On Attachment #179: Why You Struggle With Self-Trust
Mar 11, 2025
15:40
Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone.
In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security.
What We Cover in This Episode:
- Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trust
- The inverse relationship between trust and control
- How trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blame
- A powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your values
- The biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trust
- Why building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachment
Self-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back.
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