Explore the intricate world of self-sabotage, from procrastination to pushing loved ones away. Discover how these patterns often stem from a misguided desire for safety rooted in attachment styles. Delve into the emotional toll, including shame and frustration, that accompanies these behaviors. Uncover the fears and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck, and learn effective strategies to shift these cycles towards personal growth and supportive habits.

Explore how to create emotional safety for avoidant partners, fostering a deeper connection. Discover practical tips for approaching them with curiosity and understanding. There’s a focus on navigating intimacy, highlighting the balance between support and respect for their protective mechanisms. Learn how to create safe spaces for connection without the risk of manipulation. Perfect for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship with an emotionally distant partner!

Discover the fine line between compassion and self-boundaries in relationships. Learn how to navigate emotional challenges, especially during family gatherings. Explore the role of self-awareness in managing unacceptable behaviors while fostering understanding. Gain insights on maintaining personal boundaries for emotional health and the importance of clear communication. This discussion encourages a proactive approach to safeguarding your well-being, ensuring that empathy doesn’t lead to self-abandonment.

Discover the subtle signs of emotional withdrawal in avoidant partners and learn how these behaviors relate to their attachment patterns. Uncover practical advice for maintaining connection while respecting your own self-worth. Explore strategies to manage challenges and protect your emotional wellbeing during moments of deactivation. Navigate the complexities of relationships with insight and care.

Discover the crucial need for validation, especially for those with anxious attachment styles. Explore how feelings of invalidation can warp perceptions and relationships. Learn about self-validation as a key to building security and confidence. The discussion highlights the importance of understanding and communication in fostering healthier connections. Reflect on past experiences and recognize self-invalidating behaviors to promote healing and grounding in true feelings.

In today's episode, we're talking all about the abandonment wound — and specifically, five scenarios that might unexpectedly trigger your fears and insecurities around abandonment. When we think about the fear of abandonment, we often imagine scenarios where someone physically leaves us—maybe a breakup or a loved one walking out the door. But the truth is, this fear can manifest in much more subtle and unexpected ways, especially for those of us with anxious attachment patterns.We'll cover:how periods of grief or loss can trigger abandonment fearsillness and wanting to be cared fordealing with unexpected life challengesperiods of transition or major life changesemotional overwhelm and the need for supportJoin my new membership, On Attachment Insiders today! Healing Anxious Attachment waitlist Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

Explore the growing issues around excessive phone usage in romantic relationships. Discover how constant screen time can lead to feelings of neglect and frustration. Learn practical strategies for addressing these concerns with your partner while fostering better communication. Delve into attachment styles and the importance of setting digital boundaries together. Engage with a community that supports deeper discussions about relationships and encourages connection over distraction.

Exploring the all-consuming hope for an ex's return, the discussion highlights the importance of self-respect and personal growth after a breakup. Listeners are encouraged to manage their emotions and adopt mindset shifts to foster healing. The conversation emphasizes self-compassion and acceptance, promoting a focus on self-worth and future potential rather than clinging to unrealistic reconciliation hopes. Valuable resources and tools for navigating this emotional journey are also shared, helping listeners move forward with confidence.

In this episode, we’re diving into how fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganised attachment) plays out in relationships. If you identify with this attachment style, you might notice certain patterns in your relationships that feel confusing or contradictory.Key points include:Feelings of instability in relationships: Many with fearful avoidant attachment feel fine when single, but painful emotions surface in relationships, often leading to blaming their partner.Impact of partner's attachment style: A hallmark of fearful avoidant attachment is the shift between anxious and avoidant behaviours, which can vary from one partner to the next depending on the attachment combinations. Idealising vs. villainising partners: There’s a tendency to place partners on a pedestal at times, but then quickly villainise them when triggered or threatened.Fear of intimacy vs. longing for connection: Fearful avoidants deeply crave closeness, but a core fear of rejection — often rooted in shame — makes true intimacy feel unsafe. Fear of betrayal and difficulties with trust are also common.  Healing Anxious Attachment waitlist Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to navigate emotional triggers in a healthy and constructive way. Whether it’s a comment, an argument, or even an unexpected event, triggers can send us into emotional overdrive, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and disconnected from ourselves. But with the right tools, you can slow down the spiral and regain control over your emotions.I’ll guide you through a simple, four-step process to help you work through triggers in real time. We’ll explore how to pause and ground yourself, tune into what’s happening in your body, examine the story you’re telling yourself about the situation, and identify what you truly need to move forward.If you’ve ever felt hijacked by your emotions and want practical steps to bring more calm and clarity to these moments, this episode is for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why we get triggered and how the body responds to perceived threatsThe importance of pausing and creating space before reactingHow to tune into your body to notice sensations and ground yourselfQuestions to help you check the story you’re telling yourself about the situationHow to discern whether you need to have a conversation or if you can genuinely let it goIdentifying what you need to feel empowered and move forward✨ Download the free cheat sheet on How to Work Through a Trigger here ✨ Healing Anxious Attachment waitlist Apply for my 6-month Homecoming Mastermind Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website