On Attachment

The discussion dives into the patterns that attract people to emotionally unavailable partners. Low self-worth and inconsistent early relationships can create a magnetic pull toward the familiar. The savior mentality, driven by hope and potential, often keeps one invested in unfulfilling dynamics. Intermittent reinforcement makes these relationships addictive, similar to gambling. Interestingly, the conversation also highlights how one's own emotional unavailability can contribute to these patterns. It's a compassionate exploration of how to shift toward more fulfilling relationships.

In this episode, we explore what it really takes to create meaningful change — especially in those seasons where everything feels hard, familiar patterns keep looping, and no amount of “trying” seems to make a difference. We talk about the inner environment required for real change, and why self-compassion isn’t the opposite of accountability — it’s the foundation of it.You’ll hear about:Why we default to shame when we feel stuckThe myth that self-criticism leads to better behaviourHow shame overwhelms an already stressed nervous systemWhy being on your own team is essential for honest self-reflection👉🏼 Join the January round of my 28-Day Secure Self Challenge here00:00 Introduction 04:13 Why Self-Judgment is So Common06:32 Understanding and Validating Anxiety08:49 The Role of Self-Compassion in Growth11:58 Isn't Self-Compassion Self-Indulgent?

Discover a personal healing journey from anxious attachment to self-confidence. The host shares insights on recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns and the importance of therapy. Learn about six transformative changes that foster self-trust and rebuild self-worth. Hear about a physical challenge that served as proof of resilience and the decision to pursue passion over a corporate career. Ultimately, the journey leads to meaningful work and a loving family, inspiring hope for others on their healing paths.

James ‘Fish’ Gill, a relationship coach and author, shares insights on navigating conflict and enhancing communication. He discusses the importance of recognizing unmet needs in relationships and how unresolved pain can linger even after conflicts are addressed. Fish highlights techniques for expressing feelings without blame and emphasizes the value of mutual skill-building to address disputes. He also addresses the complexities of dating with kids, offering strategies to harmonize parenting differences while strengthening connections.

Join a heartfelt discussion on the transition to parenthood as a couple reflects on their journey with their 18-month-old son. Hear about their initial hesitations, the surprises of newfound love, and how they manage household responsibilities without scorekeeping. They share valuable insights on preserving individual time and keeping the relationship strong through support and communication. Plus, listen for essential advice for couples navigating this transformative phase of life!

Explore the impact of anxious attachment on our sensitivity to others' opinions. Discover the cost of outsourcing self-worth and how it disconnects us from our true selves. Learn about building an internal compass and the importance of self-trust over external validation. Stephanie discusses the trade-offs between authenticity and connection, the paralysis from trying to please everyone, and practical steps to prioritize your values. Gain insights on tolerating disapproval and making choices aligned with your integrity.

Navigating the world of dating after a breakup can be tricky. There’s no fixed timeline for when you're ready; it’s a personal journey influenced by your feelings and healing. Learn to recognize signs that indicate you might not be ready yet, like lingering grief or fixation on your ex. Discover the importance of clarity in your values and intentions before jumping back in. Plus, understand that it’s normal for dating to stir up new emotions and grief. It’s all about approaching it with self-compassion and awareness.

When a relationship ends, it’s natural to crave closure. We want answers, explanations, or one last conversation that will tie everything up neatly and help us move on. But the reality is, closure rarely comes from someone else — it’s something we have to create for ourselves.In this episode, I share some hard but freeing truths about closure:Why the relationships that leave us most desperate for closure are usually the ones least likely to give itHow the idea of a “closure conversation” can sometimes be a hidden way of keeping the door openWhy even when we get answers, they rarely soothe us in the way we hopeThe difference between chasing closure from someone else versus cultivating it within yourselfPractical ways to create your own sense of closure and peaceIf you’ve been waiting for that message, that explanation, or that final conversation to make things better, this episode will help you see closure differently — and take back your power to move forward.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

So often, we’re drawn to the work of healing our relational wounds because of challenges in our relationship. A partner’s behaviour, or the dynamic between us, shines a light on our pain points and shows us where our work might be. But this can raise a difficult question: if we’re still being triggered or activated within that very relationship, is healing actually possible?In this episode, I explore the nuance of this dilemma. We’ll cover:Why triggers aren’t necessarily a bad thing — and how they can point us toward the deeper wounds that need healing.The difference between growth edges that stretch us and dynamics that keep us constantly dysregulated.Signs you can do the work of healing within a relationship, and when the relationship itself may be keeping you stuck.How to find the middle ground: using relational challenges as invitations into greater self-awareness, without normalising constant pain or struggle.Relationships will always bring moments of discomfort — that’s the nature of intimacy and vulnerability. But there’s an important distinction between the kind of challenge that supports healing, and the kind that prevents it. This episode will help you reflect on where your relationship sits, and what you need in order to move forward in your healing journey.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Focus on green flags in dating can transform your experience. Paying attention to how you feel around someone can reveal deeper truths than mere analysis. Remembering shared details shows genuine interest and presence. Feeling relaxed signals a safe connection, while healthy self-disclosure indicates openness. Consistency in actions and words is essential for building trust, and mutual effort ensures both partners are invested. Embrace these positive signs to foster potential and meaningful connections!