
On Attachment
Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.
Latest episodes

Jul 1, 2025 • 11min
#195: Two Simple Principles for a Healthy Nervous System
Discover the surprising truth about nervous system health—not just relaxation, but also deliberate stress exposure. Learn how to build resilience and capacity by balancing activation with recovery. Explore the necessity of nourishing yourself through rest and co-regulation, and reflect on your current support strategies. This insightful conversation offers a compassionate reframe on emotional well-being, perfect for anyone feeling burnt out or curious about nervous system care.

Jun 24, 2025 • 19min
#194: When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority in Your Relationship
Feeling sidelined in relationships? This discussion dives into the challenges faced by those with anxious attachment, highlighting the emotional toll of feeling unchosen. It unpacks how these dynamics often play out, especially in anxious-avoidant partnerships. Listeners will learn about the roots of these feelings and practical strategies to reclaim personal power. Discover ways to foster healthier interactions and enhance self-worth, whether you're navigating current relationships or reflecting on past experiences.

Jun 17, 2025 • 12min
#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
Discover the hidden treasures of anxious attachment! This discussion reveals how traits like emotional attunement and loyalty can transform struggles into strengths. Learn to navigate the intricacies of relationships by embracing your unique qualities. Gain insights on shifting from a fear-based mentality to secure self-expression, and uncover how to acknowledge the beauty within yourself. It's a journey of recognition and empowerment for those seeking healthier connections.

Jun 10, 2025 • 21min
#192: Boundaries vs. Ultimatums
Dive into the nuanced world of communication in relationships, exploring the vital distinctions between boundaries, requests, and ultimatums. Discover why understanding the energy behind your words can lead to healthier interactions. Learn about the common pitfalls of over-explaining and the importance of aligned action. Gain insights into self-worth and independence, especially for those with anxious attachment styles. This discussion promises to enhance your self-compassion and empower your relationship dynamics.

Jun 3, 2025 • 21min
#191: Pleasure, Rest, & Feeling Good in a Culture of Chronic Stress
This discussion dives into the struggle many face in accessing pleasure and rest amidst a culture fixated on productivity. It uncovers how chronic stress can make joy feel unsafe or unearned. The episode highlights the impact of our nervous systems on experiencing happiness and how burnout intertwines with self-worth. Listeners are encouraged to reclaim their right to self-care and explore small, mindful changes for a more fulfilling life. It's a warm reminder to embrace pleasure and ease in the hustle.

May 28, 2025 • 20min
#190: How to Stop the Anxious Spiral
Struggling with anxiety? Discover how to break the cycle of overanalysis and catastrophizing. Learn what happens in your body and mind during an anxious spiral and why it’s linked to anxious attachment. Get practical tools for calming your nervous system and regaining perspective. Uncover the importance of self-worth in stopping spirals before they take hold. This discussion offers both immediate strategies and long-term resilience techniques, aiming to leave you feeling grounded and empowered in the face of anxiety.

May 25, 2025 • 21min
#189: Why Anxiously Attached People Struggle with Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the most common—and most shamed—experiences for people with anxious attachment. In this episode, we’re exploring where jealousy really comes from, how it manifests in relationships, and why it makes so much sense through the lens of self-worth and attachment wounding.I share personal reflections from my own journey with jealousy, alongside insights to help you understand your patterns with more compassion and clarity. Whether you obsessively compare yourself to others, feel threatened by your partner’s past, or find yourself spinning out when you don’t feel like a priority, this episode will help you start untangling the deeper fears driving those reactions.We’ll cover:Why jealousy is often a symptom of deeper insecurity and low self-worthThe difference between jealousy and envy — and why both show up for anxiously attached peopleCommon behaviours (like social media stalking or reassurance-seeking) and why they don’t actually soothe your fearsWhat to do when jealousy arises — and why shame only makes it worseWhy building self-worth is the most powerful antidote to chronic jealousySign up for the 28-Day Secure Self ChallengeHighlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

May 17, 2025 • 21min
#188: When Your Relationship Feels Stuck (& What to Do About It)
Feeling stuck in your relationship? You're not alone; many face similar challenges. Discover how external stressors often impact connection more than the relationship itself. Learn three powerful shifts: focus on appreciation instead of criticism, reconnect through lighthearted activities, and prioritize your own well-being. These insights can help navigate the complexities of anxious-avoidant dynamics and foster a deeper connection.

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May 10, 2025 • 25min
#187: Is It Better to Heal While Single or in a Relationship?
Is it better to heal while single or in a relationship? This discussion reveals the pros and cons of both paths. Emotional safety is crucial, and personal growth can flourish in the right conditions. The conversation invites self-reflection on fears and emotional needs, reminding listeners that true support comes from within. Whether dating or enjoying solitude, understanding the unique challenges and opportunities of your journey is key. Explore the nuances of recovery and how to embrace your current season.

Apr 30, 2025 • 22min
#186: When Life Hasn't Gone to Plan
We all have visions for how we thought life would unfold — timelines we hoped to follow, milestones we expected to reach. So what happens when life doesn't go to plan?In today’s episode, I’m speaking to those moments of disappointment, grief, and disorientation that come when our reality looks nothing like we’d imagined. Whether it’s relationships, career, family, or a more intangible sense of where you “should” be by now — it’s easy to spiral into self-blame, shame, or despair when life veers off course.We’ll explore:Why unmet timelines can stir such deep emotion and shameThe hidden comparison traps that make us feel like we’re falling behindHow to hold space for grief without collapsing into hopelessnessThe difference between giving up and gently letting goWhat it looks like to reimagine your path from a place of self-trust and compassionIf you’re navigating a chapter that looks wildly different from what you’d hoped or planned — I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Buy tickets - London Event Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website