
On Attachment
Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.
Latest episodes

Jan 20, 2025 • 29min
#172: 10 Signs You're Moving From Anxious to Secure Attachment
Discover the journey from anxious attachment to greater security! Learn about the signs of progress, including emotional transformations and mindset shifts. Understand how healing isn't linear and what that means for your personal growth. Gain insights on building self-worth, letting go of control, and embracing uncertainty. This discussion is packed with encouragement and practical tips to motivate you on your path to secure attachment.

Jan 8, 2025 • 24min
#171: How to Transform Your Life
For our first episode of 2025, we're exploring the journey of creating a life that feels deeply authentic and aligned with who you truly are. Moving beyond societal expectations and the hamster wheel of constant striving, this episode challenges you to embrace courage, honesty, and personal responsibility to make meaningful changes in your life.Key topics covered:Why honesty with yourself is essential for transformationThe power of action—and why inaction is a decision tooHow to reconnect with your deepest desires and yearningsBuilding capacity for discomfort as a tool for growthPracticing courage and embracing fear as part of the processIf you’re ready to step into agency, responsibility, and bravery in 2025, this episode is for you.For those wanting deeper support, I invite you to join me in Homecoming, a six-month mastermind for creating a life filled with joy, freedom, and abundance.Highlighted Links Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

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Dec 17, 2024 • 26min
#170: Dating Q&A: Early Dating with Anxious Attachment, Navigating Texting Anxiety, Not Attaching Too Quickly, Prioritising Values Over Chemistry
Dive into the complexities of early dating, especially for those with anxious attachment styles. Explore how to navigate the emotional ups and downs while managing texting anxiety. Learn strategies to avoid attaching too quickly and understand the importance of pacing your emotions. Discover why prioritizing your values over mere chemistry can create healthier patterns in relationships. This insightful discussion offers practical tips for a more secure and conscious dating experience.

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Dec 10, 2024 • 26min
#169: Self-Sabotage: Why We Do It & How to Break Free
Explore the intricate world of self-sabotage, from procrastination to pushing loved ones away. Discover how these patterns often stem from a misguided desire for safety rooted in attachment styles. Delve into the emotional toll, including shame and frustration, that accompanies these behaviors. Uncover the fears and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck, and learn effective strategies to shift these cycles towards personal growth and supportive habits.

Dec 3, 2024 • 22min
#168: How to Support an Avoidant Partner to Open Up
Explore how to create emotional safety for avoidant partners, fostering a deeper connection. Discover practical tips for approaching them with curiosity and understanding. There’s a focus on navigating intimacy, highlighting the balance between support and respect for their protective mechanisms. Learn how to create safe spaces for connection without the risk of manipulation. Perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship with an emotionally distant partner!

Nov 26, 2024 • 23min
#167: How to Balance Compassion for Others with Boundaries for Yourself
Discover the fine line between compassion and self-boundaries in relationships. Learn how to navigate emotional challenges, especially during family gatherings. Explore the role of self-awareness in managing unacceptable behaviors while fostering understanding. Gain insights on maintaining personal boundaries for emotional health and the importance of clear communication. This discussion encourages a proactive approach to safeguarding your well-being, ensuring that empathy doesn’t lead to self-abandonment.

Nov 19, 2024 • 26min
#166: Signs an Avoidant Partner is Deactivating & What to Do About It
Discover the subtle signs of emotional withdrawal in avoidant partners and learn how these behaviors relate to their attachment patterns. Uncover practical advice for maintaining connection while respecting your own self-worth. Explore strategies to manage challenges and protect your emotional wellbeing during moments of deactivation. Navigate the complexities of relationships with insight and care.

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Nov 12, 2024 • 20min
#165: Why Validation is so Important for Anxiously Attached People
Discover the crucial need for validation, especially for those with anxious attachment styles. Explore how feelings of invalidation can warp perceptions and relationships. Learn about self-validation as a key to building security and confidence. The discussion highlights the importance of understanding and communication in fostering healthier connections. Reflect on past experiences and recognize self-invalidating behaviors to promote healing and grounding in true feelings.

Nov 5, 2024 • 23min
#164: 5 Unexpected Triggers of the Abandonment Wound
In today's episode, we're talking all about the abandonment wound — and specifically, five scenarios that might unexpectedly trigger your fears and insecurities around abandonment. When we think about the fear of abandonment, we often imagine scenarios where someone physically leaves us—maybe a breakup or a loved one walking out the door. But the truth is, this fear can manifest in much more subtle and unexpected ways, especially for those of us with anxious attachment patterns.We'll cover:how periods of grief or loss can trigger abandonment fearsillness and wanting to be cared fordealing with unexpected life challengesperiods of transition or major life changesemotional overwhelm and the need for supportJoin my new membership, On Attachment Insiders today!Highlighted Links Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Oct 29, 2024 • 28min
#163: How to Address a Partner’s Excessive Phone Usage
Explore the growing issues around excessive phone usage in romantic relationships. Discover how constant screen time can lead to feelings of neglect and frustration. Learn practical strategies for addressing these concerns with your partner while fostering better communication. Delve into attachment styles and the importance of setting digital boundaries together. Engage with a community that supports deeper discussions about relationships and encourages connection over distraction.