On Attachment

When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly different lens: what does it mean to be a better partner? Not from a place of self-sacrifice or perfectionism, but from a grounded, secure place. One that’s rooted in love, compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to show up with care.In this episode, we explore:Why our capacity to sit with discomfort can shape the tone of our relationshipsWhat it really means to listen with curiosity, rather than defensivenessHow our own insecurities can make us self-focused without realising itThe importance of meaningful repair after conflictThe difference between blame and honest self-reflectionWhy it matters to love your partner the way they receive love—not just how you like to give itThese aren’t tips to make yourself more palatable or easygoing. They’re invitations to grow, to connect more deeply, and to take ownership of your part in creating a secure and nourishing relational space.Free Masterclass: Anxious-Avoidant RelationshipsHighlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

One of the hardest things to face in a relationship is feeling like you're growing and evolving, while your partner seems simply unwilling to meet you there. Maybe you’ve suggested therapy, brought up recurring issues, or shared books and podcasts you love, only to be met with silence, shutdown, or defensiveness.In this episode, we’re exploring what to do when your partner doesn’t seem interested in personal growth or improving the relationship. We’ll talk about why this happens, what it means (and doesn’t mean), and how to navigate it in a way that honours your own needs without defaulting to blame or control.Whether you're in a long-term partnership or navigating something newer, this conversation will help you feel more grounded and clear in how you show up when things feel one-sided.In this episode, I cover:Why some people resist self-work or relationship growthHow attachment styles shape our responses to discomfort and changeThe difference between inviting vs. demanding growthWhy your healing doesn’t depend on your partner's participationWhat to do when you’ve tried everything and still feel stuckHighlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Discover why avoidant attachment often faces unfair demonization and how this misunderstanding affects relationships. The discussion highlights the importance of compassion and self-reflection, encouraging listeners to recognize vulnerabilities instead of projecting blame. It also emphasizes moving beyond labels and prioritizing personal values for healthier connections. This thought-provoking conversation invites you to explore your own narratives and understand what true healing requires.

Healing anxious attachment is a challenging yet transformative journey. Listeners discover that healing often involves discomfort and grief. The myth of achieving complete security is debunked, revealing that progress is a continuous process. Changes made during healing may disrupt relationships, as not everyone will appreciate the transformation. Triggers won't disappear entirely, but control over reactions can improve. Surprisingly, old, unhealthy patterns might be missed, highlighting the complexity of growth.

Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security.What We Cover in This Episode:Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trustThe inverse relationship between trust and controlHow trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blameA powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your valuesThe biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trustWhy building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachmentSelf-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back. 💌 Join the VIP List for Healing Anxious Attachment's Birthday Sale 💌Highlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

It’s painful when you feel like your needs in a relationship aren’t being met. Whether it’s emotional intimacy, quality time, affection, or communication, this can lead to frustration, loneliness, and resentment — especially if you’ve voiced your needs and still don’t see change.In this episode, we’re exploring:Why anxiously attached people so often get stuck around needsWhat to focus on if you feel stuck in a cycle of unmet needsHow to know when it’s a compatibility issue vs. a communication issueIf you’ve ever wondered whether your needs are “too much” or felt torn between self-advocacy and keeping the peace, this episode will give you clarity on how to navigate these conversations with confidence and self-respect.Healing Anxious Attachment's 3rd Birthday Sale! Join the VIP list here.Highlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven’t posted about you, social media can fuel insecurity, comparison, and even compulsive checking behaviours.In today’s episode, we’re exploring why social media is such a common trigger for people with anxious attachment, the unhealthy patterns it can create, and most importantly, how to navigate it in a way that supports your wellbeing and relationship security.What We Cover in This Episode:Why social media fuels anxiety for anxiously attached peopleThe biggest relationship triggers—who your partner follows, why they won't post about you, and moreThe comparison trap and how it distorts realityUnhealthy social media behaviours that reinforce insecurityPractical strategies to reduce social media anxiety and feel more secureLink to Episode #165: Why Validation is So Important for Anxiously Attached PeopleHighlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Dive into the world of conscious dating where self-worth and personal standards take center stage. Discover how anxious attachment can create barriers in dating and learn strategies to overcome insecurities. Explore the importance of dating with intention and clarity, while identifying your core values, non-negotiables, and deal-breakers. This conversation is packed with insights to help you build authentic connections and foster healthy relationships.

In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connection.Key themes covered:The links between perfectionism and anxious attachment patternsHow perfectionism manifests in relationships (performing, people-pleasing, fear of making mistakes)The connection between perfectionism and fear of abandonmentWhy perfectionism creates distance in relationships despite our intentions for closenessHow perfectionism impacts vulnerability and emotional intimacyWe discuss practical steps for:Recognising perfectionist patterns in your relationshipsMoving from self-criticism to self-compassionEmbracing "good enough" in relationshipsBuilding tolerance for imperfectionShowing up authentically in relationshipsHighlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety? If so, this episode is for you. We're talking all about the difference between intuition and anxiety, and sharing some simple tools to know how best to relate to these states and when to listen to the information our body is giving us.We'll cover:anxious attachment and hyperawareness of shifts in people's emotional statestrusting our perception but questioning the meaning-makingrecognising urgency as a key imprint of anxietytreating our anxiety with care and kindness without letting it run the showHighlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website