On Attachment

Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security.What We Cover in This Episode:Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trustThe inverse relationship between trust and controlHow trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blameA powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your valuesThe biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trustWhy building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachmentSelf-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back. 💌 Join the VIP List for Healing Anxious Attachment's Birthday Sale 💌Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

It’s painful when you feel like your needs in a relationship aren’t being met. Whether it’s emotional intimacy, quality time, affection, or communication, this can lead to frustration, loneliness, and resentment — especially if you’ve voiced your needs and still don’t see change.In this episode, we’re exploring:Why anxiously attached people so often get stuck around needsWhat to focus on if you feel stuck in a cycle of unmet needsHow to know when it’s a compatibility issue vs. a communication issueIf you’ve ever wondered whether your needs are “too much” or felt torn between self-advocacy and keeping the peace, this episode will give you clarity on how to navigate these conversations with confidence and self-respect.Healing Anxious Attachment's 3rd Birthday Sale! Join the VIP list here.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven’t posted about you, social media can fuel insecurity, comparison, and even compulsive checking behaviours.In today’s episode, we’re exploring why social media is such a common trigger for people with anxious attachment, the unhealthy patterns it can create, and most importantly, how to navigate it in a way that supports your wellbeing and relationship security.What We Cover in This Episode:Why social media fuels anxiety for anxiously attached peopleThe biggest relationship triggers—who your partner follows, why they won't post about you, and moreThe comparison trap and how it distorts realityUnhealthy social media behaviours that reinforce insecurityPractical strategies to reduce social media anxiety and feel more secureLink to Episode #165: Why Validation is So Important for Anxiously Attached PeopleHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Dive into the world of conscious dating where self-worth and personal standards take center stage. Discover how anxious attachment can create barriers in dating and learn strategies to overcome insecurities. Explore the importance of dating with intention and clarity, while identifying your core values, non-negotiables, and deal-breakers. This conversation is packed with insights to help you build authentic connections and foster healthy relationships.

In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connection.Key themes covered:The links between perfectionism and anxious attachment patternsHow perfectionism manifests in relationships (performing, people-pleasing, fear of making mistakes)The connection between perfectionism and fear of abandonmentWhy perfectionism creates distance in relationships despite our intentions for closenessHow perfectionism impacts vulnerability and emotional intimacyWe discuss practical steps for:Recognising perfectionist patterns in your relationshipsMoving from self-criticism to self-compassionEmbracing "good enough" in relationshipsBuilding tolerance for imperfectionShowing up authentically in relationshipsHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety? If so, this episode is for you. We're talking all about the difference between intuition and anxiety, and sharing some simple tools to know how best to relate to these states and when to listen to the information our body is giving us.We'll cover:anxious attachment and hyperawareness of shifts in people's emotional statestrusting our perception but questioning the meaning-makingrecognising urgency as a key imprint of anxietytreating our anxiety with care and kindness without letting it run the showHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking about how to rebuild self-worth after a break-up. It's so common, particularly for anxious attachers, to emerge after a break-up feeling incredibly uncertain and lacking in self-worth. We become acutely aware of the extent to which we lost ourselves in the relationship, but often don't know where or how to begin reconnecting with who we are.We'll talk about:why it's so common for self-worth to be damaged after a break-upself-abandonment and self-loss when relationships are under straindeciding to go all in on yourselfpractical tips for rebuilding self-worth and reconnecting to your authenticityHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Discover the journey from anxious attachment to greater security! Learn about the signs of progress, including emotional transformations and mindset shifts. Understand how healing isn't linear and what that means for your personal growth. Gain insights on building self-worth, letting go of control, and embracing uncertainty. This discussion is packed with encouragement and practical tips to motivate you on your path to secure attachment.

For our first episode of 2025, we're exploring the journey of creating a life that feels deeply authentic and aligned with who you truly are. Moving beyond societal expectations and the hamster wheel of constant striving, this episode challenges you to embrace courage, honesty, and personal responsibility to make meaningful changes in your life.Key topics covered:Why honesty with yourself is essential for transformationThe power of action—and why inaction is a decision tooHow to reconnect with your deepest desires and yearningsBuilding capacity for discomfort as a tool for growthPracticing courage and embracing fear as part of the processIf you’re ready to step into agency, responsibility, and bravery in 2025, this episode is for you.For those wanting deeper support, I invite you to join me in Homecoming, a six-month mastermind for creating a life filled with joy, freedom, and abundance.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Dive into the complexities of early dating, especially for those with anxious attachment styles. Explore how to navigate the emotional ups and downs while managing texting anxiety. Learn strategies to avoid attaching too quickly and understand the importance of pacing your emotions. Discover why prioritizing your values over mere chemistry can create healthier patterns in relationships. This insightful discussion offers practical tips for a more secure and conscious dating experience.