On Attachment

#208: Anxious Attachment & the Fear of Infidelity

Sep 30, 2025
Explore the intense fear of infidelity experienced by those with anxious attachment. Discover how past betrayals and core wounds contribute to anxiety, leading to hypervigilance and destructive behaviors. Learn about the impact of anxious-avoidant dynamics that escalate these fears. Understand why control doesn’t foster trust and how to build self-worth to mitigate anxiety. Gain practical tools to create a more secure and trusting relationship.
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INSIGHT

Why Cheating Fears Are Intensified

  • Anxious attachment magnifies fear of infidelity because core wounds include abandonment, unworthiness, and hypervigilance.
  • That fear drives behaviors like snooping and reassurance-seeking which can increase relationship insecurity.
ANECDOTE

Host's Personal Shift From Fear

  • Stephanie Rigg shares that she used to struggle intensely with fear of cheating but no longer carries that fear.
  • She offers this as evidence that change and healing are possible.
ADVICE

Use Structured Tools To Build Security

  • Use resources that teach nervous system regulation, core belief work, and secure relationship skills to reduce cheating anxiety.
  • Check out free starter kits or trainings to learn practical tools for becoming more secure.
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