On Attachment

In this episode, I’m joined by educator, speaker, and author Lael Stone to explore the powerful role that early imprints play in shaping the stories we carry — about ourselves, others, and the world around us.We dive into how our earliest experiences — especially within our family system — inform the narratives we unconsciously live by. We talk about what it means to bring those stories into conscious awareness, and how to begin rewriting the ones that no longer serve us.Whether you’re deep in your healing journey or just beginning to explore your inner world, this conversation is a reminder that we’re not defined by our past — and that we have the power to tell a new story.Connect with Lael StoneInstagram: @laelstoneWebsite: laelstone.com.auPurchase Lael's new book, Own Your StoryHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

When you have an anxious attachment style, it can be hard to know what you actually need to feel secure — especially if past relationships have left you second-guessing yourself or trying to manage your anxiety by suppressing your needs.In this episode, we’re exploring five key ingredients that help anxiously attached people thrive in relationships. These aren’t about seeking constant reassurance or outsourcing your self-worth — they’re about being in relational environments that support security, growth, and genuine connection.What we cover in this episode:How consistency supports nervous system regulation and builds trust over timeThe importance of emotional validation in helping you feel understood and connectedWhy clear and reliable communication matters more than constant contactThe role of safe conflict in creating long-term security and repairHow having a shared vision helps settle the fear of uncertainty and misalignmentWhether you’re currently dating or in a relationship, this episode will help you get clearer on what’s supportive for you — and how to recognise when your needs are being met versus when you’re stuck in a cycle of over-functioning or hoping for crumbs.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today’s episode, we’re exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled as cold, distant, or commitment-phobic. But when we look beneath those surface-level behaviours, what we often find is a deep need for space, safety, and self-reliance.We’ll cover:Why space needs to be respected, not punishedThe importance of having a partner who can self-regulate rather than emotionally offloadHow clear, direct, and honest communication builds safetyThe value of each partner having a full, meaningful life outside the relationshipWhy pacing matters — and how moving too fast can trigger shutdownBalancing lightness and heaviness Whether you’re avoidant yourself or in a relationship with someone who is, this episode will help you better understand the conditions that allow these relationships to thrive.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Explore the intricate dance between the fear of abandonment and self-abandonment in relationships. Discover how anxious attachment can lead to neglecting your own needs while striving for connection. Delve into the costs of disconnecting from your truth and the vital importance of cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself. Uncover why recognizing these patterns is the first step towards healing and developing more authentic connections.

Discover the surprising truth about nervous system health—not just relaxation, but also deliberate stress exposure. Learn how to build resilience and capacity by balancing activation with recovery. Explore the necessity of nourishing yourself through rest and co-regulation, and reflect on your current support strategies. This insightful conversation offers a compassionate reframe on emotional well-being, perfect for anyone feeling burnt out or curious about nervous system care.

Feeling sidelined in relationships? This discussion dives into the challenges faced by those with anxious attachment, highlighting the emotional toll of feeling unchosen. It unpacks how these dynamics often play out, especially in anxious-avoidant partnerships. Listeners will learn about the roots of these feelings and practical strategies to reclaim personal power. Discover ways to foster healthier interactions and enhance self-worth, whether you're navigating current relationships or reflecting on past experiences.

Discover the hidden treasures of anxious attachment! This discussion reveals how traits like emotional attunement and loyalty can transform struggles into strengths. Learn to navigate the intricacies of relationships by embracing your unique qualities. Gain insights on shifting from a fear-based mentality to secure self-expression, and uncover how to acknowledge the beauty within yourself. It's a journey of recognition and empowerment for those seeking healthier connections.

Dive into the nuanced world of communication in relationships, exploring the vital distinctions between boundaries, requests, and ultimatums. Discover why understanding the energy behind your words can lead to healthier interactions. Learn about the common pitfalls of over-explaining and the importance of aligned action. Gain insights into self-worth and independence, especially for those with anxious attachment styles. This discussion promises to enhance your self-compassion and empower your relationship dynamics.

This discussion dives into the struggle many face in accessing pleasure and rest amidst a culture fixated on productivity. It uncovers how chronic stress can make joy feel unsafe or unearned. The episode highlights the impact of our nervous systems on experiencing happiness and how burnout intertwines with self-worth. Listeners are encouraged to reclaim their right to self-care and explore small, mindful changes for a more fulfilling life. It's a warm reminder to embrace pleasure and ease in the hustle.

Struggling with anxiety? Discover how to break the cycle of overanalysis and catastrophizing. Learn what happens in your body and mind during an anxious spiral and why it’s linked to anxious attachment. Get practical tools for calming your nervous system and regaining perspective. Uncover the importance of self-worth in stopping spirals before they take hold. This discussion offers both immediate strategies and long-term resilience techniques, aiming to leave you feeling grounded and empowered in the face of anxiety.