or planned for. Want to learn more? Like, follow, and come and listen to episode 84, Saying YES and Saying NO: The Law of Opposites, on my podcast, Inner Work with MaryAnn Walker. Watch or listen on your favorite platform now. Want to listen to episode 84?  Click here: Saying YES and saying NO: The Law of Opposites. Want to work with me or follow me on my other platforms?  Click here! 

Unlock your potential by identifying one thing to stop and one thing to start! Learn how to stop mindless scrolling and foster real connections instead. Discover the impact of fueling your body with nutritious foods over junk. Shift your focus from ruminating on the uncontrollable to what you can manage. Embrace movement to enhance physical health, and invest in relationships that uplift you. Tackle numbing behaviors, assert boundaries, and prioritize saying yes to yourself to avoid burnout.

The podcast delves into how we often make assumptions about others' actions and reactions, and how it can reflect our own insecurities. It discusses the importance of recognizing our self-worth independent of others' opinions, and the benefits of seeking validation and support in relationships.

Send us a textWhat helps you to feel heard?  What causes you to feel unheard?  And how can you deepen your level of listening to deepen your relationships?  This is exactly what I'm talking about with my friend and fellow coach, Kelly Legath. Find her on instagram @daydreamercoaching or at www.daydreamercoaching.comWant to connect with MaryAnn?  Click here to connect on social media: https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.lifeClick here to apply to work with her: https://maryannwalker.life/contact-me

Send us a textWhat could you do in a minute?  And how could a minute change your life? Maybe you're taking one minute to make that phone call you've been putting off. Maybe you use your minute to do 100 jumping jacks. Maybe you use your minute to just... breathe... but find one minute today and see how impactful you can make that minute. 

Send us a textAre you tired of constantly saying yes to others while neglecting your own needs? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and burnt out from always putting others first?In today's fast-paced world, learning to say no is a vital skill for maintaining your well-being and reclaiming your time. In this episode we explore the challenges of saying no and offer practical strategies for setting boundaries with compassion and confidence.Discover how saying no can empower you to prioritize self-care, establish healthier relationships, and find greater peace and balance in your life. If you're ready to break free from the cycle of overcommitment and embrace the power of no, this episode is for you.Listen now and unlock the transformative potential of saying no. And if you're interested in diving deeper into this topic, feel free to reach out—I'd be happy to send you more resources or discuss how my coaching services can support you on your journey.Here's to honoring your authenticity and reclaiming your power!https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life